When they change us - it's always bad, when we do it ourselves - it becomes a little entertainment. As a rule, betrayal often becomes the final point in the relationship, because this is the main reason for the breakdown of many couples, even after long years of happy family life. Very rarely after treason, you can restore the familiar relationship between the pair. Of course, the reasons for betrayal are always different, but today we are not talking about them, but about the twelve most common myths about treason.
Myth One: Most of the betrayals happen because of the lack of discontent with the partner
Representatives of the fair sex, who have been married for a long time, start romances on the side, arguing that this is by their marriage. Men, however, do not always put this argument in the role-play.
Most of the representatives of the stronger sex who are happy with marriage, and who are all right in bed, can not for ever be allowed to go to the left. Especially if they are confident that this is easy to get away with.
Myth number two: Women change much less than men
Earlier, maybe, that's exactly how it was, but today the scale of infidelity has completely leveled off. What was the reason? - you ask. The answer is simple: women began to change for the same reasons as their faithful ones. At-good reasons, as a rule, are a lot: the desire to diversify life, risk, etc. But there are special reasons. A novel on the side with a friend is regarded by a woman as a "reward" for an underrated spouse or, rather, that she associated life with a rude person who can not listen and constantly ignores her.
Myth Three: More often than not, betrayal implies sex
Many novels on the side are based on sex, tk. sex skem or other - a taboo, which is very attractive and tempting. But nevisirana it, sex is not always the cause of betrayal. The fact is that relations on the side are a means to acquire something new, which is not in marriage.
Myth Four: If you are changed - you do not like
So it may seem at first glance, but it does not always happen that way. However, this indicates that your partner does not have enough to you respect, regarding respect for the obligations given to each other. Or simply your value systems are different. Some of the people can very well distinguish between love and sex, so physical change does not affect their feelings in any way.
Myth Five: Sex sold - not treason, because he was already
After having sex with a former (oh), many are inclined to think that this is the only thing that should get them off their hands. They do not have a feeling that this was treason, that is, their feelings are different from those that happen after sex with a new man, who can think about the growth of sex into something more. But this is a very wrong belief.
However sad it may sound, sex with former people can lead to serious consequences. Perhaps your act will not have any intention and you will go to it to recall the past, but your former partner may wish to resume the lost one.
Myth Six: Mozhnovsegda to insure against treason
You can reduce the likelihood of chances of betrayal, but the guarantor will not give. It is just necessary to choose the right partner, rather than to hope for life-long principles and a system of values.
Myth number seven: If a person has changed someone before, he will do it with a new partner
This statement almost completely corresponds to reality. If a person cheated on someone with whom he had had a relationship before, and so nothing is unreasoned in his behavior, then there is a greater degree of probability that everything repeats itself.
Myth of the eighth: In betrayal, one must confess
You have a greater number of chances of saving relationships if you confess your treachery frankly, rather than your post-accidentally become a reality.
But the percentage of disclosure of this mystery is negligible - the main thing is to keep the mouth on the lock. By the way, remembering some psychologists, if your partner is not emotionally restrained, he should not say anything better.
Telling him about the treason, you completely erase his trust kvm, the restoration of which must take years and then, if it is possible. Yes, and in general, before confessing, it is better to lyrazobiritsya in yourself and put a point on infidelity?
Myth number nine: If nobody learns about obizme, then it is not considered treason
As a rule, in full measure it depends on your personality. If you are firmly convinced that there is nothing wrong with this, then it means to be tactful. Here only there is one problem: in the world there is a small number of people, that in fact they believe that there is nothing wrong with treason.
Myth number ten: There was no sex - there was no treason
Emotional betrayal is a deep interconnection between two people, which in turn is not even suspected that they have already crossed the line of what is permissible - from the platonic friendly relations of the pre-sentimental feelings. This is the worst kind of betrayal.
More than 80% of unfaithful people began the novels of simple friendly relations. Most often it could even be colleagues at work. On the basis of one sociological question, 62% of unfaithful men and 50% of unfaithful women confirmed that they had relations on the side with fellow servicemen.
Whatever the emotional betrayal: explicit or hidden, erotic or not - it is very dangerous and it can be quickly addicted. Plus, it easily has its own powerful justification.
You often pretend to be a lonely person, although you are not actually one of them, secretly communicate in social networks, share your private life with outsiders, and do everything to your partner, be sure that you are already ready for emotional change.
Myth eleventh: Fantasies about another person are not treason
As psychologists advise couples who have long been vboxed, to fight temptation, one must fantasize about some other person. And there is nothing shameful here, because the main thing is to remain faithful not only in the field, but also in the soul.
By the way, an imaginary fantasy is always much more colorful than the real physical treason. And besides, strong fantasies help you to effectively awaken your old feelings.
Myth twelfth: Treason "helps" save the marriage from collapse
For many years this fiction was perpetuated by those who are prone to kizmen. They use this statement as an excuse for their infidelity. In fact, it's all absurd. Just imagine that a married couple vodin wonderful moment will say: "This betrayal is the best that could only happen to us!" But the novel on the side bears all the violation of all vows and promises, as well as treason itself, as a constant manifestation and a complete deception of trust. An example of this can serve those couples who have experienced such a situation, but the feeling of guilt, resentment and sadness has never been able to leave them!