What a misfortune - the age crises
The word "crisis" came from the Greek "krineo", and literally means "the division of roads." In fact, this is the decisive moment for making a decision, a turning point in the life of a person, organization, segment, nature, or any other brainchild of the universe. In each specific case, the crisis proceeds in different ways, although all crises have one standard scheme. For a better understanding of the essence of crises in the mental development of man, they must be considered deductively, like Sherlock Holmes. That is, from the general to the private. Social psychologists divide these complexes of human suffering into two types: individual-personal and age. Every age crisis is both individual and personal, however, individual-personal can not be age-related. Age, in turn, are divided into children (here also includes adolescents) and adults. About children's crises are known by an order of magnitude more than about adults, for two reasons.
First, they need more study, systematization and overcoming. Agree that the child's chances to cope with the turning point independently and taxi in the right direction is an order of magnitude less than that of an adult with experience. The second reason: their study is given more easily than the analysis of adult crises, in which the bar of individual characteristics increases and "sincerity" of the answers is often "lame". The pre-crisis situation can develop for years, even decades. Maybe, of course, for months and weeks. But the conditions for its accumulation are always the same: we are persistently doing something "wrong" in life. We do not eat, we do not live with those, we work there. Moreover, deep down we can guess what we are doing wrong. But to curtail "where follows" whether laziness, whether it is a pity, since it threatens with certain losses, whether the direction of this "where" is unknown.
Esotericists and materialists explain the causes of crises in different ways, but the essence of this does not change. During some time wrong actions accumulate, and then for this we are "rewarded" under the full program. As a result, we are experiencing first an escalation of the situation, and then there comes an age crisis. As a result of psychological discomfort, the life situation changes. It is during the crisis period that the greatest number of divorces occur, major quarrels with close people, layoffs, a period of poor schooling and deviations in behavior. The age crisis is like an explosion of an atomic bomb. Everything seems to turn upside down. Our thoughts and our actions may later surprise us. How could I do this? Did I really think about this man? After the crisis, there are two possible ways:
"Death is a rebirth." At first I was rewarded, then I understood for what, I made conclusions, corrected mistakes, washed away all unnecessary, continued the renewed and positive existence - for some;
- "Black line". I got a strong "received", I did not learn anything and moved further in search of easy ways, from which very soon another collapse will again be brought down - for others.
Most often from our own and others' lips we hear about the "black band" in life. But according to the observation of psychologists, there are more "white bands" in our life! It's amazing, despite the general imperfection of the world, in most cases personal crises end in the first scenario. This is because the crisis is one of the elements of natural selection. Almost all of us are subconsciously tuned to its successful passage. The most likely positive end of the crisis is calm and subsequent life spurt. Often, after the age of crisis, a creative upsurge takes place. People decide to radically change their lives for the better. Try to make it in life, something important, significant.
But those who are depressed, who are too lazy to understand the causes of the age crisis and its consequences, will face an unenviable fate. The most likely consequences are stagnation, diseases (including mental ones), insoluble problems with friends, in the family, at work. If we approach the question figuratively, we either surfaced, pushing our feet from the bottom (like a frog in a notorious fairy tale) - or we drown.
Child age crises
With children's crises, the story is a bit different, but, in fact, it's the same thing. There is a transition to a new state of the body and psyche, unusual, in some places uninhabited, "unresolved" and therefore pressing. In the children's category, a number of major crises are observed, between which intermediate ones are possible. However, the probability and degree of their manifestation is purely individual and subjective.
A one-year crisis - at first glance, almost nonsense, but only at first glance. This is the elaboration of a relation to the world and a basic unconscious decision about whether to accept it or not. To love others, to despise, or to be afraid, is decided here and now.
The three-year crisis is a clearly negative behavior even with a general positive attitude. Awareness of the concept of "no", "impossible", the first experience of non-receipt of the desired.
The seven-year crisis is the crisis of parting with childhood. Socialization, the generalization of everything that can be generalized (and which is impossible), the choice at the fork between the inferiority complex and the feeling of one's own exclusivity. At this age, many of us first learn to tell lies.
Transitional age is usually observed at the age of 12 to 14 years. Although it can begin in 9 years, and finish at 21. Statistically, most adolescents "go" to another state from 11 to 17 years. The age of sexual self-identification and, as a result, increased aggressiveness, a hormonal outburst and sharp mood swings. The struggle for independence, the first swallows of subsequent mental problems. From 18 to 20 years, there is usually a final separation from childhood, the choice of profession, the beginning of a long and stubborn struggle for a place in the sun.
Midlife crises
The period from 20 to 27 years is fairly considered relatively cloudless. In other words, the upheavals occurring in this age group are of an individual character. Many people remember these years as the best in their lives. Some psychologists are of the opinion that the date of the notorious "middle age crisis" should be extracted from the average life expectancy divided in half, less the average life expectancy in retirement. In this regard, it was proposed to consider the crisis a 25-year-old age. However, the controversy of such a theory is obvious. In addition, the age of family creation and childbearing in recent decades has approached 35 years, prolonging our carefree youth.
The classical beginning of maturity is the age of 27-29 years, preceding the "crisis of the thirties" . At this time we compare dreams and reality, and sigh disappointed. The most optimistic radically change the type of activity and way of life. Women, up to 30 who built a career, suddenly devote themselves to the creation of a family and the birth of offspring. And mothers of families, on the contrary, begin to be engaged in career. Part of this is due to the myth firmly entangled in the consciousness of "giving birth to 30". Beginning with the 30-year-old, all subsequent crises in a person occur under the sign of revaluation of values and questioning everything previously achieved in life. It is during this period that thoughts arise: "I am already, and I am still" and "and this is all that I deserve?"
Over the 30-year crisis, the "middle-of-life crisis" follows, which can inflict very serious damage on the personal, career, and, most importantly, family status of a person. 40 - 45 years - the age of divorces and repeated marriages, "demons in the ribs" and half-mad, supposedly youthful gestures. It is the forty-year-old who most often turn to psychoanalysts. And in case of a negative exit from the crisis, they most often enter into all sorts of sects. The stage of the "middle of life" often appears in front of us with a crooked mirror, in which our mistakes are reflected exaggerated, and achievements are not visible at all.
Crises of the elderly
Approximately from 55 to 75 years a person goes through a "crisis of aging" , the concept of which, perhaps, is most vague. This period has several stages, the exact number and duration depends on the health status achieved in the labor and social spheres. And also from the intellectual and spiritual level of a person. At this age, you can both begin to fight the thoughts of death, and reconcile with them and worthily go to the end. How to turn your lifestyle into a reclusive, and create a club of older lovers of parachuting. Many are afraid that they will "survive" to retirement and begin to work better than young people. Some, by the way, get married. One of the stages of the aging crisis is the "knotty period" (70 to 80 years), when a person collects, as if in a bundle, everything achieved, received, lost and occurred. He is already "here", and "there," and spiritually at times much freer than some 25-year-olds. Seldom does anyone manage to live to be 100 years old. Those who survive to the round anniversary face a "futurological crisis" , realizing that they will soon leave, and remain due to science. Among the centennial, no matter how wildly it sounds, successful suicide attempts are very likely. However, "enlightenment" at this age is quite real. Old men are not for nothing at all times and in all cultures considered wise.
It is impossible to insure against age crises in the mental development of a person. However, it should be remembered that the crisis, like everything in this life, has its end. And how it will be depends only on you. It can cause both endless depressions and an amazing new stage in life.