Today you again had to listen to the complaints of the educator: "He again bite ..." Your child looks a little shamed, but it seems that he does not regret too much about what he did. You are confused and do not know how to react properly to such "primitive" behavior. Should I scold, punish, or hope that it will pass by itself? Unfortunately, a small kusaka can easily be considered a "complex child", on a walk moms will look at him with caution and may even warn their children from communicating with yours. Of course, this behavior is not pathology, almost every child at least once "showed teeth." But in order to avoid a band of alienation around your baby, you have to take measures and explain to him that there are other ways to express negative feelings, less offensive and painful. For a small child, the mouth is a significant part of the body, connected with obtaining pleasure from sucking and researching objects, so it is quite natural that he expresses his discontent with the mouth and teeth. And when he bites you or your baby for a walk, this is by no means always an act of aggression, often he just wants attention, communicating, that is, literally trying to bite off a piece of who he likes. A small child has a very meager repertoire of emotional reactions, so a bite can express both love and an attempt to attract attention, and anger. His vocabulary is still too small, and he has to use any available means of expression.
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The first "victim" of the baby most often becomes a mother, because it awakens in him the most powerful and contradictory feelings, from love to rage. Did you forbid him something? And he has bitten you! A small child acts impulsively, on the principle of "stimulus-reaction", and only in time, the rules you set will help him to slow down actions that you do not approve. Do not let yourself bite, stop the baby with the words: "I can not bite." Do not shame the child, call him evil and disgusting: he is not yet familiar with the moral side of the matter, and your task is to give the necessary explanations. Do not bite the baby in response, trying to show how it hurts: in his eyes this is a controversial act. Ignore his behavior is also not worth it - the child will perceive this as a manifestation of your numbness and will continue to try until he achieves a more understandable reaction. To the kid realized what is happening to him, he needs to show the connection between his feelings and behavior: "You're not happy. You did not get what you wanted, so you bit your friend. So you do not have to do it anymore. You can not bite. " And, of course, it is necessary to mention that a bite is very painful. Keep vigilance: if a child attacks a small brother, you must immediately intervene.
The lesson of diplomacy
On a walk, a dispute over a bucket or scapula can flare up instantly, and now the teeth are set in motion. Do not wait for the development of events, immediately intervene: "Please apologize to your friend." Does he persist? Then you can say, "I ask your friend for your forgiveness, because you are now too angry and you can not do it yourself." When the child calms down, you can give more detailed explanations: "I understand that you are angry, but you can not behave this way. Your teeth can bite an apple, a sandwich, but they should not bite kids! "But it's not enough to say that you can not bite, you need to tell the child how you can express negative emotions in another way - for example, facial expressions, words, some kind of gesture. Explain to the kid: "To others understand that you are angry, do not necessarily bite, you can frown, or stamp your foot, or say something in an" angry "voice." Express your emotions vividly and expressively so that the child can imitate you.
Release
If the child continues to bite, repeat to him your explanations every time before going to a day nursery, a kindergarten or for a walk to the park. Despite the measures taken, the baby continues to bite? Perhaps you should think about what can be the cause of psychological discomfort, are you all right in your family and in your relationship with the child? And, finally, help him to get rid of excess energy and negative emotions. Physical activity is an excellent channel for releasing energy, and the pleasure of moving and owning one's body will balance the child, will help him become more peaceful and calm. And for you it is important to keep an endurance and confidence in the correctness of the educational line you have chosen, and soon the kid himself will give up this harmful habit.
Guard, bit!
If the victim of "kusaka" is your baby, try to ask him about how it happened, console him and ask him to immediately talk about such incidents to someone from adults and not bite back. Gently wash the bite with soap and then apply either a very cold compress or an ice cube to calm the pain.