Probably, there are no parents who would not be embarrassed by such news, that they will have twins or twins. Immediately there are thoughts about how to deal with them, how to feed, walk and bathe, how to equip their children's room. In addition, with one child at first a lot of difficulties, and here two.
Wrapped up for a long day and having changed all the necessary things, parents are often happy just to sit still, while the children are engaged in toys and finally do not require close attention. And it's unlikely that the littermates come to mind to sit and watch what their children are attracted to in toys or what game unites the twins.
It is difficult with twins from the very beginning, you need to correctly handle them during bathing, walking or dressing, and then it gets even harder, the kids start moving. For example, in bathing, watching them is very difficult, it is even more difficult to try to walk with two when they are already stamping. After all, if one goes to one side, then the second one is necessarily to the other and it is not clear for whom of them to run. Twin or twins count on simultaneous attention of the parents, well, or to the help of another pair of hands, but this is not always there, but the problem can be solved.
Now there are a lot of toys that are small in size, but at the same time they are fun for kids, attract attention with their complexity, and for a short time completely enthrall the child. Actually, you need it to give a minute or two to the second child, while the first acquires the toy.
For the right choice of such games you need to understand their principles:
- multifunction toy. In this case it can be a toy that combines two actions, for example, rolling toys, as a rule, different shapes or shapes open in the process of movement. Such things are very interesting to children and they are considering them, in addition, forms can be used for figures in the sandbox;
- transformers. Good toys that can be modified and sorted out into different small toys, they are very convenient for bathing in the bathroom with interest and quietly play with them;
- small size. The toy should not be big, expect that they should fit in the stroller or in the bathroom, because they need a lot of walking.
One person, but the leveling
Twins are most often very independent from childhood, they are navigating each other's society and sometimes do not even need parents. Many parents are happy about this, because it's good, freedom and children are busy and calm at the same time. However, it is worth noting that this behavior has twins and a bad side:
- in some cases, the twins are so fused together with a sister or sister that they no longer perceive themselves as an individual and separate person, separate without a second half;
- since childhood twins have their own language of communication, that's why they need the human nonspecifically, in the end there may be a delay in the development of the speech. In addition, working always in pairs, they are used to doing one job, but if everyone does his part, which he does better. This leads to the fact that one, for example, motor skills developed at a high level, and he is weaker in communication. And vice versa, the second twin perfectly communicates the world, but the possibilities of the brother for him are closed. As a result, he as a diplomat represents both, and the second as the creator works for two.
This, of course, is incredibly interesting, but still the development of a specific direction from this is hampered, so it is extremely important to choose the right toys for the same development of both kids in all directions. For example, the puppet theater excellently develops skills that lag behind the twins, for example:
- babies develop their verbal abilities;
- this instills an understanding of personal responsibility;
- reveals the features of the baby and individual abilities;
- this game unites children, teaches interaction and friendly relations.
The border of your own "I"
The child is individual, but he must have a certain border of his "I". Most often, property is expressed in personal toys, things and space. Of course, most toys will have to be bought, multiplied by two, these are sets, pistols or pupae and other small things. And larger games, for example, large railways, designers, joint board games, buy for both children. However, in addition to the ability to use the general, the child must have something special, which will distinguish his personality from the earliest childhood, it can be a special toy. The toy must match the character and temperament of the baby, its developmental features, for example, toy animals are funny and serious, emphasizing the characteristic features. It is very important that children know how to respect such personal property of each other. That they could politely ask for such individual things and share them, despite the fact that this is a very personal toy. It is also very important that they have a division of space into personal and general, for example, personal lockers and shelves for storing things and toys, this will instill attention.
Depending on the size of the dwelling and the children's room, you can buy game tents, it will be a place of privacy and personal space, but at the same time connect them with a tunnel that will unite the children.
The language of communication of the twins
As already mentioned, twins can completely dispense with their own language, but no one will understand them, even their parents, which leads to a lag in speech development. Twins need the vigils that will develop their human speech, for example, dolls napaltsah, dominoes and lotto, in general, everything that you need to call words and talk.
Be sure to listen to their personal communication and time to direct communication to the human channel, for example, correct, pronouncing the normal words that the action that was produced.
It is especially important to play with children together, create games or situations where everyone will be involved, it can be a game store where everyone will go shopping and talk in a normal language.
Dolls worn on the fingers can be said to be indispensable, because using a little animal on the hand, the child mentally turns into it, says the cocoon and at the same time leaves the habit of communicating in a personal language.
When the twins are growing up, at the age of 4-6 years are necessarily necessary to develop table games. For example, the game "Scrabble" has a simple version, made on the principle of a simple crossword puzzle, there is also a similar "Activiti", this game combined puzzles such as: Association, Crocodile, Sharad. In general, look for games where children need to think about the situation, plan actions and take into account that he has partners. Also useful games with hidden pictures, where words need to explain the picture.
We need strategy games and games, where children have their own individual part and learn to keep it. In addition, such games develop motor skills, for example, Pylons or the Balancing Tower. All famous games like Monopoly or Space are also very good, but for older siblings. To strengthen the family, parents and children need to team up, dad with one baby, mom with another, and then change, the children look at their parents and quickly learn from them.
Role-playing games
Twins and without prompts change their roles well, and they do it with pleasure and professionally, it's very good, let them be established by doctors and teachers, etc. But the twins themselves are divided into leaders (first-borns) and slaves, while in life and in games the children leaders try to occupy the main and comfortable position. For example, in a game in a hospital the leader will always be a doctor, and the second kid will be a patient, in the game of police the leader will become a policeman, and another kid will become an offender. It is important to change this and not have to consolidate this leadership, but to do it correctly. To do this, reduce the presence of a game to the hospital by your presence and stay with patients so that the second baby can feel himself a doctor, also in a game with policemen. Then parents should exchange roles with the kids, this will be opened to them by another look at the role.
One more thing, sometimes twins create their own world, wherevery ordinary toys perform functions that are not peculiar to them, for example, when the kitchen is the house for the little creature. Children, of course, have a fantasy beyond the limits of understanding, but it is important that the twins do not lose the correct understanding of these things or toys.
Ability to cooperate and be responsible
The twins are very good at copying the actions of each other, it's even good, but everyone needs to learn how to do the same action in their own way, do not depend on each other, so that everyone knows that he is responsible for how exactly the handicraft is made or the drawing is drawn. To do this, it is useful to share the actions in one common cause, for example, in the assembly of a designer, one kid builds a house, and the second path so that no one can copy, and perform the work according to his own understanding. Always praise both twins, and do not make comparisons better or worse.