Son grows aggressor
My 1,5-year-old son is constantly fighting in the playground, taking something from the children, pushing them, maybe even hitting. I constantly make comments to him, but he does not stop. But in the family we have quiet, kind relations. Where is it from? And what should I do?
For a child under 2 years, the whole world consists only of his desires! He sincerely does not understand that other people also have their desires, needs, that they also feel something. Therefore, the kid can treat people with the same way as with a toy bear-push, throw. He does not understand why you do not scold him for a bear, but punish Dima, whom he pushed. You are right, we must make observations to the child, explain how to behave. And to separate the little fighters on the court is also necessary. But waiting for immediate results is not worth it: everything has its time. Over time, the child will understand that you can not beat others.
When a child tells a dream
My son is 4 years old. Recently he began to say that he dreams of terrible dreams, began to be afraid of the dark. I do not know how to act, do I leave the nightlight on all night? Or to force his son to overcome his fear of darkness?
Children's fears occur quite often, and it is a pity that parents do not always attach importance to them. Fears do not come from nowhere: perhaps something was disturbing, frightening, exhausting, surprised the child, and he incorrectly deciphered this event, gave it an unusual, fantasy character? It can be like life troubles - parental quarrels, scandals, bereavement and losses, and quite ordinary events and phenomena common in the adult's mind - a trip to rest, to a dacha, a movie that the child saw. Remember, could not the son hear you and your husband having sex? This, too, could affect the child's fears. Ask your son what's bothering him. This will allow you to find out where the fears come from and help your son get rid of them. Work out the ritual of going to sleep, turn on the night light, tell the kid a fairy tale for the night, hug him, let him quietly fall asleep next to you. Over time, he will outgrow his childhood fears.
The cat will have to be put to sleep ...
We have a cat for a long time, and the daughter remembers it from birth. The pet is already old, very sick, the veterinarian advised him to put him to sleep. But how to tell your daughter about this? Maybe it's better to say that the cat ran away?
It is better to tell the whole truth about the disease and the sleep of the cat. By the way, children often do not consider death as terrible as we, adults. This news, of course, can cause tears, hysteria, isolation or the absence of an external reaction. But the main thing is that you support your daughter at the hour of loss. It is important that she openly grieved over the cat, cried with you. After all, for the experience of grief, loss is important not to close up, not to go into oneself.
That's such a mess!
A daughter, 11 years old, began to scatter everything around the room - clothes, candy wrappers from sweets. She used to not behave like that! How to be?
This behavior is typical for teenagers - this is one of the forms of protest, disobedience. Remind your daughter that she does not live alone in the apartment, but the whole family, and at least, therefore, one must keep clean. Set, on what days for cleaning in the apartment will be the daughter's answer, and when - you. And state what measures you will take if the agreement is broken by the daughter. But you yourself will have to keep clean! Having divided the "territory", the daughter will gain that independence, which teenagers so dream.
Why is she holding onto her mother's skirt?
My 4-year-old daughter does not let me go a step. I'm not going to developing classes without me, crying, saying that I'm afraid, and teachers are against my presence in the group. What to do?
How often does the girl contact other people besides you? Probably not. Maybe that's why she is lost in the children's team, she is looking for your support. Besides, try to understand yourself, are you ready to let the child go? Does your child demonstrate your own fears? Children love us so much that they try to express our emotions. And do you trust the teacher who has a daughter? If so, listen to the teacher's advice: sit under the door and come to the first call.
Visiting grandmother and grandfather
My parents live outside the city and often take grandchildren on weekends and holidays to themselves. I do not mind, but after returning from my grandparents, two of my boys of three and eight years become uncontrollable: whims, hysterics, resentment towards me. What to do?
Perhaps the children are so much going through a change of place: first separation from you, then separation from grandparents. Apparently, this is a great stress for them, although they do not realize this. The situation is probably aggravated by the fact that their two, and the tension they can transmit to each other. What is the solution? Go to the old people with your children. Or let the parents come to visit you. With the eldest son you can already try to talk heart to heart: what does he feel when he is going to leave, how he spends time there, does he miss you? What makes him take offense at you? So you will show him that there are other ways to relieve tension, which inevitably arises from parting.
Protect your son from ... a teacher!
My son was disliked by a teacher. I believe that she specifically underestimates his assessments, finds fault with his behavior. Go to her to understand? Or immediately complain to the head teacher or the director?
Your holy duty in these councils for the upbringing of young children is to uphold the interests of the child. Of course, we must go to school. True, the school's management may not be aware of the situation at all, and it will take a long time before it sorts out. And then, most likely, at first from the corporate solidarity the leadership will take the side of the teacher. So it is better to first talk with the teacher about what exactly she is unhappy with: behavior, knowledge? Let him give concrete examples of bad behavior and say what a successful student should know today. This way you will show her that the situation worries you, that you are not going to let her go by herself, and that you are ready for joint actions by the teacher-parent to help the child achieve good results. Let the teacher recommend the literature, will set the time for the retake of the work. But if you do not feel the desire of the teacher to cooperate with you, then contact the school administration and try to solve the problem at this level.
I'm not going to the kindergarten!
My daughter went to the kindergarten. Since then she has not been recognized: she is capricious, restlessly asleep, often crying. He says "I do not want to go into the garden!" What to do?
The signs you listed in the councils for the upbringing of young children are characteristic of the child's behavior in a state of stress. Try to change the group, the kindergarten, do not drive your daughter there for a while. In the garden there must be a psychologist who helps to adapt to beginners. Tune in that over time the child will get used to the garden, find friends there.