People rarely want to get married. People want to marry more often. Of course, it's about women. It often happens that a man only invited a cup of coffee, and the woman has already mentally tried on a wedding dress and figured the names of future children. When relations begin to develop, it seems to her that the matter is for the wedding. And how! Why, then, he invited to a second date, gave flowers, showed his bachelor apartment, arranged a night of love, noticed that the woman forgot his lipstick from him, and said that she could pick it up next time? It seems that the man has serious intentions. But here is a month or two or three, and relations develop in almost the same scenario. A panic begins to creep up to a woman: is the man really attuned to relations as seriously as she imagined herself? How to recognize the man's serious intentions?
8 signs that a man is not serious about relationships
Symptom 1. His life is covered in mystery
A man who, for two or three months, carefully protects that part of his life that remains outside of your relationship, should alert. If he keeps silent or talks about his work, his parents, relatives, friends, and painfully worries about your questions about it, he most likely does not want to share his personal space with a woman who is not going to let in. A man may well like a joint pastime, sex, intimate conversations, culinary talents, but this does not mean his serious intentions.
Symptom 2. Does not introduce people from close associates
In relations with far-reaching plans, a man tries not to delay with "bride-showers". Introducing a woman in the circle of loved ones, he wants to show off his beloved, get approval from those who are not indifferent to him and demonstrate the seriousness of his intentions. If your man is not in a hurry to tell his family and friends about your presence in his life, and to your requests to meet his relatives answers evasively and feed promises, think about it. Perhaps he does it because he is ashamed of your relationship or he has a good reason not to advertise what you have in his life. In this case, he hardly has serious views on you.
Symptom 3. There is no persistence in the relationship
A man who does not like and does not intend to build a serious relationship, allows himself to forget to call, can not go on a date, or, not particularly justifying himself, neglect a meeting with you for a fun pastime with friends. Any worries that distract your chosen one from you will prove to be less important, but in a higher priority. Is it possible to hope for an early and strong alliance with those who use you as a transit haven or a "spare airfield"? If a man appears in your life only when he is comfortable, do not harbor illusions and do not waste time on him that can be dedicated to someone who really deserves it.
Symptom 4. Does not care or seek to help
The union of two loving people is based on mutual support, assistance, care. This is the basis for building a full-fledged family. If your beloved man is not interested in your everyday and everyday problems, disappears when you ask him to help and do not hurry to waste his time on eliminating your difficulties - a sign of indifference is evident. His logic is clear: why spend emotional, physical and material forces on a woman with whom "transit" or bed relations? If this also became obvious to you, tear this frivolous connection.
Symptom 5. Saves on a woman and does not help financially
Most men realize their importance and need through material assistance and participation in the life of a woman. Due to their capabilities, they take responsibility for the financial component of the relationship. If your man in a relationship took a position in which - "we first spend your money, and then every one of us", he never has money for gifts, and, in general, he likes to live at your expense, do not expect that this is temporary, and that when there are serious relationships, then he will become financially responsible. It will not. He will be with you as long as you have money, or until he finds one on which you can save more.
Symptom 6. Not interested in the opinion of a woman
All men see themselves as independent, not requiring instructions and instructions. Of course, it should be so, especially in purely male decisions. But even here men need support and unobtrusive, constructive advice, although the last word is always reserved. Household and family issues, matters and problems should be submitted for joint discussion, because relations are two lives in one. If the man with whom you are planning to create a family never asks for your opinion, ignores important decisions for your relationship or harshly suppresses any attempts to express your point of view, do not even think to associate life with it. He is completely indifferent to your opinion, and, therefore, you yourself do not represent for him a special value.
Symptom 7. It shows detachment and coldness in public
Men are so arranged by nature that they subconsciously consider a beloved woman to be a trophy in some sense. Here, they say, look, what a clever "hunter" I was, what valuable "catch" I caught in my networks. He will show every possible way his attention, interest and courtesy, especially in front of people whose opinion is important to him. If your companion in public places avoids taking you by the hand, courting or even communicating, you should think about what is justified ignoring it. Does he love you? Or loves, but not you, so afraid of exposure? Or maybe he is ashamed of you and of your relationship, that's why he is afraid that those around him will suspect his serious attitude towards you, which is not and can not be.
Symptom 8. Does not make plans for a joint future and does not talk about children
A serious man with serious intentions does not want to waste his time on a futile relationship. He wants to understand already at the initial stages of relations, that he meets exactly with that woman who has similar family values, has a desire to have children and a common future. A man will necessarily lead such conversations in order to find out for himself these important moments. If your choice is not something that does not raise this topic, but also in every possible way avoids your initiative to understand the prospects, you can be sure - he or you is not interested in it, or is not interested at all, because he has other plans for life.