Many people want diversity in bed and one beautiful night you ask your partner to gently slap you, and the next day you go, "blow your lips", resenting that your loved one was dismissing his hands. In order for everything to go smoothly from the first time, you need to understand what hard sex is so special, you need to study the experience of previous generations, and then dare!
Hurt me…
Masochism, sadism .... Many of us have a negative attitude towards these words, moreover, they cause unpleasant associations. A sadist is a person with an eerie appearance, who sneers at babies, and a masochist is a weak-willed miserable entity.
However, in fact, a masochist is something broader than everyone is used to thinking. Remember how you arrange for yourself unloading days. Did it ever happen that the employees called you a masochist when you saw that for lunch and dinner you eat only one-person? Parents also shook their heads and called you a sadist. Surely you have a strict boss, unless, of course, you do not have a free profession, but at home you yourself are chastising the daughter for an unpalatable course. All our lives we play something subordinate, then dominant, so it's no wonder that a relationship like "slave-master" has come to our bedrooms.
What is BDSM?
BDSM is a relationship that can be said to be a role-playing game that revolves around an element of power. People can say what is good, but in reality it is not a sex game in its pure form. Many couples assert that this is a lifestyle. If you look at BDSM from the point of view of sociology, then we can say that this is a culture or a subculture.
What is the difference between power role-playing games and BDSM from dangerous forms of behavior, because both partners are free to do this, and such relations are based on the transferring lover of power over oneself? The most important thing is not to force a person to do what he does not want or what he is not sure of. Many people who fantasize about violence are afraid to show their emotions. After all, if you realize that you are not like everyone else, you can get a mental disorder, depression and much more.
Thanks to research, it turned out that people who love such relationships in childhood experienced both psychological and physical abuse. Of course, if you go a few times to a psychologist, you can get rid of fantasies that do not give a worry. Until recently, it was known that BDSM was considered as a deviation of the arms and recommended to treat, both medically and in special special institutions.
This was due to the fact that the society was convinced - all sexualvariation should be immediately corrected. Moreover, couples who favor BDSM are very good at other deviations, so the community of "slaves and masters" has been replenished by other people with nontraditional visions - transvestites, fetishists and so on.
It is very important not to be afraid of manifestations of your sexuality, do not be afraid to do experiments. There is such a law, which is called the Law of the Angle, it says-whatever fantasy you have visited, you are not alone. In any case, there will still be one person on the earth who wishes the same.
About 30% of adults, regardless of sexual preferences and gender, practice some elements of BDSM. And witches who treat sexual violence are visited by almost every person!
What does the dictionary say?
A dictionary says that BDSM stands for this: Bondage is a restriction of freedom, Discipline is education, Sadism is domination and Masochism is subordination. In general, the most important principles are voluntariness, intelligence and safety.
A switch is a person who enjoys the same pleasure from obedience and otdomination.
Everything is thought out
To ensure that hard sex is not an atrocity, it is necessary to share experiences, for example, never will not start using a whip on its partner, just because he has been abused, as is done in the film or read in the book. The person who dominates must experience the painful experience himself before applying it to the subordinate. Moreover, every couple who wants diversity and decided on such an experiment should consider the scenario.
What does it mean? These are written actions on paper, to which both will agree, and you must write down the actions and attributes that you will need. In general, you need to describe everything to the smallest detail.
If you put the script together, sometimes it is not clear who is the boss and who is the slave. Often in such cases, dominants are toys for power slaves. Even when you discuss the script, you will have great pleasure. Remember that it is not necessary to enter into the script all the ideas that vaspossetili!
Go to the store for adults!
Belt. In every house there is this attribute, but not every strap is suitable for flogging. It is not possible to use rigid belts and belts with a relief surface - so you can injure yourself or your partner. The pain can also be caused by a flogging strap, despite the fact that it seems easy.
Handcuffs. The most important principle of BDSM is the restriction and binding of freedom. Strong masters use not only handcuffs with fluff and silk scarves, there are special ropes, special ways of tying, X-shaped machines for crucifixion. Yes, it can be seen not only in films, perhaps your employee, seemingly a modest guy, but at night gets up like this ...
Rod. Great for handy tools, especially if you decide to do it in nature. However, one must be careful, the rod under the middle blows dissects the skin.
Stack. A rigid and short tool. Stacks can be with a slap on the end and without it.
Love and violence
In your bedroom was uncomfortable and cool, and the relationship lost its past passion? Add the pepper! To make sex more diverse, you do not need to use whips. BDSM is what you need.
If you take a silk scarf, tie it to the eyes of your beloved husband or boyfriend, and do it yourself, then he will very much like such a restriction of freedom. The partner will not only not see you naked (of course, the figure is beautiful, but it would not hurt to lose a couple of kilograms), but you can feel yourself relaxed, completely forget that you do not look perfect and give yourself to the process.
If you turn off one sense organ, then you become a dominant. Of course, you can tie a scarf around your eyes, but it's so trivial, try to move the handkerchief to your heels. But not for him to plead for mercy, but for him to dream of your kiss.
If you connect the partner hands, then you can show all that you are capable of. Well, if you tie up, then the same is better: lie down and have fun.
Fullness - that's what you need to make love. Turn off your hearing and turn on the touch.
In BDSM, sex is not just a way to humiliate and punish, but also to encourage. Play with your lover for an erotic desire, then you will have the opportunity to try a pose, which so long dreamed of.
Remember that the best aphrodisiac is a wonderful underwear made of red or black latex.
Psychologists say:
- 75% of the human psychic energy is sexual energy. This is a rich potential that needs to be applied.
- People who are born with inclinations for BDSM are very few, of whom only 2% are women, and men - 5%. Now BDSM is loved by many people. And it is laid down in childhood, when the dominant father and strong mother are in the family or when the violence is applied to the child. Therefore, a person begins to look for the other half, which can help him to realize his fantasies of violence.
There is another reason for such deviations: it is the parents' desire to raise the child in perfectionism, but children can not always be in all ideal, and therefore sexual energy appears, which is directed not to where it should be. The person himself can never cope with this, here you need a qualified psychologist's help.
Congenital BDSM-propensity is when a person can experience sexual satisfaction only with the help of pain.