Absence of the daddy the child feels very strongly, simply not always he exposes all his feelings for show. The child often considers his father to abandon himself, and this complex can live with him for many years, then the problems of upbringing in an incomplete family abandoned by one of the parents of a baby begin. Material difficulties compel a woman to go to work with high wages, and hence high employment, which reduces her free time for raising a child. Often in such a situation, he has a feeling of loneliness and abandonment, including the mother.
The first time after the divorce, the father usually meets regularly with the child. It would seem that the problems of raising a child in an incomplete family should not be, because Dad is always there.
For him, this is another excitement, because if the pope treats him with love, then the division of the family will be even more incomprehensible and painful, besides, the resentment towards mother and distrust may awaken. In the event that the father will communicate dryly and at a distance, the child may have a complex of guilt from reluctance to communicate with such a parent. To all this, parents can revenge each other, and this very violates the child's psychological balance. He can try to derive unhealthy benefits from the disagreements of his parents, forcing them to pamper themselves from the feelings of guilt of both parents.
Relationships with friends among children can often deteriorate because of questions of different nature, gossip and lack of desire to answer questions about the father. The poor mood and feelings of the mother are also reflected in the child, in her new status it is much more difficult for her to continue raising her child at a high level.
What can be advised in such a situation to support the upbringing of a child in an incomplete family? First of all you need to calmly talk with him heart to heart on an equal footing, explain the whole situation, do it in a simple and accessible form, without blaming anyone. Telling that this happens, unfortunately, quite often, and that in your particular case it will actually be better this way. It is necessary to tell the child honestly that this is the final decision, thus saving it from unnecessary worries and hopes. All the more rare visits of his father will constantly revive the feeling of rejection, unfortunately, this is inevitable. The younger the child is during the break, the easier it is for the father to part with it. It is necessary to try to prepare the child mentally for the departure of the pope. You should avoid the child's constant dependence on you, you need to help him become independent and adult, but supporting him at the same time. The most common mistake in this situation is excessive care and control over the son.
Often one can meet the woman's words: "I sacrificed everything and lived only for you!" This is a dangerous mistake that many people allow, as a result of which it is possible to raise an absolutely unadapted, uninitiated, indecisive man for whom all important decisions have always been taken by the mother, the problems of upbringing were superimposed on her personal life that had not taken place.
It is necessary to advise parents who for some reason come to a divorce so that they think more about the further consequences of this decision for children. Disagreements between even former spouses can be decided more kindly and delicately if desired. It is not necessary to show hatred and dislike towards each other. It is naturally difficult for the father who left the family to continue raising the child. And if circumstances arise in which he can not positively influence his former family, then it will be more honest to make sure that she has forgotten him at all, but at the same time to help her children financially.
Family composition is a very important and significant factor. If the parents really sincerely love their children, they will try to resolve their differences on time and not to bring the matter to the extreme stage of a family break. Thus, they will not put children in the most difficult position and will jointly continue to educate at the proper level, showing an example of a full-fledged and united family. Now you know how to avoid the problems of raising a child in an incomplete family and to provide the baby with a full life.