The main principle of child upbringing can be characterized by the proverb - "praise with all, punish alone." If the punishment of the child and so everything is clear (punishment is not a method of education), then about the expression of praise young parents doubt. As they say, they are afraid to praise. So should you praise your child? No doubt, it is necessary. It is an expression of love for the baby. But it also happens that praise is harmful.
Correcting the behavior of a child with praise is very easy and convenient. When we ignore small flaws and praise for all the efforts of the kid, we show that we do not doubt his success. This teaches us not to be afraid of mistakes and to move steadily towards the goal. Competent encouragement of children can do wonders: motivate them to the right actions, increase their self-confidence. What else is the use of praise?
If you intend to encourage the child, then very soon you will learn to see the achievements of your baby in everything. When evaluating an action, do not focus on the result, because it may not be very successful. Pay attention to those good intentions with which the child took up the case. And even if the case is spoiled, you can still find positive situations in the situation.
Words of approval, praise of the parents approve the child of the correctness of his behavior. So comes the understanding of what is "good" and "bad." Kind words increase a child's self-esteem. A very important sense of one's own importance is born in the child's mind. A kid who is not praised for all is more inclined to doubt his powers and often has a fear of failure.
Praise shapes the motivation of the child. If the parents say: "Keep it up!" - then the kid understands that everything is doing right, that he is on the right track. Sometimes a child is very important support and assurances that this business is up to him. The approval helps to dispel doubts and all efforts to direct on achievement of result. After kind words, any advice from the elders is much more positive.
However, do not ever praise either with or without a child without merit. Praise only for work, for effort, for good intent, and not for the presence of abilities or external data. A small man, who is praised simply for that, quickly gets used to it and loses the need to try. And one day, not having received approval from others or hearing that it got to another, the child will conceal an insult. The feeling of injustice and lack of attention can form such qualities as petty resentment and jealousy of someone else's success.
Also, do not compare your baby with others: "I'm sure you can do as well as Vasya, if you try!" How often we ourselves heard in childhood that some aunt's child is smarter or better! Our parents thought that in this way they would force us to follow the "leaders". But let's admit that such comparisons do not help much. It is doubly harmful to set a child as an example for someone who gives much easily. This comparison devalues all efforts and reduces the child's desire to act. In addition, such an opposition often leads to unhealthy competition.
It is also harmful to praise a child too often, deliberately emotionally for those things that a child already has to do because of age. Tucked the bed? Sam undressed? Children begin to view the performance of their usual duties as a special event, get used to doing all the show. Encouragement should not be noted for occasional success, but for achievement that required considerable effort. And finally remember, praise for all, punished alone. Correct praise always concerns not the person as a whole, but the concrete action.