Vseravno they will not leave us
When a person communicates with someone who is dear to him, but he can not be called very close and native, he restrains himself, because he knows that the interlocutor may not like his behavior, he will be offended and, possibly, will go away forever. It is this fear that makes us control our emotions. When hams talk with relatives, they are always sure that they will not go anywhere. Even if they strongly quarrel with them, offend, still they are so strong that they forgive. Every person sometimes needs to spit out their negatives. But he can not do it, for example, in the direction of the chief, because it threatens to dismiss him from his job. Also, people are unlikely to allow such behavior in relation to colleagues or just acquaintances, as they can quickly get naughty, not wanting to endure insults in their address. Therefore, the person tries to restrain himself, but when he gets into the circle of relatives and relatives with a bad mood, then he can get one single word and then he will arrange a scandal from scratch to make his heart feel better. Of course, we all understand that such behavior is wrong, but the subconscious requires time and time to get rid of the negative, so as not to just go crazy from the accumulated emotions. That's why we are going with this negative to those who are dear to us and, importantly, who cherish us as well. Yes, it sounds paradoxical, but that's exactly the way it is. A person needs to be sure that because of his negativity, relations with those on whom he spits him will not be built up. That's why people elect relatives and friends. Remember yourself how often you could afford to scold your mother because of stupidity, even deep down knowing that you are wrong, not you. This behavior is easily explained by the fact that the scandal from Mamowy knew that, in the end, she will still forgive you and will not go anywhere, because she loves more than anything in the world. The same attitude is often manifested to the brothers, sisters, closest friends, in short, to those in whose feelings we are sure.
Unfortunately, some people have such outbursts of negative emotions in relation to those who value them, can happen too often. Look, he breaks away on close people on any occasion, believing that it will always be their hands. But if a person becomes too cruel, then sooner or later he who does not tolerate his attacks simply can not stand it. The more we love, the more disappointed. Therefore, it often happens that people who for a long time suffer from severe attacks from a close person, in the end, simply leave him forever. This is the case in families where they muzhduzhvaetsya over his wife and beats her or where parents take out their disappointment in life on children. Until a certain time, the victims of cruelty endure and cry out to the voice of reason and love, but then at one point simply disappear from the life of a cruel person forever. Therefore, when cruelty is practiced by the crocodile, one must still remember that if you overstraight your stick, they will simply disappear from your life and no one will return them.
Ludinians are bored
When we are constantly close to certain people, they sometimes just start to annoy us. Most often this happens with the very relatives, those whom we see every day. On the one hand, we seem to love them, but on the other, there is something that we do not like in their behavior. Year after year, we are watching this, and then we simply get annoyed because of trifles. A person can wish us the best, but we will be angry with his advice, because he does not speak in that tone. Or we can be annoyed even by his elementary behavior at the table. On the one hand, we are so used to a person that we do not know how to live if it were not, but on the other hand are almost ready to kill for some things that he constantly does and does not want to do as we wish. This is the reason for the anger and irritability. We begin to behave cruelly towards relatives. Sometimes they irritate us so much that we generally move away from them, believing that it's just unbearable to be around. By the way, it is this temporary separation that allows you to pacify your fits of anger and to reconsider your attitude towards the closest people. When a native person is a messenger, we rethink what we did and begin to understand how we were wrong in our cruelty. Sometimes we get used to people so much that we stop appreciating them only after parting and having lived for a while separately, suddenly we realize how dear to us a person is and how wrong we were.
Most often, people are violent with relatives who are older or younger by age. This is due to differences in worldview and perception of the situation. Between people there are often conflicts on the basis of what they misunderstand each other. As a result, the person begins to behave cruelly towards his relatives in order to prove his point of view. In fact, such cruelty is manifested in every family. They get involved with parents, grandmothers and grandfathers, especially in adolescence. They are bored with their prohibitions and outlook on life, and in general their presence, the adolescents and try to prick their relatives as painfully as possible. This is their birthmark for not understanding, for the fact that parents have a certain power. Podrostostokschiteta that Mom or Dad offends him, that's trying to repay him zhemnetoy. That's why he behaves cruelly towards his relatives.
The desire for independence
Another reason for manifesting cruelty to relatives is the desire to be independent. It may seem to a person that those close to pointing out how to live are prevented from making their own choices and so on. That's why people start to throw different mucks in the direction of their relatives, pour out negative things, insult and even humiliate. They want their relatives to leave them alone. Most often, this behavior is in relation to the parents. A person can become cruel to brothers, sisters and close friends who see that he is doing something wrong and want to guide the true path. In turn, the one for whom they are trying, confident in their rightness or simply does not want to take a grudge. Therefore, he is annoyed, try to protect himself from their decrees and councils, so he starts outrightly fighting with his family, manifesting himself as a cruel person. Over time, many people admit that at such times they did wrong, because the close ones really wished them well. But then it seemed to them that only in such a way it is possible to achieve independence and prove that they are worth something in this life.