In search of novelty, deep and sincere feelings, modern newlyweds are increasingly turning to traditional wedding ceremonies. This is a much more exciting event, many newlyweds admit that their marriage was greatly helped by the wedding ceremony, which gave their senses depth and spirituality, they re-examined such concepts as loyalty and respectful attitude towards each other. If you are thinking about the wedding, do not take hasty decisions: for the sacrament needs preparation.
First, you need to choose a date from the wedding calendar, and secondly, to familiarize yourself with the basic rules of the wedding in the church and, finally, to pick out the outfit. The basic rules of the wedding in the church are simple. The procedure for the wedding is not held during the fasting: neither one-day nor many-day. According to the Orthodox tradition, the groom should be more than 18 years old, and the bride - 16 years. There are other restrictions - the church does not approve of multiple marriages and the wedding ceremony for the fourth marriage and is no longer possible. Obstacles to marriage, in addition, are the blood relationship between the bride and groom or the presence of one of them mental disorders. The wedding ceremony is not held for unbaptized, for people of other faiths or for convinced atheists who perceive it as a fashionable trend. A parental blessing is desirable for the church wedding, but its absence does not prevent the ceremony if the newlyweds have reached adulthood. Pregnancy is also not an obstacle.
If young people meet these requirements, they will need to choose a church two to three weeks before the rite and visit it to get acquainted with the rules and the course of the sacrament. Usually, the wedding ceremony is conducted by her priest, but in some cases the newlyweds are allowed to conduct a ritual with their spiritual father. If you plan to take photos and videos, you need to negotiate with the priest in advance. In addition, you can additionally order a bell ringing and a church choir, although in some churches they are already included in the ritual.
In most churches, the wedding is held by appointment, and therefore, selecting the time and date in the calendar, be sure to verify it from the priest of the temple. The wedding is held only after the registration of marriage in the registry office, with you will need to take a marriage certificate. The bride and groom during the ceremony should be with crosses, since only baptized can be married. It is desirable that the bride was wearing a headdress, with a minimum of make-up and did not use perfume with a pungent odor. Too long and magnificent veil can catch fire from candles. The bride at the ceremony will hold a candle in her hand and give her her bouquet better in advance.
If the bride is wearing an open wedding dress, then a cloak is needed to cover her arms, chest and back. The ritual takes about 40 minutes, but it can also drag out, so it is recommended to wear comfortable shoes with low heels. Since we're talking about the bride, we'll stop right away at an important moment - a wedding dress. The wedding dress differs from the wedding with a mandatory train. Such a dress is an attribute not only of the Orthodox, but also of the Catholic ritual. When the ceremony is over, the train can be unfastened or pinched.
But to save on its length does not follow, there is a belief that the longer it is, the longer the spouses will live together. In addition, the wedding dress should not be too lush and luxurious, by tradition it symbolizes the meekness and modesty of the bride. Usually it's just white. As stated above, the dress should either cover the hands, chest and back of the bride, or have a cloak. A wedding dress is not necessarily a wedding dress, it can be a simple modest outfit of light tones. Nevertheless, most brides prefer to get married in wedding dresses. In this case, you should avoid short and too tight-fitting styles and be sure to use a veil. And now back to the procedure of the wedding in the church. Wedding rings should be given to the priest before it begins, in the hands of the bride and groom must be pre-consecrated wedding icons.
During the ritual, it will take a long time to keep the crowns over the heads of the bride and groom, it is the duty of the best men. It is desirable that the best men are tall, because it is not easy to hold the crowns for a long time. There are other nuances: the presence of women in trousers is undesirable, and if those are among the guests, it is better to give them a place somewhere in the middle. Not everyone present refers to the wedding as a sacrament, for some it is a tedious and boring procedure.
Such guests are better placed in the back rows. The presence of all guests in the rite is not necessary, therefore the composition of participants can be adjusted in advance. The wedding ceremony requires strict observance of church traditions and rules. Initially, the priest gives the bride and groom burning candles, then - puts on wedding rings: first on the groom's finger, then on the finger of the bride - and then changes them three times. The groom is chosen gold, and the bride - a silver ring. As a result of changing rings, the gold ring remains with the bride, and the silver ring with the groom.
After the betrothal, the newlyweds go to the center of the temple and the priest asks if they marry in good faith and whether there are obstacles to this. The answers are followed by prayer and wreaths are placed on the heads of newlyweds. Then a bowl of wine is brought out, symbolizing joy and adversity, which is served to the bride in three receptions. After this, the priest holds the bridegroom and bride three times with connected hands for church singing around the analo. In the end, they rise at the King's gates of the altar and listen to the edification of the priest. After this, the rite is considered complete and young people receive congratulations from friends and relatives.