Psychological or sexual dissatisfaction in marriage can lead to infidelity. This can happen in every family, and this depends on the nature of the man and woman, their relationship and many other factors. However, all psychologists agree that women's infidelity is a special case. So, what is a woman's betrayal - a mistake or betrayal, and will be discussed below.
Some men silently reconcile themselves with the infidelity of their wives, while others treat it very painfully. In general, men rarely quietly observe how their beloved changes. Usually it touches and discourages, angers and annoys them. However, there are general laws of female infidelity. Sexologists believe that a woman (unlike, by the way, from a man) never changes for no reason, for no reason. Usually they are looking for in a new partner what a legitimate husband lacks.
Unlike men who usually focus on sexual relations, women seek, above all, romance, respect, admiration, which they have not heard from their husband for a long time. They want to reanimate the ability to love and feel desire. However, if they are not satisfied in marriage, the sexual side is also attractive to them.
Having established a relationship with a lover, some women become more attentive to their husbands, children, perform all household chores, are more organized in their work. The reason for this is the sense of guilt that they experience, which encourages them to somehow compensate their betrayal and correct their mistake. For other women, the love affair on the side is common. Such a woman is very difficult to expose, as she does everything carefully, thoughtfully and systematically. For them, treason is an exciting and extreme game, coupled with a risk and a storm of emotions. Such a woman is useless to shame and re-educate. Treason for her is a way of life, something taken for granted. By the way, for such a woman, such women are calm, they will never terrorize her husband and secretly rummage in his pockets. At the same time they can really love their husband, marriages with them sometimes last for many years.
There are women for whom relations on the side generally do not presume a bed. They like to flirt, for them an explosion of emotions is important, when from one glance the heart stops, when everything boils inside and you want to laugh, then cry. Sex as such is not interesting to them. As soon as it comes to intimacy - they break off the relationship. They do not consider their flirting a betrayal, a mistake or a betrayal. Although in fact, this is not a harmless entertainment. It can be dangerous, first of all, for the woman herself. Such relationships can be prolonged and enticed, turning the life of a lover of harmless flirting into a nightmare.
There are women who deceive their husband, using every opportunity. Most often these women suffer from an inferiority complex, a kind of mental illness. They start romances quickly and swiftly, but emotionally are not capable of continuing love. They do not feel in themselves normal maternal feelings, they are not even paying attention to their children. Marriage with such a woman is a disaster for a man, especially if the family has children. Some men suffer and suffer the betrayal of such women only for children, because they can not entrust them to such a frivolous mother. They can only sympathize. Fortunately, this type of women is rare, they are few and family they create infrequently.
Sometimes erratic sexual relations on the part of women are the result of a complex of guilt. If the girl's parents brought her up in austerity, if she was hammered into the idea that she should be chaste before marriage, but she lost her virginity before, now she feels guilty. This happens at a subconscious level, it is difficult for a woman to fight it. Such women can not and do not want to give up sex, they participate in constant adventures, as they try to punish themselves for the early loss of virginity and strengthen their opinion of themselves that they are immoral, dissolute and deserve only such a life.
Ordinary married women consider the conduct of a double life to be wrong, because the time lost on dating with a lover is stolen from her own children and her husband. Therefore, often a woman's infidelity brings problems in family relationships. In an effort to preserve her marriage, a married woman can not be continuously happy with her lover, because her house, children and her family responsibilities await her. In addition, she can not justify her frequent delay with such arguments, as a man usually does. Therefore, if she is too carried away by her lover, tired of rare meetings and fleeting sex, she can decide to divorce.
The fact that women usually cheat less than men is explained by the fact that they have less opportunities for deception. After all, it is usually on women's shoulders that work, family, children, friends and relatives lie. Often, her moral principles do not allow you to start flirting with the husband of your girlfriend or co-worker. But sometimes a married woman simply has no choice. And if someone shows interest to her - she responds to flirting and goes on betrayal.
Very often, deceived spouses, whether men or women, do not even admit that his second half can betray and change. When a wife meets her lover, for example, he believes that at this point his wife is at work, with a friend or with her parents, although in fact it is not. Basically, the original ideas of romance novels belong to men. A woman can show her interest, respond to his courtship, but the decisive role is still played by a man. That is why men more often deceive their wives than women - their husbands.
Men and women were previously placed in unequal positions. Thus, until now many women can not afford to get acquainted with a man, for example, in a public place, on the street or in a cafe. Most women are embarrassed to show their interest as a man even in the usual familiar company of friends. So, having created a family, a woman forgets about her attractiveness, her ability to love and be loved. Treason for such a woman is a vicious but necessary phenomenon as an air. So the woman reminds herself that she is still alive. Often, relations are perceived by her as a mistake or betrayal, she hides them, but, a little later, again plunged into a pool of forbidden passion.
Unfortunately, public opinion is more condescending to the infidelity of men than women. Changing man is called the beautiful word "kazanova". And as they call a woman changing? To continue it is not necessary. People have long formed the belief that a man can be changed, but a woman can not. It is believed that a smart, beautiful and economical woman husband will never change. But this is by no means the case! As, however, a wonderful, intelligent and caring husband can change his wife.
If you are going to start a long relationship with a man on the side, then know that they hide not only pleasant excitement in anticipation of the coming date, but also many negative aspects! You will need to lie and hide during these meetings, "cover up the traces", returning after meeting with your lover. You will have to look into your husband's eyes, talk to him, concealing excitement and a desire to confess and repent in everything. Are you sure that treason will not harm your relationship with your husband, that this will not affect your children when they begin to observe the scene of jealousy in the house and the clarification of the relationship that is taking place before their eyes? In betraying her husband, many women see only escape from a family routine, but then, seriously carried away, fall into a trap from which they can not get out.
If you intend to keep their marriage at least for children, it's worth considering whether they will be happy if another man appears in your life. Although treason and betrayal are now commonplace, they often bring more disappointment than satisfaction for a married woman. Everything can start well - courtship, attention from another person and an all-consuming passion. But then difficulties and suffering begin. Some married women still allow themselves to maintain long-term relationships on the side in secret from her husband. The negative aspect is not even that adultery inevitably makes you think about family relationships, but that over time this connection can depress the woman herself, bringing her suffering and pain. Not to mention the sense of guilt for his female betrayal, error and betrayal.