The controversial view that starting a relationship, with an adult woman, young guys mostly often pursue selfish goals, does not always correspond to the truth. Often, such relationships are based on simple, unselfish feelings. And accordingly, in many cases, even the possibility of subsequent marriage is not excluded. Why not. A lady at an age with such a boyfriend feels herself much younger, because it is known that a woman parting with youth is heavier than men. So she wants to feel like that again, being next to the young elect. And the guy, accordingly, feels more confident because the life experience of the companion allows her to give him real feelings and care. What sometimes do not expect from their peers. The girl, who is half younger, after hearing the problem, simply refuses, and even laughs - the older one will understand the temporary failure, will always support. This also applies to guys who are tired of frequent nomadism "from one to another" and want a serious relationship. As for adult women, they most often lose hope in men of their age category and try to realize their relationship with younger guys. And the guys in them see not only the companion of life, but very often the second mother, who will always extend a helping hand. Therefore, we can safely say that most of this relationship refers to itself as a sign of "happy". And yet, what kind of guys are most often attracted to grown-up ladies? Firstly, these are young men who have noticeable problems in communicating with their peers, especially girls. They consider them boring and put themselves in their mental development, usually above the age of one. Thus, simply not finding a common language with them. Secondly, most often, these are guys who grew up without a mother (from an incomplete family). However, there may be a problem in the intimate life. Associated with the fact that with the subconscious search for a woman, in which, first of all, the guy will put his need for a mother - she simply can not perceive him as a sexual partner. The third reason is related to young men who are overly cared for by parents (especially younger sons). As for the latter, the fanatically guarded sons of their parents, at their psychological level, are afraid to lose custody in their later life. Therefore, they believe that a peer can not give them confidence and substitute their shoulder in a difficult moment. And, in their submission, they will be much more comfortable with someone who can replace parental care.
Only with a mature woman these guys feel completely safe from life's problems and troubles. This is one of the most vivid, vital indicators, when a guy wants to find a woman older than himself. That's how the adult aunts begin their joint life with the young guys.
An important point is that an adult woman, in the form of her life experience, has already told a lot, is characterized by an unconditional knowledge of life. Thus, opening up to his young elect, new horizons of knowledge of real relationships and sometimes even himself. In a word, he's just interested in her. He simply admires her advice, views, opinions. As for the intimate side of their relationship, then such a woman is again experienced, romantic, tender and inventive.
A woman of her age has the status of a person who has taken place, she is always self-confident and knows what she wants. She thinks not only about herself, but about her partner, as a rule, is temperamental, always responsible for her words and deeds. This is also an important factor of uneven-age relations. Here you can safely say that by entering into such relationships, the guy meets his psychological needs, feeling necessary and in demand. After all, a man at any age flattered when he needed and claimed his second half.
Often, these women were already married, where they thought they were not appreciated and respected enough. And with the head falling into the arms of a young guy, with whom everything will be different, is perceived as a gift of fate. After all, the young partner quite sincerely admires his mature companion, he is not spoiled by life, it is easy to surprise him, thereby making him pleased. Also it is easy to subordinate (in a good sense of the word) and he will not be offended at all. With him you can forget about his, grow up and with his head plunge into the routine of happiness.
It happens, also, that the young guy reminds the older woman of her first love, youth, college years. This young man creates for the woman the illusion of a return to adolescence. By the way, it is worth noting that this type of relationship is most often built by infantile women (although not everyone agrees that this term will be applied to the female sex), who at any age try to be young with their soul and inner world. They are able to understand the young guy and be with him always at the level and at the same time to patronize him, protect to support.
And as a conclusion, it is worth remembering that adult aunts always know what they want from life, have everyday experience, are less intolerant of everyday problems, have a certain material well-being. Are ready to give birth to children and do not want to run to discos. Here it is, magnetism, which prompts the guy to make his choice in favor of an elderly companion. And still, in one person the guy sees both mummy, and the mistress, and teachers. And marriages are so strong, if everyone folds up and suits everyone. It's a shame only that boys are not so serious in these relationships, like grown-up women.