It happens to be black, and sometimes it says that there is also a white one, but whatever colors this feeling is, it will always have destructive power, slowly undermine your self-esteem, self-esteem and negatively affect relations with others. Such a feeling, as envy, is inherent only in human individuals. Think, because no cock will compare themselves with the eagle or peacock and suffer insomnia, forgetting all about their chickens. And what happens to us?
Even we ourselves can not always admit to ourselves that we envy . We envy not only co-workers, but also our relatives: friends, brothers, sisters. Behind the fence neighbor, as you know, always the grass is greener.
It is necessary to get someone from certain acquaintances of certain heights, how you start to feel awkward next to him. No, "we do not envy", when, having learned about the success of someone, we say: "You will think ... so what! The same to me ... Yes, I do not need this. "
Many people who are not able to sincerely rejoice in others' success because of envy, point out with causticity that it was only dishonest to achieve all that. And now seeing how a friend got a smart car, an expensive suit, you start to envy him, and when he was all on his nerves opening his business, losing money and again going forward, you were completely unenviable looking at him. Why now, having missed this period in the life of your friend, do you envy only the result, on which he put so much strength? What prevents you from doing the same, to make the same sacrifices to improve your life?
There are people who are very sensitive to the success of their loved ones . And as they say, we all come from childhood. If, since childhood, the child has been constantly pointed out to the fact that he is worse than Sasha, who received the "five" and runs faster and generally all the time, then, after growing up, a person will compare himself with someone else and will constantly feel someone's " then superiority over oneself. Do not make the same mistakes with your children, compare achievements only with their own. For example, say that in the last quarter you learned better than this, so you have to try and pull up some items.
In any case, in everything you can find positive moments . If you are doing what you love, then no envy will not spoil your blood, because a contented person does not notice the flawedness of his life. Are you not the boss? Excellent, because the demand from you is less and more time remains for personal life. Just move the accents. Try everything that is good in your life, viewed through a magnifying glass, and some turmoil through a diminutive.
If , on the other hand, you are the object of envy of others , then first of all, think, maybe your behavior does somewhat detract from the dignity of other people. Show restraint, do not brag. In the end, the fate of a capricious person, she can easily turn away from you. It is not necessary to talk about your plans, about what has not happened yet, because you will waste energy, which can help the implementation of the plan.
Try to communicate less with those who are openly jealous of you, in whose presence you feel uncomfortable. From the fact that you will try to please them, they are unlikely to treat you better. When you come home, wash with cool water, it will take with you negative information, which you "awarded" envious people.
Learn, however hard it may be, to rejoice over other people, to look for positive moments in your life because they, for sure, are, and in a fair amount, they need only be discerned.