In a percentage ratio, the number of children with various psychoneurological abnormalities has increased significantly. Specialists identify two main problems, in connection with which there is an increase in the number of difficult children.
The first reason - perinatal factors, they include adverse environmental conditions, bad habits and chronic diseases of mother during pregnancy, low socio-economic standard of living, strong emotional upheaval of the mother during the period of bearing the child, trauma during childbirth.
The second reason is upbringing, this reason can be conditionally divided into two more. Lack of proper attention in the process of education in well-to-do families, where the parents devote themselves entirely to careers, and the child develops without their practical participation. And the second option, when the child is in a dysfunctional family, where parents lead a not decent way of life and also do not educate their child.
Regardless of the reasons why a small person becomes difficult, it is characterized by common features. These children differ from their peers in behavior and development, as a rule, they are aggressive, hyperactive, closed and anxious. They very often come into conflict with teachers, parents, educators and peers. Due to their fault, there are failures in the scientific and educational activities of children's groups, whether it's a school or a kindergarten. As a result, the mood of the teacher, and then of the parents, deteriorates, the effect of "snowball" turns out, when the negative with each new round of events becomes more and more aggravated.
The role of parents in the education of difficult children is great, if not to say that the main thing. So let's figure out what it takes to know the parents of difficult children. Very often children with the rudiments of a "difficult" child, with the right approach to education and with the help of a number of specialists (psychoneurologist, child psychologist, educators, educators) become normal and full-fledged members of society, and certain features of the organization of their nervous system are skillfully directed and are useful in modern , a rapidly developing world. The most important thing in the formation of the personality of a "difficult" child is a warm, understanding relationship in the family, between the child and the parent, between both parents. In cases where there is no such contact, the family is on the verge of divorce or divorce, this does not affect the state of the child. The child becomes even more uncontrollable and is not adequate, which affects his behavior and relationships in the collectives.
So, what else do you need to know the parents of difficult children? Very often parents try to squeeze all the features of their child on the shoulders of neurologists, but this illness, like all other human diseases, is treated in a complex and taking medications prescribed by the doctor is just a small part of what the child needs to be properly developed. Now there is a need to create this complex approach, which will include, as parents themselves, doctors and teachers, combined with their knowledge and skills will help a small person become a full-fledged member of society, able to receive a quality education and create Its the same quality cell of society as the family.
First of all, parents should establish interpersonal contacts with their children, talk more with them, ask questions about their worries and interests, express their views on this, give examples from their childhood, letting them know that what he is with collide, occurs with everyone and many overcome these problems. In addition, parents need to adhere to one point of view and policy in the upbringing of the child, toga will save the whole family from unnecessary conflicts that lead to tension in the relationship. Very often children do not know how to get rid of negative emotions that overfill them, in this same they can be helped not only by teachers, but also by parents, using techniques of expression through art (drawing, modeling, etc.). In the opinion of psychologists, in very correct form it is necessary to limit the time for the child to go behind a TV and a computer, it's not a secret that these two "friends" seriously overload the very unstable psyche of children. Therefore, instead of the adult to do his own business, and the child to send for a computer, thereby getting rid of his presence, it is better to find a common cause, for these purposes, a variety of long-forgotten traditions (these can be joint trips to shops, movies, in the park, cleaning the house). If possible, parents should actively take part in the collective life of the class or group of their child, then they will be able to understand what their child is interested in and who lives, see the problems of his communication with the teacher and classmates and take the necessary measures to eliminate them. Parents should be consistent in their actions and actions, as they are an example for imitation.
An adult who wants to sincerely help a "difficult" child should always be ready to help and listen to him, respect and trust him, give all his love and affection. But he also must be demanding and not diligent in establishing order and rules.