The role of the father in the upbringing of children, counseling for parents

The theme of this article is the role of the father in the upbringing of children, advice for parents. Contact father-infant and mother-infant are very different from each other. Mothers often resort to help in communicating with the baby; fathers like to use their body parts: hands - like a crossbeam, knees - like a "typewriter". This difference remains during the entire early childhood. Fathers should always give more freedom to the child's personality, more often let him out of sight and give more creeps and frolics, to explore the world around him. Studies show that children whose fathers take an active part in the formation of the child's personality experience less sadness and indignation at separation from loved ones, and are less nervous when a new person appears. And this is only the beginning of the beneficial effect that the father, who participates in the upbringing of the child, has on the whole life of the child. According to the research data, such children have less frequent outbreaks of unmotivated rage, higher level of mental development, they are better included in social interaction with other people, are psychologically more stable. Kids learn about the world through direct physical contact with their parents. Therefore, it is very important for him to feel closeness with his father, another person, except for the mother, to whom he is not indifferent, who also loves him. Dad can seem to him quite a stranger when he begins to perceive with his eyes and ears, without knowing him earlier through the touch of his hands and the sensations of his breathing. In fact, this is a very important part in the upbringing of the child, try not to miss it at the initial stage.

The attention and love of the father is required by the child, regardless of gender. It is very good, if the father has a lot of free time, which he can give to his son or daughter. But, in most cases, after coming home after work, the dad wants to watch TV or read a book. Although, if we were aware of the need for our attention to children. But do not play with the child without a hunt. It will be better to give crumbs about 10-15 minutes, and then explain that the father is tired and wants to rest. Often fathers tend to grow a real champion from their child, which is called in all respects, because of this it becomes very difficult for them to just have fun with each other. Dad can start at an early age to teach him to play basketball or football. If the father always points to the child for his minuses, he begins to feel that he is not able to perceive and learn. One day a boy will love sports if he has self-confidence and a desire to engage in football. The praise of the father is more important to him than the endless bows and directions. Playing football is a great activity, if it is an initiative of a boy, reinforced by the support of his father. The boy does not become a real man just because he was born with a male body. He realizes himself as a man and behaves like a man, due to the possibility of inheriting his father or elder brother or a more adult boy with whom he communicates and spends his time. He can imitate a person to whom he feels sympathy. When the father is constantly irritated and does not want to understand the actions of his son, maybe the boy will feel uncomfortable with his father's company, and among other men and boys. Such a boy will be easier to take an example and inherit his mother. That is, if the father wants his son to become a man, he should be easier to treat the child and not scold him for playing games with girls or when he cries, and try to understand the crumb and intelligibly explain to his son what to do in order to achieve success in sports and in everything else. Dad should spend time with a positive attitude with his son, in order that he realized that he is a friend and companion. Father and son should have time for joint walks and trips to interesting places. And of course you can not do without your masculine secrets and those that are discussed only by men.

The boy is an example for imitation - the father, however many do not realize that for the girl the father plays another, no less important role in her upbringing. The girl does not take an example from her father, but his location strengthens her self-confidence. The pope should admire the beautiful hairdress or fashionable dress of the girl, or anything that the clever girl will do on her own. When a girl grows up, the daddy should show that he listens to her and, if possible, discuss their business with her. And when the daughter is growing up, her boyfriends will start to appear, at this moment it is very important that the dad treat them well, well, or at least tolerably if, in his opinion, the guy is not quite suitable for the girl. When a girl recognizes in the father those qualities that make him a real man, she will be ready for a big world, which is half male. Choosing a daughter in the future when she becomes a girl, her current marital life and the chosen one in many respects depends on what kind of relationship lined up with her father during the formation of her personality.

Most often fathers give preference to stormy games with children, by the way, which come to the children's liking. But children are often overexcited from such games, why they begin to have nightmares. It is necessary to know clearly that at the age of 2 to 4 years, children tend to lose control over feelings such as fear, hatred and love. Little children do not feel the difference between reality and fiction. If the father plays a lion, then the child at that moment actually thinks of him as a lion. This can have a very negative effect on the child. Therefore, violent games should be kind and short-lived, even if the child likes and he asks for more. It is very important that the stormy games are not chases and fights, but simply gymnastics. If the child is very nervous, stop immediately. Still need to say a few words about ridicule. You should never mock your child. Sometimes, angry with his son, the father replaces his indignation with a mockery. The child remains humiliated. In our consultation for parents, we would like to note that ridicule is too powerful a punishment for children at any age.

In general terms, we talked about the role of the father in the upbringing of children, the consultation for the parents, we hope, was not in vain.