The lies have a lot of guises - falsification, bluffing, silence. But no matter how it is masked, it is not so difficult to recognize. However, the lie is different: impudent and innocent, bitter and sweet, for good and to harm. And, having found it, do not rush to make a fuss and especially get divorced, because it does not arise from scratch and largely depends on your actions in a particular situation. In our article "Unexplained, but true, true or false," we'll look at some of them.
He's lying to you. Unpleasantly of course, but before arranging disassembly, think about why he does it. Perhaps you are too tightly controlling the family budget, trying to save, and thereby infringing his interests? He is a music lover (bibliophile, gamer) seeks to replenish his collection, prefers to dress stylishly or likes to buy various gadgets? Whatever his desires and hobbies, you must consider them and learn how to negotiate with a partner: this month you buy something for him, in the next - for you. And further. Imagine that your lover wants to give you a gift, but without your knowledge it's impossible, because he carries all the money "into the house." And how should he be? To follow you with an outstretched hand - "give me money - I'll buy you a ringlet"? It's stupid, is not it, right?
He claims that he stayed at work, and himself ... You are indignant: he could invite you, and even better - spend the evening with you. Calm down. Men also sometimes want to talk exclusively in "their company." To talk about work, to brag of achievements and even to gossip. Take it for granted. You also like to meet with friends.
He lies to you about his ex-girlfriends, hiding information about them. This is not so much a lie as a silence of truth. Are you sure you want to know about his past novels? Why stir up the affairs of the past days, is it going to bring great joy to you and benefit your relationship? Agree, he acts like a real man - he does not compare you to others, does not force him to be jealous, which means he does not hurt.
Lie for any reason. This, most likely, suggests that he is a weak-willed and weak-willed person. It's easier for him to assent to you and not to contradict anything. If that does not suit you, let go of the reins. Do not scold him for everything and do not drink. Listen to his opinion, encourage independence and often praise. It is not forbidden to lie about his talents and merits - this is the lie for good.
When is it simply to remain silent? To lie, of course, is not good, but not every lie is a crime. And in some cases, it is simply necessary to lie or lie. Liked better not to tell the truth:
- about their love "exploits";
- the number of previous partners;
- about diseases that have been safely left in the past, as well as about abortions (if there were any);
- about your negative attitude to his relatives and especially to his mother;
- about the dignity of other men, and even more so, that you like one of them.
The best friend is not worth knowing that you:
- You do not want to talk to her on the phone, because it takes a lot of time from you;
- consider it unfashionable (as an option: unattractive, unsuccessful);
- You support the point of view of her husband about their family relations.
Your parents should not be ignorant of ...
- your quarrels with your husband;
- illnesses - yours, husband, children;
- troubles at work.
Sometimes lying is useful. Scientists have been proven that a lie in jest can characteristically positively affect a person. Do not overdo it! Sometimes such "jokes" lead to quarrels between relatives and friends. Therefore, joke in favor of not only yourself, but also to others.
Julia Sobolevskaya , specially for the site