Do not make mistakes in the texts
This is extremely important at the very beginning of communication. You do not know a man, but do you want him to be a reasonable person in every sense? Then, too, take the trouble to not make grammatical errors in your messages. Remember, these stupid mistakes have absolutely nothing to do with fashionable online slang. You will not be able to hide your "RIGHT" for the understandable modern forum members "Predved." If a person is literate and educated, he will tear you apart. So it's better to drop your message in Word first and click on the spelling check.
Yes, you can, of course, not "bathe". But then do not be surprised that your new sobesednikokazhaetsya cynical hamovatoy "pig." A person standing will be pleased to communicate with a competent girl. True, the style of writing is still not appropriated, if it is not in sight. But at least banal errors in spelling can be avoided and it is necessary.
Do not hurry up the secret
In the network obschenisteitsya easier than face to face. Even with the web camera enabled, the inactivity is immediately lost. So in writing it's easy and easy to talk about, and answer any questions, and ask them yourself without limits. In this lies the beauty of such an unconstrained printed dialogue. But it's also dangerous. Do not rush with revelations on the first day of communication. Remember, the perspiration side of the monitor, still an ordinary person. You do not open up to the first-person, do not spread your secrets, problems and fears at once. Network communication conceals these conventions, it seems that the interlocutor is something ephemeral, since it is not visible and is not audible. But this feeling is wrong.
The same gesticulations and intimate revelations. Well, if the interlocutor turns out to be a harmless little boy-a "botanist" who simply frightens you and stops communicating. And it may be that on the other side of the monitor you will be awaited by the real trouble in the form of an elderly sweetheart. It will provoke revelations with one goal only: to precede in the future these virtual intimate games are completely real. And this does not always require your consent. A normal man with a real desire to build a serious relationship simply will not continue to communicate with you if you have the word "sex", "bed", "pose" and other liberties through your word.
Do not be smart, do not criticize
Do not try to seem too smart at the beginning of dating. For you, the main thing is not to scare off a good person. Suddenly, he decides that with him is trying to get acquainted with some lonely, stress-relieving Internet teacher. No, in principle there is nothing wrong with the teachers. Just men are not too lyubyatumnichayuschih (namely, clever - not smart!) Women with whom you need to choose words, to reconsider their views on life, change habits. In general, the man should direct you in conversation. If you are really clever, then you will give him this opportunity.
Be careful also with criticism. You do not know this man, his shortcomings of idols, his passions and attachments. Discussing delicate topics, like fashion, hobbies or his attitude to life, you can suddenly accidentally offend the interlocutor with your criticism. It is always necessary to begin to communicate more softly: to probe the soil neatly, without scattering cards, so to speak, on the table.
Watchful for his cues
On the basis of this council it is customary to build all dialogues. The interlocutor should see that you perceive him, that you are interested in him, and do not miss all the verbal flow past the ears (in this case - past the eyes). If he frankly answers your questions, then you do not play jokes all the time. If ostabeste unpleasant, then you can laugh a couple of times, but not all the time. Answers should be, otherwise it will be boring for a person to constantly see emoticons or something like "hee-hee" instead. This is not communication, but flooding, which is full of Internet forums, and for which nothing stands.
He also touches his personal affairs - be more attentive to them. For example, if yesterday he reported that he is running to the lecture in the evening, and in the morning you will ask: "What did you do yesterday, where was having fun?" - this can offend him. He will understand that his affairs are "on your side", that you do not even remember what he said about himself, that you are not interested in all this. Ilion will decide that you are checking him, they say, "pierce" or not? It is also possible to mogotobidet - because you have not even met. In general, more attentive to the small things of his life, if you want to continue communication and translate it into a serious channel.
Undeveloped with romance
If you get carried away, and out of you a verbal romantic replica bursts out of you with a single monologue, you know how to restrain yourself. A man can not stop you with the movement of his hands, they looked at something else. Even the most sensitive and romantic man - not a psychopathologist, not a vest for tears. You better listen to him. Let him reveal his secrets to himself, he will see in you a sensitive companion, who understands him better than everyone else.
It's all about the beginning of the relationship. When you already know each other better, then it will be possible to add romanticism, and criticism, and frank confessions. The main thing is to fix this unsteady contact. All the rest is better to find out about each other decent meetings. Of course, they can temporarily replace the fastest Internet, a web camera, a microphone with special headphones. You can arrange an audio conference, a joint review of films with subsequent discussion, share themed e-cards and own photos. But nothing will replace real obscheniya.Da and virtual registry office has not yet been invented.