Say what you want, and sex takes a huge place in a woman's life. Oh, how many relationships collapsed as soon as they moved from vertical to horizontal plane! One girl was in love with her new fan for two weeks, but as soon as they made love, like ... "It's such a nightmare," she said, "when we went to bed, he completely forgot about me." Midnight felt like an oil well, do not they at his age know what prelude is ?! " Yeah, not always great interlocutors turn out to be good lovers ...
Sexual egoist
Close-up. Egoist, he is an egoist in Africa. And in bed, too. I mean, a person who thinks only of himself and of his own pleasure. Such a copy will not spend the night studying books on sex in the hope of extracting information from there that will help him pick up the key to your precious orgasm. His own pleasure is the main thing!
And you will have time to get something you, the tenth thing. The egoist absolutely piously believes that you get a discharge automatically at the very moment when he touches your lips with a kiss.
The most unpleasant for an ideal woman in search of the ideal man is that if she is displeased, trying to reach his heart and mind, to explain that this is not quite what she would like to receive in bed, the answer is either surprise ("And what, you did not have an orgasm ?! ") or aggression (" I guess you're just unwell, with other women I've always been great! "). In general, the option - the lover, as a rule, is suitable for women with a low sexual constitution, indifferent to sex.
Sex forecast. Do you need such a Narcissus, decide for yourself.
In an ideal of such personalities, of course, it is better to stay away, but the problem is that some of them are well disguised, especially at first. In addition, most women amuse themselves with the hope that they will necessarily be able to re-educate the "bad boy." At once we will tell: this fascinating process can be tightened for a long time. Not to mention the fact that the success of this boring and laborious business is very doubtful, and the result, as a rule, is short-lived.
Do you want to try anyway? I'll have to bring to your elect the thought that if he does not take care of your pleasure, you will not go on about his whims. Yes, such a variant of "barter" is not to everyone's liking, but in the war all means are good. Why do you need this partner, then have to look for a way to change his attitude to sex.
The main thing - never imitate an orgasm - this is the way to nowhere. In this case, you have to come to terms with eternal dissatisfaction, which is fraught with many gynecological sores.
Sissy
Or else: "Let's play?" Close-up. Firstly, he probably liked you - polite, gallant, romantic, accurate, attentive ... Kissed his hand, gave flowers, held the door - the perfect gentleman (mother's upbringing, but then you did not know about it yet). Only ... slightly infantile and indecisive, you'll think, it even gives him some charm, you thought! But the problem is that, having become accustomed to the role of the child, the mama's son is ready to play it for the rest of her life.
It suits only that ideal woman in search of the ideal man, who likes to command herself, and always takes an active position in sex. But if you get strong men who behave in bed like demanding and powerful conquerors, then intimate life with a sweet and romantic mama's son will eventually turn into torture. Why? Boring, fresh, monotonous, gentle, romantic, but ... does not touch. And when sex ceases to excite, it becomes a burden.
Sex forecast. Mama's son usually chooses women who remind him of his mother - often powerful and powerful women. And, again, if you for your part like to dominate in bed, then such relationships have every chance to become happy. However, in reality it often happens that the more you get used to the role of "parent", the less sex you have in your relationship. It can also happen that your "grown-up boy" suddenly rebels in time, tired of his own eternal passivity, and wants to feel macho, warming up in his arms a young inexperienced girl. Naturally, not you. Not to mention the option of developing relationships, when in time you can get bored with everything, and, being fed up with family sexual pleasures, you will start looking for adventure on your side.
What can be done to at least somehow hedge against unpleasant surprises? First of all, encourage the manifestations of self-dependence on the part of your man in every possible way. Not only in bed, it will be useful to do in life - social and family. Do not overdo with care and care, you are not his mother! And married married for an adult man, for whom they were going to be like a stone wall. The faster your boy grows up, the more chances that the relationship will not grow into chronically unpleasant.
Oh, what a macho, what a playboy!
Or else: "Hero-lover" Close-up. As a rule, active men with a high libido have a rabid temperament. They are from those to whom "everything is not enough." While you are dating, sex with such a man seems a real fairy tale: temperamental, inventive, passionate, tireless ... A dream, not a man! He wants you rampant several times a day, you just touched him playfully, and he is already ready. On the one hand, it is very flattering to a woman - you feel like such a fatal beauty that can ignite a frenzied passion at a glance. But, as it is, regrettable, often it's not about you at all, but about the fact that he is such - he just can and wants so much! And he will want tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow, and in a year, and during your pregnancy, and after the birth of a child ...
