Most often shy guys are rather hesitant and constrained. These traits prevent them from building a romantic relationship, even if there is an object of their admiration in the immediate surroundings. Girls often feel this, but wait for the first step. If a young man can not dare at all, we should take the situation into our own hands. But how to motivate a shy guy to get close?
How to win a modest guy?
If you want to inspire a shy guy for the first step, or if you want to win his attention and provoke romantic feelings, be responsive. Go first to contact, the truth is to do it carefully, not too aggressively, so as not to scare. During a conversation, smile more often, joke, so he will understand that he can relax in your company. It is very important to create a comfortable environment around your communication. Therefore, strive for ease and unobtrusiveness.
Try to make tactile contact with him. Touch, hold the hand, hug. Thus, you will let him feel your warmth and interest in him, not only as a friend.
For example, if a guy hesitates to kiss you, pretend that you're even more embarrassed. Just try to make it look as natural as possible.
Do not make fun of his shyness. Try to behave as if everyone is just like him. Try to keep the theme of his shyness from arising in your communication, except that he himself will want it.
Let him know that you are convinced of his strength and masculinity. He must feel your confidence in his success. He should feel your confidence and confidence in his reliability, in that you can rely on him in any situation.
Why is the guy modest?
Modesty can not be called an inborn quality. Usually it is a consequence of past experiences, most often not very pleasant. They can hide far in the past, since early childhood.
Quite often the reason is parenting, which did not welcome openness and emancipation in the family circle. In the end, he suffered such a manner of behavior in his adult life. Most often this happens at the subconscious level, so that he himself may not see the true cause of the problem.
It is worth considering that a relationship with a modest guy automatically attracts all these problem situations into your life and you should be ready to help him deal with them. This does not mean that on the first day of dating you need to play a psychologist and try to find out about everything that could affect his character. It is very important to gradually recognize him and inspire confidence in all his behavior.
Be as tactful as possible. If the young man is really interesting to you, you will not be bothered by his excessive modesty. In addition, there is something attractive in it, since you paid attention to it. Is not it?