Pikapery, that is, men who have established relationships with women for the purpose of quick seduction, have always been. Previously, they were called "dishonest tempters" and killed in duels. Today, the pickup has turned into a whole business industry, on this subject written a lot of books and movies. Seminars and trainings are held, where young people are taught how easy it is to get acquainted and quickly seduce a girl. Guys lay out money to get training and become real macho, at the sight of which the individuals of the opposite sex gasp and stack up ... to him in bed.
Even if you are a completely emancipated modern girl, not an opponent of sex for one night, a relationship without obligations, etc., you are surely against the details of your first and last sex in all juicy details discussed in thematic forums on pick-up. And your photos in the style of "nude" strolled along the Runet. Alas, for some, a macho pickup is not just a variety of sex in the sense of one-time partners, but a big sport with prizes, fans and newspaper publications.
And if you are determined to have a long and serious relationship, and do not intend to become another "star on the fuselage" of a new friend, take a closer look and soberly analyze how your fan behaves.
The basis of pick-up - enchanting acquaintance. An ordinary guy will approach a girl he likes and, blushing and stammering, asks "can I meet you?" Pikaper arranges from an acquaintance show and smashes you on the spot. For example, it will bang in front of you on your knees in a puddle and hand the flower. Or he will deliberately push you, and then drag you to the cafe to "make amends". No standard phrases, no usual compliments will not. Even if you repeatedly refused, he will still continue to joke and insist on continuing the relationship. In that case, or you liked him very much, or he's a pick-up artist.
Get accustomed to a new acquaintance: the pickups are fixated on their non-standardity and like to demonstrate their dignity. Pikaper-professional favorably differs from the average guys around. He is stylishly dressed, fashionably combed, not afraid of eye-catching accessories. And if he has an inflated torso and eight dices of the press, then, be sure, you will try to show it on the first evening.
Another "alarm bell", announcing that your fan pikaper - its economy. It's very simple: he has a lot of girls, at all it's wasting money. Psychologists say that if a man is seriously interested in a girl, he will "invest money in relationships." It's not about waiting for or demanding expensive gifts from a man. But if a young man gave you a chrysanthemum instead of a beautiful bouquet, he did not pay for you in a cafe, he invited himself to visit and came empty-handed, did not go home and did not give money for a taxi, this is a reason to think seriously. Or he is a pick-up, or pathological miser. Both that, and another - an option unworthy of you.
Since to the real feelings the pickup has nothing to do with, all the behavior of your boyfriend will be built on manipulativeness. He will try to turn your head and assure you of your irresistibility. A plump girl, he will say that she has a chic figure, the owner of a small breast will believe that "size does not matter," a silly girl will call charming and direct. But these words and deeds are just a way to "hook" and make him think about it all the time. What for? The next step of the manipulator is the condition: if I care about you, do what I want. That is, take sex with me, it does not matter that you are not yet ripe.
In general, since the purpose of a pick-up artist is one-time sex, you will be very inclined to incline towards him. To achieve his, he will use the full program to use psychological techniques, pressure on weak points and pain points. Remember that a normal man to coerce and customize his beloved girl will not.
So, how not to become another "tick in the list" of the pickup? Our main weapon is sober sanity and intuition. Each of us captures falsity with the sixth sense. This is not suspiciousness or paranoia. If you feel that your friend lies to you, does not negotiate, "breeds" - most likely, so it is. And you just have to go away beautifully, let don Juan search for another victim.