Sometimes men disappear from the horizon, as if they did not want to be with us forever yesterday. And we remain to think, because of what it happened, perplexed looking after ... It is very possible that several typical female mistakes were made at the beginning of the relationship.
Mistake # 1. Competition with the chosen one .
Any man is convinced that he deserves to meet the best girl. The most beautiful, smart, economic, fashionable, sexy - this list can be continued for a long time. Of course, so it is, but with a small "but".
The chosen one should be better than the other girls, but she can not win in comparison with her man. So you do not need to boast of professional achievements, win it in bowling 6 times in a row, run faster, persist, what kind of valuable employee you are, etc. Do not appreciate it! It is better to tell him how to burn his victories and successes. Otherwise, a man might think that he does not look well against the background of you and you suppress him. Imagine that your leadership qualities you can realize in the family.
Mistake # 2. Everything is NOT decided.
You can decide for a long time where you want to spend a honeymoon, what a ring should be, what kind of relatives you will invite to the wedding. The only clause - dream only in your thoughts! This you can be sure that everything is long overdue, and the man needs to have a "spare option". This does not mean that they will use it. But the fact of having a waste way will warm the man's soul.
Do not use phrases such as "and here it will be wonderful to look at a baby crib." Are you ready to move your cosmetic products on the shelf by 15 cm to fit his cologne and razor there? Men do not like when someone wants to encroach on their personal territory, makes decisions for them.
Mistake # 3. The past is in the past.
Men do not like it when they are trying to compare with someone. Especially unpleasant, if you submit everything so that the previous boyfriend was much better than your current companion. Bite the tongue, if the beloved starts asking, who was before him. Do you think he wants to hear the truth? Never! He just needs your praise and proof that he is the best lover. For this reason, you can not compare his sexual "parameters" with those of yours.
Do not try to impress the man that his previous chosen ones were worse than you. It is unlikely that an attempt to rise up at someone else's expense will work. Skoreevsego, your chosen one will make a completely different conclusion that you think that he is a loser, a person who is not able to make the right choice.
Mistake # 4. Questions aside
"I look good?" It is clear that the girls are pleased to listen to his compliments again and again. The man will decide that: a) you have memory problems, b) you do not believe in his feelings, c) you have run out of topics for conversation. With such questions, it is possible to inculcate the mind of doubt. And really, - he thinks, - I really love her? The result of his thinking activity may be your break.
Mistake # 5. Sincerity first
Men do not like it when they are "shown" to others to praise. Does it feel comfortable to feel like an exhibit in a museum on which the sign "do not touch with a hand" hangs? A man by nature is a hunter, not a trophy.
Mistake # 6. Plans - no
"Today we go to the cinema, tomorrow for a picnic, and the day after tomorrow we'll visit you" - do you think he likes it when you manage his time, leaving no room for spontaneity? Not all men like to walk on the string, pretending to be a puppet.
Mistake # 7. Love the way he is
Do not try to disaccustom it from bad habits with the help of an orderly tone. Remaking a mature man is an ungrateful job. On it you can spend a lot of energy, and get a result of resentment and irritation.