You have been together for several years, passed the pastel-candy-bouquet period and came to everyday relationships, "bytovuha." And it does not matter whether you live in a civil marriage, in a legal family union or separately, this phenomenon can not be avoided.
What exactly is under this terrible word? Let's try to compare everyday household relations: she does the cleaning, washing the dishes, erasing his things and requires in return from him, too, some kind of duty or gently sells his services ("dear, I need a new fur coat / jacket / hat ..."). He, justifying himself by the fact that the donor's sutra is working and brings most of his income to the family, continues to spread his socks and not to lower the lid of the toilet bowl. There is a conflict.
Everyday life can also affect sexual life. If a guy with a girl does not know how to experiment in bed and every day has nihodnoobrazny, monotonous sex, one of the partners can get bored. In the best case, the evening will end with the phrase "let's just lie down next to", at worst, change.
The first sign that your relationship has moved to a "household" level - irritability in small things. For example, he is angry and yelling with good mate due to the fact that she spins for a long time at the mirror in front of the exit, although there is nowhere to hurry. Her zhuzhutko irritates his snoring at night or champ at the table. And they do not hide these grievances, but, on the contrary, show their opinion about each other in person.
One can sum up that bytovuha is a reluctance to think about someone other than yourself, a kind of selfishness in the relationship between a guy and a girl. If you are familiar with the situations described above - you need to act urgently!
How to avoid a sentence?
- Romantika. Remember yourself at the very beginning of the relationship. The timid young man does not know which side to get to the charming lady, tries to please her and please. So why not now to arrange a romantic dinner or not go to the movies for a good family comedy? Try to arrange a surprise for him: prepare his favorite dish, decorate the house with flowers and candles, dress a self-dressed dress and wait for your loved one from work. Worse certainly will not.
- Distribution of duties. If you already live together, everyone in the house should know clearly what he should do and on what day of the week. It is desirable that there should be equal rights and corresponded to physical opportunities. You can even compose and hang on the refrigerator, for example, who and when the dishes are washed.
- Give time to friends. Once a week you can arrange a rest from each other and go on a walk in the company of old friends. Let him drink beer with peasants on football, and you walk around the shops with your friends.
- Hobby's hobbies. If, of course, there is enough time for this, sign up for yoga, shaping, swimming. Variantsmass. The main thing - do not stand still, develop, move forward and do not get involved only in family life.
- Variety of sex. Experiment, do not be afraid to do what you've never tried. The bed is a theater for your two. Play with your favorite new roles. He will be pleasantly surprised.
Ways how to diversify already so bored relationships, a lot. The main thing is to not let go of your hands, do not despair, and improve yourself in different directions. Set yourself up positively and you'll see how everything around starts to change for the better. The main thing is to believe in yourself!