So, let's see what we attribute to the concept of exclusively platonic love. Only if you understand this, you can try to answer the question: can love be exclusively platonic? Platonic is love, which implies a sense of attachment, emotional dependence, support and mutual understanding. But, in this case, under this definition comes a feeling that is for each of us no less important than love is friendship. After all, you will agree, it is friendship that is the same love, but without sexual overtones. We also reach out to the person, we miss him, we want him to stay close to him as long as possible. We want to hug him and do not let him go for a long time. But these desires have a slightly different character. We are not attracted to man. We just want him to be around and nothing more. And in the case when we fall in love, besides our emotions, our animal instincts begin to manifest and the sexual desire awakens. Therefore, probably, we can not say that there is only platonic love. That is, in fact, it exists, but we call it friendship.
It is quite another thing when a person deliberately suppresses his desires and is limited to platonic love. Why do some people do this? The reasons can be many: young age, upbringing, religion and much more.
In this article, we'll talk about how to behave to girls if they want to have a platonic relationship with a young man and how to treat guys who do not want more than platonic love before you legalize the marriage. And in the end we will understand: is love platonic, or is it unnatural?
So, if you meet a young man, and he insists on more than kissing on the bench, how should you act in this case? First, think about how serious your relationship is and whether you are ready to take such a step. Of course, many girls try not to think about this, explaining this by saying that "everyone does that". In fact, such a herd reflex is not something respectful and correct. First of all, you yourself must understand what exactly you want and how you want to do. The decisions of your friends, friends and young people should not influence your decisions. Therefore, if you decided that your relationship should still be platonic, calmly and reasonably explain this to the guy. Of course, it can be difficult for men to restrain themselves, but if he likes, he can wait.
If a young man persistently insists on his own and threatens to part, then you should not stand for him. No self-respecting man will ever blackmail a woman. Remember that a loving person can always make concessions in such serious decisions and leave the choice for you. Therefore, in the case when a young man is too insistent and does not want to hear anything, the best solution is parting. If you go with him on occasion, it will be humiliating, and such relations, in most cases, will not last long anyway. Therefore, be sensible. Of course, situations are very diverse, but when a guy really loves, he will agree to give in to your principles. Naturally, not everyone can easily give platonic relations, but in this case, when they grow into full-fledged ones, they are already tested and the woman does not have a thought: he is with me only for sex, because she has long been convinced that this is not at all So.
Another issue that interests girls is the situation when a young person insists on platonic relationships. Of course, it is less popular than the previous one, but it also has a place to be. In this case, ladies can be sure that they are loved for real, and men are not controlled by sexual attraction. But, on the other hand, girls who are used to other relationships, it is also difficult to accept this behavior of a young man. In this case, the guy needs to talk and find out the reasons why he behaves in this way.
Perhaps he had an unpleasant experience in his youth. Then everything can be corrected, if you gradually bring it to the conclusion that nothing bad will happen, you love it, accept it as it is, you will never push it away and you will not dare. If the guy is definitely brought up or religious, then in this case you already come across principles that can very rarely be changed. Therefore, you just have to accept and accept the position of the young man. If you really love him, then you can agree with his worldview and wait as long as he needs. In the end, think about the fact that many people of the older generation took such behavior as a law and lived peacefully with it. And many marriages were much stronger than modern ones.
Naturally, each pair has its own story and one can not take anyone as a standard. But still remember that once you could just love the boy from the next door and not even think about more than sit on a bench nearby. So try to take the position of your young man and enjoy your platonic love, because she also has a lot of advantages.