Often women live with their loved one and everything is good, but their union is called a civil marriage. Why do men pull with marriage? Why do not you dare go to the registry office and officially register your relationship? What are men afraid of? In this article, we will consider all possible causes of fear of official marriage.
Without obligations
A man who lives in a civil marriage, everything suits. He likes to be married and at the same time single. Does not have a stamp in the passport, then, in fact, is free. You can look at other girls. Even if he calls his beloved wife, he is still not associated with her any obligations. At any time, can slam the door, leave. He does not have to be burdened by such a procedure as a divorce.
It turns out that many men who are in an official marriage, the registry office, too, took their time. What is the reason? This can be explained by the fact that there will be no rights, but on the contrary, some obligations. While he is single, he can spend money as he likes, buy what he likes, do not make zanachek. He has a lot of free space.
Often in the candy-buketny period, a woman realizes that she wants to associate with this person their further life. A man needs years to come to this conclusion. And it's not a fact that he decides to marry. If he does not want to bind himself by marriage, then neither in a year, nor in two go to the registry office with him will never work.
Opinion of psychologists
The most common reasons for unwillingness to marry are:
- If the boy was a witness to the divorce of his parents, it could have affected his psychic. For life, he will have the conviction that a happy and long-lasting marriage is not possible. Why build relationships that will still be doomed to fail.
- Exactly the same feelings are experienced by the man who already had an unsuccessful marriage. No one wants to step on the same rake.
- Many men are afraid of qualitative changes in their beloved, after she becomes a legitimate wife. Therefore, many prefer to leave it as it is. The Temsam give the woman the opportunity to prove how good she was as a bachelor, mistress.
- Some representatives of the stronger sex believe that it is possible to officially register relations only when it is firmly and steadily standing on its feet. It is about material prosperity. Such responsible people prefer to solve their welfare problems alone, and not together to achieve success with their second half.
- Much depends on the society of a man, that is, his environment, with whom he communicates. Perhaps in his company some convinced bachelors, who took for themselves the decision not to enter into the bond of marriage ever. For them the meaning of life is a bustling and gay life. Meetings with friends, watching football, sitting in a bar, drinking beer and so on. And if someone backs from these rules, he will be lifted up to laugh, but he will be excommunicated from the community of his associates.
- And one more reason - a person is a rebel inside and does not want to be like everyone else, go the traditional way. Such a man will live with his beloved, have his children and educate them, earn, lead a common household, but never marry. If he ask the question "Why?", He will answer "Why?". He has all the unjustifiable reason that it is so good for us to live, for this a stamp is not required in the passport.
You can not give advice for all occasions. Every woman hopes the best. She believes in the depths of her soul that there is a prospect for the development of relations. And if it is not, it might be better to look around.