Often applied to them the word "love". But no matter how strong and seemingly indestructible it was, the conflicts that arise in the majority of cases on the basis of infidelity and treason do their job: love dies, and in terrible agony. Therefore, some couples practice much more harmless to the psyche and, paradoxically, sometimes a longer kind of relationship - free relationships. Indeed, when people do not impose many obligations on each other, it is more comfortable for them to interact, and occasions for quarrels arise less frequently, therefore their duration increases.
In addition, psychologists know the phenomenon, for which a saying is used in everyday life: "The forbidden fruit is sweet." Prohibit a person to do anything, and he will only think about how to break the ban, but let him do what is supposed to be forbidden - so it never occurs to him to use this permission!
Now let's talk about how to behave in free relations and, in fact, what it is. In fact, they do not outwardly differ from ordinary relations with the only difference is that both partners are not tied to each other so much that they are afraid to leave. Perhaps someone will object: is this love? Meanwhile, there is no clear, much more scientific formulation of the term "love". Everyone creates his own definition, and here another proverb is relevant: how many people, so many opinions. Strangely enough, you can admire a person, enjoy his presence, but realize with your mind that the stronger the connection, the more painful it is to tear, so it's better and even more pleasant to savor the pleasant moments of the relationship in small portions than to swallow everything whole. Therefore, it is not necessary to demand from the beloved person eternal devotion, but to enjoy the moment while he is, being psychologically prepared for the worst option - parting.
As most couples conduct themselves in free relations, one can observe the example of those who do not plan to marry, but continue to meet. They also kiss passionately, caress each other, indulge in love joys, but they do not yet think about children and the family. When a girl communicates with another guy, then her boyfriend is not jealous at all, because he understands that he is just a friend, and he is unlikely to achieve the same successes with his girlfriend, whom he reached. She, in turn, appreciates the acquaintance precisely as a friend, but not as a potential guy. They can safely walk in companies, consisting of both girls and boys, not at all afraid of treason, or rather - without even thinking about it. Traditional couples try to avoid such festivities, as they are afraid that their other half will be "picked up" by someone. Although the girl can overcome the momentary impulses, impulses, temptations, but, having thought of a sober head, she will understand that her boyfriend is still the best. The latter should also understand that resisting temptation is not so simple that he is capable of treason, so one should tolerate the girl's misdeeds and forgive them. Couples who are in free relations realize that the animal component of man worked out over millions of years of evolution by human civilization could not be leveled, and this must be accepted. Therefore, they do not hypertrophy the meaning of adultery, but treat them as a secondary phenomenon, what can happen to everyone, clearly share love and sex, understanding that sex can be done and not with a loved one, but only one.
Psychologists are well aware, unconsciously many people are drawn to acute moments, changes in sensations, new impressions, diversity, especially in relationships, even if all this brings suffering. Girls are more likely than boys to do this: crying in a pillow from another grudge, they are still happy. Here the next proverb is appropriate: darlings swear - they only mingle. The pairs, in which unparalleled harmony reigns, the smoothness in the relations, the smoothness - relatively quickly decay. Those who build free relationships unconsciously understand that they are in need of gaining new sensations that add acuity, interest and taste to their lives. Occasionally, cursing because of the conviction of each other in an attempt of betrayal, they are satisfied, morally discharged, let off steam and continue to meet, as if nothing had happened.
Free relations are a good option for those who are not going to start a family and children in the foreseeable future. But they require a special psychological attitude and moral preparation. To suppress unjustified jealousy, also fixed genetically, is not easy, but some manage to do this, thus depriving the main sources of disagreement. Immoral or free relations are completely within the framework of the norm - everyone decides for himself, although it should be noted that the public censure of this phenomenon, which took place several decades ago, in the years of the youth of the older generation, is now replaced by quiet approval, because the ages, people and relations between them.