Although, honestly on the heart, I want to say that for some shortcomings, we close our eyes: since in everyone you can find something that you can find fault with. The worst for our nervous system and for our self-esteem in general is to discover under the mask of the "ideal" a pacifier. Therefore, the girls have many questions, how to distinguish a man from his "forgery? How to see it as a pacifier? And what to do with the unit of the stronger sex, which turned out to be zero? This is what our article is about.
The owner of the air castle
The main difference between a dummy male is an irresistible desire to appear and look better (smarter, attractive, interesting, richer, etc.) than there is in reality. Such a person, like a small child, likes to boast of successes, even modest or completely contrived. In the case of draining the source of fantasy, he builds around himself a wall of mystery. It is in such nondescript women that they can come up with latent demands: victory on the love front, and his career, and a white horse with a lock.
Of course, such people can complement the image of a dummy-man with a captious choice of entourage, clothes, which together will undoubtedly underline his very dubious merits. Because he boasts of things that he does not really have: his own car, real estate or passport, you can easily figure it out. Do you want to know exactly what it's made of? By accident, visit him at work! You, of course, will see there "pacifier", which trite pants, in their spare time such people often "hang" in the social. networks, so they do not cause much trust in their superiors and do not look in the best light. In the office he occupies the middle level, there is nothing extraordinary in his work, however such people believe that his work is interesting and important. In general, it should be acknowledged that the "dummy" by definition is devoid of intelligence and intelligence.
A separate issue deserves the question of money. For obvious reasons, they do not have it, therefore, it will not be surprising that if at the initial stages of dating you will walk through the winter park, ride the attractions, enjoy fresh frosty air, romantic views, endless simple chatter. First-class restaurants and even flowers from it can not wait. Often the limit is one rose, a couple of movie tickets and a popcorn.
In addition, it is possible to recognize a male dummy by such a note as dreaminess - he constantly builds locks from disembodied space. He constantly plans his business and in dreams, after 6 months will become a millionaire. He will easily name a dozen countries and resorts, where you will necessarily go with him. And when, a year later, when you get interested in him, when you go for tickets, the "dummy" will give you a million reasons, people and events that prevented the execution of his super-profitable plans.
The last sign of the "dummy" can be called his attitude to you, and to women's principle. Certainly, his lips sing trills about boundless love, beauty, but there is nothing behind these words! He promises you stars from the sky, diamonds, all the blessings of the world, guarantees help in the house and reliable support, no doubt swears fidelity. But when it's time to act, it acts as a straw, for which you can not last long in an emergency or a domestic situation. Each of his actions will prove that any problem will fall on your fragile shoulders. As a result, think carefully before you take life with such a male representative. In the future, when you have children, a mortgage, a joint business, will you be able to raise such an unbearable burden alone?
The list of "crash tests" for such men
Let us sum up all of the above and determine the tests your lover must pass before you legalize your relationship and he will take off the mask of the prince.
- Labor efficiency and financial viability. We naturally do not undertake to assert that these "princes" receive a salary of no more than $ 10,000 each month. Naturally, all figures are relative. It is necessary to be guided by the place your counterpart occupies on the career ladder, to look at the goals that he sets for himself and what he does for their implementation - these are the criteria that distinguish the parasite from megalomania from a real earner.
- The ratio of plans, dreams and real actions. If your young man is only talking and making plans, then you just pogor and braggart. The larger the last digit, the better. By the way, in any story of your narrowed down, separate the "noodles" from the facts. We, women, as we know, are fond of ears, but you need to choose a companion for life, brain and heart.
- In any situation be reliable. The ability to answer for one's words is the main sign of a Man. If he said that he would take a carpet to the dry cleaning and do it earlier than your thousandth reminder - this is a worthy candidate. He takes a direct part in the education of children and actually helps you in the household - excellent! If you start with him, even the simplest thing, and he takes most of the responsibilities and responsibilities - in this case you are lucky! For a man who is capable of acting with both hands!
- If you express all of the above with a single phrase, it will sound like this: "a dummy man" is distinguished by the artificial shell created by him, characteristic whistling and the absolute absence of contents inside.
Finally..
If you, after reading our standard of exemplary (or, more accurately, lack of it), realized with horror: my God, this is what my young man is doing, how to be? If in a nutshell, then throw away a useless and unnecessary thing in the household. Naturally, a man, for a long time of your meetings, is addictive, affectionate and some need for it, but on the other hand you are not a child, you understand well that you can not build a future with such a person. Breaking up the relationship is better at an early stage, until your sympathy for the "dummy" has become something more. There are a lot of real men in the world, strong, smart, reliable! We must love ourselves and believe that you deserve the best! As they say, thoughts have a property to materialize!