The problem of relations between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, probably, appeared when in ancient times young people first decided to marry. Since then, for years and centuries, daughters-in-law have been complaining about the behavior of their mother-in-law and the desire to get into someone else's family. But if at least the husband with understanding treats his wife and takes her side, then this problem is easier to fight. But how to act in the case when the husband is on the side of his mother-in-law?
First, to solve this problem, you need to understand what causes this behavior of the mother of a loved one. Of course, each family has its own laws and statutes, so it is difficult to adapt to someone else's way of life. Perhaps, in some cases, you need to look at yourself. It happens that the daughter-in-law never hears the advice and opinions of her mother-in-law, even when she is right. So try to calm your pride and soberly assess the situation. Perhaps you just need to make concessions, so that the husband and mother-in-law were happy, and in your family the conflicts did not constantly erupt.
Mom is always right
But if you understand that the husband and mother-in-law are really wrong, then you need to start fighting for your rights in the family. Otherwise your loved one will always remain on the side of the mother, and you will have to obey or leave. In order to understand how best to act, you need to determine why the husband is always on the side of his mother. Most often, this happens when a young person grows up in an incomplete family or in a family where everyone has always been led by the mother, and the father has remained in second roles. In this case, consciously, and most likely subconsciously your husband believes that your mother is always and in all things right. After all, it was she who raised him, helped in everything, cared. In such a situation, you should never fight with your mother-in-law openly. In general, do not need to talk about bad things about her husband, insult her, be rude to her. Remember that this is, first of all, his mother. And the mother is the most expensive person, and if someone insults his mother, even his own wife, a person begins to protect her, subconsciously seeing in the abuser the mother of the enemy. Therefore, even when anger begins to beat over the edge - restrain yourself. Otherwise you just look like a hysterical person. Try to talk quietly with your husband and convince him that you respect your mother-in-law, respect her wisdom and experience, however, you also have your own character, views and understanding of various situations. So just ask him to adequately assess each situation, not guided by the opinion "this was said by my mother," "this is what the wife said," and representing both sides as outsiders who simply express their thoughts and give arguments. Whose arguments are more correct and logical - that's right. As for the mother-in-law, in this case, such conversations are unlikely to give any result. The fact is that such women are used to treating their son as a small child who can only be helped by his mother. Stay with your mother-in-law calmly, do not argue, and if there is an opportunity - just do it your way. If the husband sees that your decisions are more correct and logical, gradually he will be on your side.
Sissy
There are men who are called "mama's sons". Such young people are accustomed to always hide behind the mother's skirt from all the stresses and problems. In this case, it's very difficult to change a husband. The fact is that he does not want to take your side, because in this way, as if refusing to guard mother. So now he will have to answer for himself. In this case, the only thing that can help is to show your husband that you are ready to replace his mother and take on all his problems. However, think for yourself whether you need a child instead of a man who will be up to old age, and you will have to do everything for him, and then listen to reproaches. Therefore, if you see that a man always and for any reason runs to his mother, it is better to think about it, even before marriage, whether you can tolerate such a thing.
In general, it is not possible to find a common language with the mother-in-law to every daughter-in-law. But women who are able to observe cold neutrality, definitely live better than those who are waging an endless war with their mother-in-law.