Causes.
What to do if a child gets bad grades, how to understand this situation? The paramount task is to determine the reason why the child is awarded unsatisfactory grades. They are very many, ranging from psychological problems in the family, and ending with the problems of relationships in school. The ability to absorb new material, and, accordingly, the quality of the received mark, affects the child's health, his regime, mood and just ability to this or that subject. One child can easily solve mathematical problems, and others write compositions with pleasure. Change the predisposition to this or that type of activity is impossible, the task of the parents is only to properly assess the child's abilities and all his support, creating an incentive to learn.
Often, despite the existing understanding, the child and the parents themselves are sensitive to poor assessments. In such a situation, it is indisputably important to be able to learn by yourself and teach the child to adequately perceive the assessments and draw appropriate conclusions.
Adequate appraisals are bad or good.
First, the goal of learning is the end result. Assessments in this sense are an intermediate stage in the perception of new knowledge and are not significant. Training is a very long process and it takes a lot of time and effort to get results.
Secondly, the ability of the child to build relationships with teachers and students is an equally important link in the learning process. This is also facilitated by the system of assessments. It is important to objectively perceive remarks, correct mistakes, and continue to make efforts to prevent unsatisfactory situations. The insult to the evaluation should not be an excuse for stopping school. Knowledge of the child and his ability to contact, are important primarily for him, and only then they are of some interest for teachers and classmates. In addition, it is worth explaining to the child that the assessment of knowledge can be very subjective, gets bad or good grades - you still love him, and not always they depend on his skills and talent. Many people achieved significant successes in their life, although at school their grades left much to be desired.
Do not bully the child.
Do not intimidate the child with bad marks. It is necessary to adjust it to a positive result, and in case of failure to cheer up - "next time you will try, and everything will turn out". If you constantly criticize the child for unsatisfactory grades, then ultimately it will lead to a pathological fear of answering lessons and unwillingness to be present at the examinations. This will further exacerbate the situation. He will worry at school, be nervous, which will significantly reduce his ability to perceive new information. The child can close, start to perceive everything from the standpoint of "everything is equally scolded", "everything is bad" and will not in any way try to correct the situation. If you are lucky, a good teacher will notice this circumstance and it will be possible to cope with it. And if this does not happen, the vicious circle of bad marks will close for a long time.
Understand the causes of failure together.
Be sure to try together with the child to understand the reason for the poor evaluation. Perhaps he's not trained. Perhaps he was not feeling well. Perhaps I did not find contact with the teacher or students and just did not want to show my knowledge. This is especially true in adolescence. Sometimes children themselves do not understand why this happened. It is important to help understand, understand the situation and facilitate the child's experiences. In severe cases, it will probably be necessary to consult a psychologist. Do not be afraid of this. After all, any problem is much easier to solve at the very beginning than to unravel the complex tangle of troubles accumulated over a long period of time.
Support the child.
The child should try to explain why it is necessary to get knowledge at all. Play the game, show how an absolutely illiterate person will feel among educated people. Young children often do not understand why they go to school and that they can later receive the education they received.
It is important to support your child and instill in him confidence in the attainability of the educational goal. He must be firmly convinced that he will succeed, albeit not like the others, because all people are different. Clearly presenting the consequences, he must make every effort to make the most of his opportunities during training.
Discuss together the problem of a bad mark and try to work out a plan for further action. Determine how to do so in the future to improve the situation and avoid the repetition of the problem. Discuss in advance the reward for good study and punishment for the lack of results. However, applying such measures, it is necessary to seek conformity of encouragement or punishment to the act itself. You can not put the child in a situation where he does not understand what he is responsible for.
It should be borne in mind that sometimes a bad mark is not at all an indicator of your child's knowledge. Often the result is influenced by the compliance of the student's work with certain requirements (indentation, correctness of the description of the condition of the task, etc.), or the relationship between the teacher and the student. We are all people, these rules are invented and evaluated by the same people, with their own merits and demerits. Therefore, it is necessary to explain to the child that assessments will constantly surround him in life, and they are not always fair enough. If this situation occurs in your child, then try to teach him how to solve the problem on his own. Perhaps it is worth simply to pay more attention to the requirements or talk with the teacher - let him explain the criteria for setting the mark and his expectations from the work done by the students.
Remember that the main task of parents is to help the child and strongly support in him the interest in mastering new knowledge. For each, this issue is solved only individually. But in any case, the assessment should not become a stumbling block in the relationship between parents and children.