Son of half an hour solves a simple puzzle? The daughter dresses for a long time and falls asleep over a plate with porridge? Do not get mad! The slowness of children can be due to various reasons. And if it's not a disease that slows down the pace of activity, then most likely, it's next ... In your family, a crisis happened: divorce, moving, conflicts between relatives - this could affect the baby. Then, with his anxiety, he tries to cope with a slowdown in activity. It is not so dangerous when everything is normalized, the child will become more active. You are too busy, and the little one is left to himself. In this case it is quite possible that the son or daughter is slow to attract your attention, that is, they are trying to prolong the period of communication. Thus, a sluggish and inattentive child of 8 years is a protest against a lack of emotional warmth. And you can help here only by making an effort: constantly showing the child that he is loved.
The child is very strictly educated, and he has learned to manage the adults - to slow down the process of fulfilling the duties assigned to him. If the daughter hates the violin, and you try to make her play, it's clear why she'll be looking for notes for half an hour. At the same time on the street will meet in five minutes. The council here is one - review the methods of education.
If the above does not fit, then your child is phlegmatic. He is characterized by: low activity, inexpressive facial expressions and sluggish speech. Fight here is useless, temperament - an unchanging trait, like the color of the eyes and the shape of the nose.
NOT SUCH AS ALL.
The phlegmatic child can not endure haste, although with a general slowness differs rationality. Whatever he does, he chooses proven methods and does everything very meticulously, steadily coping with difficulties. Trying to distract him from the business started is difficult. He does not change his decisions. If they have to defend, then he does it with enviable obstinacy. Hardly gets used to everything new, but he is mentally resistant to any external stimuli. It is simply impossible to get such a child out of himself. Such children are extremely restrained in the manifestation of feelings, but they are more constant and profound. They hardly find friends, but in friendship they show devotion and constancy. These children are absolutely non-conflicting and non-aggressive, prefer to avoid conflicts and not once risk. Most of all, life is afraid of significant changes and a departure from the usual rhythm of life. For example, phlegmatic children of 8 years are much more difficult than peers, get used to kindergarten and school.
YOU CAN DO IT.
The main thing - do not rush your child. To be angry and to adjust such a slow and inattentive child of 8 years means to slow it down even more. Also, do not make the mistake of many parents trying to do everything for a phlegmatic child to get it done faster. You do not want him to grow up dependent? It is better to follow simple advice. Write down the crumbs in the sports section, where there are speed competitions.
Phlegmatic children are not very emotional, so teach your child to be responsive and sensitive, offer to help others. When the child does the lessons, for hours looking at one task, try to agree with him: "I take you to my homework only an hour and put a timer!" If the child still met in time, be sure to praise him.
On a personal example.
My 8-year-old daughter is very slow: we go to school, which is 5 minutes long, we stamp no less than 15. She always finds something to distract: she sees a cat, it just turns around. At first I was angry, but then I thought of this. On the first day we walked the usual 15 minutes, the next, with the effort, ran for 7, but on the third day they left early and walked for half an hour. So I showed Anyuta that the same thing can be done in different ways. And we agreed: we'll run to school quickly, but we'll go to Grandma not hurrying to take a walk for one.
Елена, 31 years, Ryazan