Despite the active propaganda of feminism, many women still dream of a simple female happiness - a family. For some ladies, marriage becomes a real fix. It is especially hard to experience failure in your personal life when all your friends have already received a long-awaited offer and have played a wedding. In this situation, every woman asks herself: "Why am I still not married?". To answer this question, psychologists advise to analyze their own behavior.
How to increase the chances of getting married: practical advice
- Do not get hung up on the idea of getting married. This is the first thing to be learned by women who are eager to receive the cherished seal in their passport. Men intuitively feel this desire, and it repels them on a subconscious level. A woman who is intensely dreaming of marriage can not give the ease that is necessary at the initial stage of the relationship.
- Determine what qualities in a man for you are the most important. Women often fall into extremes: some want everything at once, others do not know what they need. In the first case, the screening of all potential candidates begins, as soon as the slightest discrepancy to the reference image appears. In the second, an active search begins by searching all possible options. None of these tactics will bring the desired result. Psychologists advise to highlight several of the most significant points, and look for a future husband in accordance with the priorities set.
- Let go of the past. The presence of negative experience in intimate relationships often prevents one from establishing a personal life. This is particularly true for women who have experienced a painful divorce. It is very difficult for them to start from scratch and learn how to trust men again because of fear of once again experiencing emotional suffering. But those who want to regain personal happiness, it is simply necessary to switch oneself from negative memories of the past to positive thoughts about a happy future.
- Do not be afraid of losing your independence. Some members of the fair sex see marriage as a restriction of freedom. Of course, the status of the wife assumes new responsibilities related to life, home affairs, the upbringing of children, etc. Cope with this fear is not easy, but possible. It is important to realize that a married woman does not lose herself as a person, and the idea that a good wife must necessarily be a housewife is only a stereotype imposed on society.
- Love yourself and not dissolve in a relationship. This advice is useful to the ladies, from which men leave with an excuse that they are not created for the family. In most cases this is nothing more than an excuse, because there was nothing more to think of. In fact, men just get bored. There may be many reasons for this, but one of the main psychologists calls the absence of healthy egoism in the fair sex. As practice shows, men do not appreciate women who act to the detriment of their own interests. Even if the marriage still takes place, both spouses will be unhappy, and the husband, most likely, in the short term will begin to stare at the more interesting to him girls.