Behind the memories of happy moments, lived problems, the birth of children, joy and sorrow. You were for each other the most loved and native people. Behind back many years of married life.
But, something has changed. Between you something happened - as if a black cat ran. Feelings have left, have cooled down.
The last conversation ... and you and your husband are going to the registry office again, but already in order to dissolve your relationship. You get divorced. A rehabilitation period awaits both you and your spouse. And, we will try to help you survive the divorce without stress.
What do you feel during this period? You want to lock yourself from everyone, close in your own world, wrap yourself in a blanket and not see or hear anyone. Most recently, you were happy. And now you are alone. It seems to you that you have been betrayed, abandoned, and you will never trust anyone again. Betrayal is not only a priori betrayal, your close and beloved person just decided to leave you. He decided that he would be happy without you.
Psychologists say that the period of suffering of a person who has survived the divorce lasts an average of six months. Unfortunately, most women lose their sense of self-confidence - their self-esteem falls. And, as you know, self-esteem at a perfect level makes a woman - a real woman.
Divorce without stress - is it real or is it just a myth, to which only lonely young ladies believe? Let's find out.
The main thing is to understand that the depression that you are now experiencing is typical for any woman after the divorce. Tears, sadness, the desire to escape - the normal reaction of your body to the stressful situation that arises from the divorce of two once-in-love people.
The most difficult thing you have to cope with is the feeling of emptiness in your soul. If you have children, it is already easier - you are not alone, your children need you, so there is someone to give love and care.
When people leave, the most banal that one can advise is "everything will pass away," "everything that is not done - everything for the better." Yes, of course, this is true. But the realization of this truth comes with time, and at a time when you are experiencing "stress after a divorce," from such words, just burst into tears, like a beluga. Still, there is one way - to find a new man. But, as a rule, when a woman's self-esteem is lower than a plinth, this is psychologically very difficult to do. Although, it helps to distract.
After a divorce, you always want to mope and cry. So cry, you need to cry out all negative emotions. According to psychologists, this period lasts an average of a month. Moreover, divorce is not the worst thing that can happen in our life. Just one amendment, try to get rid of things, photos that can remind you of a married life. The mood you do not raise it.
As soon as you live through this period - despair and yearning - you yourself will not notice how to appear a desire to live on. The mood will improve, you will be more optimistic about your situation. It is at this moment, I advise you to pull yourself together and go to change yourself. You are still beautiful and you deserve a real woman's happiness. Change the image, buy a beautiful new dress. Another great way, find a hobby for yourself - you can do what will please you and find new friends.
One of the advantages of divorce - you do not need to wash your husband's socks, iron his shirts and cook borscht. Start loving yourself and taking care of yourself. Confidently look into your future and remember that "everything that is not done - all for the better!".