In order not to disturb your child, you should follow the rules:
1. Do not acquaint the man with the child at an early stage of your relationship. After all, it is still not known whether this man will stay in your house for a long time or not, he can disturb your baby, and then disappear forever. Children need to be introduced to those people who will become frequent guests in your home.
2. Introduce yourself when you are confident of this person. Only a seriously minded man can inspire confidence, because children feel the intentions of man.
3. Before meeting with the child, conduct a conversation and gradually prepare the child that the mother also needs a personal life. The kid should understand that in spite of everything, the child for the mother will be the most expensive and beloved. After the psychological preparation, tell the child that you have a serious relationship and only then make an acquaintance.
4. You should not take the child out on a date. First, such a strong communication with your chosen one will cause your child negative emotions. Secondly, this will have a detrimental effect on the still fragile relationship.
5. Listen to what the child's opinion about the new man is, but the child should not make a decision for you.
6. If the child does not perceive your chosen one, talk to your loved one. Maybe you can together, find a way out of the situation, and find a way that you can get the baby's location.
7. Do not tear all relationships with the ex-husband. Allow him to communicate with the child and come to visit him. Because during this period the baby may seem that Mom stopped taking care of him and stepped back from him. While the baby is not used to the new situation, he needs to feel the support of his father.
8. You do not need to spend all the time with the child, you need to pay attention to yourself, you have the right to use your personal time for hiking through hairdressers, shops.
9. It is very important for the baby that mother could sincerely talk with him about something. A child can ask any question that disturbs him and get a simple and clear answer from his mother. The wishes of the child need to be listened to, but do not let it control your actions. You have to make responsible decisions in life, not him, you need not forget this.
10. There should be nothing to be ashamed of in dealing with a man, and you do not need to ask a child to keep his private life secret from your chosen one. To the child did not feel abandoned, you need to maintain a relationship with the ex-spouse. Communication with your father will not replace your child, no one and nothing in the world, because this former husband is his good father.
In any case, you do not need to wait for a quick result, but just have patience. The baby needs to find a special approach, the child's psyche is very vulnerable, and the baby needs to be given time. And then sooner or later, but your efforts can bear fruit, and your child will have a caring and loving father.
The woman remains alone for various reasons. Both for the child and for the mother life together, this is a serious test. After all, it is not so easy to find the second half of a single woman with a child. After all, in this situation you need to look not only for the husband, but also for your child. The nature, life principles of your man should suit not only you, but should also arrange for your child.
The role of the mother is the most beautiful, but in the life of a woman this is not her only role in life. The need for love, sex, intimacy is a valuable part of a woman's life, and having lost this need, a woman loses a particle of herself.
Your children need to know that in addition to being their mother, you are still a full-fledged versatile person, and your personal life for your children is just as important as for you. If you organize your personal life, it will serve as a good example for children, after all, they will sometime seek the second half. If you follow these simple tips, it will help keep the world with children and be truly happy.
Often we give wrong attitudes and doom ourselves to failure. Change the situation can change the attitude to yourself, and also work on yourself. There are interesting, intelligent, beautiful and successful women who can not realize themselves in family life. There can be many reasons for this and all of them are internal. If you want to change life for the better, you need to improve. There are three main mistakes of a free woman who wants to create a strong family, but she does not get it.
The first error. She is in a hurry
Many women, after breaking their relationship with a man, look for the next suitable candidate in his place. A woman starts many novels, but, in the end, remains, disappointed in the whole world and in men. And if you understand, then no one is to blame. Simply the whole point is that she hurried. To build strong relationships that could last for many years, you need to prepare for these relationships. You should not "throw" on any man, you need to think about whether such a person is suitable, if this man has such qualities that she needs to comfortably exist.
Do not seek a conscious relationship
If you spend your time physically and emotionally in order to find a partner, then it is unlikely that it will be a worthy person. First of all, you should be happy alone with yourself, then the people who are next to you will be happy with you. And personal life will be arranged in a natural way, in itself.
The second error. A woman is obsessed with her complexes. Very few people who are one hundred percent satisfied with themselves. Everyone has their own complexes and internal fears. And here the whole point is how much people are obsessed with them. We need to know that our complexes live inside of us, if you think that something is wrong with you, then this does not mean that the surrounding people should also think. They will only feel the uncertainty that comes from you. If your self-esteem has suffered, that you can not convince yourself that you are beautiful, charming and exceptional, then you need to play.
Let's say you need to play the role of an ideal woman. What it should be, play this role one day. The next day you should be in the role of the best woman. Already gradually, you will not work for this role, but it will work for you. You will be the one you play, the two images will merge and become a whole that can not be divided. One and the same person in front of others can play the role of a person tired of life and appear in the form of an attractive and bright personality. Write yourself the script of your life. Smile of failure. And remember that you need to grind any art, let alone the art of being an ideal.
The third mistake. The woman is convinced that if she has children, she must forget about her personal life. This stereotype needs to be broken. It must be remembered that your personal life and children are different concepts that should not overlap. To do this, you need to properly build your relationships with men and with children. Naturally, children should be the most important for you, but this is not a reason to refuse to communicate with the opposite sex. It is important to maintain a balance in relations with the opposite sex and to keep the needs of your children. One should not rush to combine personal relationships with family relations. It can happen that the relationship with a man does not go well, and then for a child this will be a serious trauma.
If the chosen gentleman does not accept your children, you should immediately clarify the situation. You can continue to meet with this person without claiming a joint life, or immediately break all relationships. You need to do it without getting upset and not thinking, because nothing terrible has happened.
Believe it, but in the world there are a large number of men who want to create a strong family with a woman with children from the first marriage. If a man loves you, then he will feel the same feelings for your child. And of course, he will not occupy a major role in your life, since the most important thing for you is the children.
A man is able to accept and fall in love with the children of his chosen one, and perceive them as his children. For single women, lonely daddies will be a real find. These men know what their children and they need, they are ready to work hard to make the family relations strong enough, ready to make compromises.
Do not think that a woman with a child can not have a personal life. Do not be afraid to enter a new life, achieve new goals, make new mistakes, open yourself to new emotions. Life is beautiful, you just need to see everything, finally opening your eyes. Do not drop your hands and look confidently in your future. Know that you will be all right, but otherwise it can not be.