And if your temperaments are not very similar, over time, you can begin to feel uneasy by such a scenario, in every way evading the performance of marital duties. And what should the man do in this case? He can not remake himself! And now the motive for mutual discontent is ready. And there and before the betrayal by the men near.
Sex forecast. If a man-hurricane got to you as a hero of a holiday novel, just enjoy! You will surely remember this adventure for a long time. But, choosing a life partner, measure your and his capabilities. Yes, at the end of the honeymoon any relationship has a habit of dulling, but it is unlikely that they will change dramatically. And if at the beginning of the relationship you had sex several times a day, and you have enough time in 2-3 days, do not torture yourself or him. Yes, after a while everything will calm down and passions will fall, but then he will need a bed once a day, and you - once a week!
Good guy
Or else: "I condemn you!" Close-up. Here it is asked what is wrong with a good upbringing? Never mind! That's only the harder the inner limits of what a man can do, the more boring sex. Unfortunately, the echoes of Soviet ascetic education play a bad joke not only with girls, but also with representatives of the stronger sex. They were taught like this: emotions are not good, caress and kiss - it is ugly, to love - ashamed. And as a result, in bed with you it turns out such an insensible stump, stingy at the caresses and attention. Neither tender words, nor unexpected kisses, nor refined caresses. Everything should go according to plan - strictly within the bounds of decency. Any attempts to make a variety in the bed scenes on the part of a woman are perceived aggressively and cautiously. Say, but this is why?
Sex forecast. If the missionary posture is your favorite, and from the variety in bed you run like a plague, then a good guy is created just for you. In all other cases, the forecasts are not particularly comforting. Why? Yes, because even if your chosen one masterfully owns the technique of that pair of three acceptable poses, in time they will bore you. And want something so special! And not with anyone. Because it's all indecent, and therefore unacceptable.
Another sad companion of sex with such a man is the lack of active interest in your orgasm. Not out of selfishness that you are. It just seems to him that you do not need it. In addition, sometimes good guys are not very good lovers. In other words, they, perhaps, would like to give pleasure, but they do not know how. And do not particularly burn to learn. So it turns out that your attempts to diversify sex are perceived by him as nonsense, the desire to get "supernorms" - for example, cunnilingus - inadmissible behavior. Often such well-behaved but incorrectly educated men, having acquired a family and children, generally lose interest in sex, bringing its quantity to an anecdotal smallness. This is explained by the fact that, "they say, at our age, it's no longer foolishness." And then it remains to sympathize with both, because again there is a reason for discontent.
You go on a quest or stay with him, do you want a big change? Determined and irreversible? Or do you still have feelings for your partner? In case you are much more pleasant with him than to look for an alternative, and, we note, often, very doubtful, use the old good method, which can be described in only three points-steps:
1. Stop blaming the partner for all sins. In the end, you, too, are imperfect. In addition, he certainly has a lot of advantages. Here, focus on them, changing the aggressive attitude to constructive.
2. During sex, focus on your feelings in the field of the vagina - sexologists say that it helps to bring orgasm closer. And no thoughts about not ironing linen, scandal with his son and troubles at work - the partner at an unconscious level reads your state of mind. Become passionate and relaxed - such as you were during the honeymoon.
3. Turn the intimacy into a creative process. It is not necessary to buy half a sex shop (although this is also not bad), it is enough to vary sex with role-playing games. And you can agree with your beloved, that today you come up with something interesting, and tomorrow - he.
Tune in to a positive positive!
It is very important not to fall into passive despair. Thoughts that, here, what I am unhappy, is all-inclusive, everyone gets something worthwhile, but to me - this, life does not facilitate, moods do not raise. Here, and drive them away from you as soon as possible. Practically all ladies have a similar situation, because mama's son or playboy (and maybe both), a good guy or an egoist (with different severity of "disease"), is invariably present in each of our elected representatives. So what do you do if you have a non-ideal lover? Search for a new one or remake an old one? If you decide on the second, you will have to start ... with yourself. Remember the famous wisdom: you want to change the world - change yourself!