The issue of the birth of a child is very serious, the couple is discussing it for a long time. And now, when they have already decided everything, they give birth to a child. But so, initially, it turned out that women want a girl, and men - a boy. And this is natural. Then it will not be boring to live. A man can take his son on a fishing trip, well, a girl - her daughter will help with women's affairs. All this is good. But not always the wishes are fulfilled. One of the members of the family will be exactly upset. But what can be, that will not pass.
If a girl is born, the man will be happy, but not as if his wife was born "patsanenok." But we live in an absolutely free country, in which it is possible, and even necessary, to give birth to an unlimited number of children. Moreover, in our country does not matter the sex of the future child. Yes, perhaps you will be surprised by such a statement, but, for example, there are countries in which the sex of the child is very important. For example, China - there is a limit in the number of children per family. This is a grieving fact, but they have a much larger population, because ... In China, a woman must give birth to the first child - a boy. This is simply a mandatory rule. And she herself would be better if the boy was born first. So there it is, well, and nothing we can not do about it. Said the boy, trying to give birth to a boy.
Well, let's not get into the affairs of China. This is personally their business. China is a big country, but the population is there too - Ogo! At us with a density of the population that's all right. We decide on the number of children.
You can say even more. We, in Russia, also pay money, for each newborn child. It's very good, and nothing bad can be said here. A secure country, that's all. And the population is always needed, so we multiply. Although this is generally a separate topic of conversation, but once touched, then you can talk a little about this topic. But this is already at another time, in another place and in another article.
So, back to the floor of the child and to how some pairs react to the sex of the child. We have already said that men love sons, but not always.
On the basis of many years of experience, it is known that there are such pairs that do not make any difference to the sex of the child. Although no, a little wrong expression. They just do not care who it is. Whoever is born, they will love him, because this is their own child. No, we do not say that others do not, but the first few days after the ultrasound study, the parent is a little stunned and not happy. But then they will understand that everything is fine.
But there are also such good-natured parents who already in advance want any child, if only it were. They just do not pay attention to his gender, well, and ultrasonic research is going to do just for the sake of interest. Here and so.
There are many families for whom sex is very important. For example, they want to keep the name, because it can disappear, or whatever other reason. There is nothing wrong with parents wanting a child of a certain sex. And in general, this is a very delicate topic for conversation. That's why a pregnant woman, most often, tries to cope with this problem on her own. The most important thing for her is that the child is not born sick, that is, healthy. She will be afraid to admit that she does not like sex, because people around her can think of her as ungrateful.
But do not be afraid to admit it. Do not keep all bad thoughts inside yourself. Better admit to others that you are not happy with sex, that you blame yourself. Tell me that you are a little envious of those mothers who have a child of the desired sex. But if, suddenly, the excitement does not begin to disappear, then we advise you to consult a specialist. You do not need to keep it deeply in yourself, it can have a very negative impact on the health of the child. If you accumulate all this for a long time in yourself, then disappointment with ease will become depressed. This will also have a negative impact on others.
Do not be afraid of such thoughts, it is quite normal. The fact that you now think so does not mean that you will not love your baby at all, it is not so. Everything will be fine, believe me. If anything, your child will grow up and give you grandchildren of the sex you really wanted. Now let's talk, in fact, about our topic, and the question: "What qualities do men like in daughters? ".
If your husband wanted a boy, but did not work out, then you need to do everything so that not only you are happy. Talk to her husband, ask how he would like to raise his daughter. Try to provide him with her upbringing. You must remember that raising the children, the technique of education should not differ. That is, if the husband educates in a certain way, then you should bring up the same way. And here the most interesting begins. You must educate the same, but you want and should do it differently. Here is the most interesting. You must understand that men in daughters see an unfulfilled dream. That is, in the daughter they will love the qualities that are inherent in the son. That's the whole truth. Because, initially, your daughter can grow up a "little girl", and this will not be the best decision, we assure you.
Try to discuss with your husband the nature of upbringing. How will you bring her up together? You do not want your daughter to look like a boy, do you? Exactly…. So it's better to do this in advance, but just do not try to remove the husband from education, this will only aggravate the whole situation. The husband will not love his daughter at all, because, in fact, from him, she only has genes. And he would like to see in it another and a bit of his upbringing. Some kind of zest. Let him add this zest, but check the character and its composition, or you can spoil the character of your daughter, or you can direct it in another direction. All in the hands of your marriage.
We hope that our article will help you with the upbringing of the future girl. The main rule - bring up the child together, and then you will definitely succeed.