Why do our kids show greed, and how can we influence them, so that the child grows up to be a kind and open person.
Greed is manifested in almost every child, we can see it when a kid does not want to share a chocolate with his sister or does not let the kids in the kindergarten play with their toys. This quality is not congenital, it manifests itself from time to time, in fact, the child is not inherent. As a rule, children are greedy in certain specific situations and for a special reason. We, adults, are, confuse greed and some other manifestations of childish nature.
Greed on occasion
Are you surprised that your open-minded and always kind kid who is ready to give the last candy and in the yard gives his girlfriend a practically new toy does not behave like a last greedy? It happens that children show greed for those people who are uncomfortable with them or who are not trusted with. It can be not only unfamiliar people. The child shared candy with everyone except grandpa? They did not get along at once, but there was still a chic possibility to show their character. In such a situation, it is very important to correctly respond.
Sometimes a kid shows greed when he is in a bad mood, and he is naughty, in this mood, any child will not share. With such manifestations of greed, it is not worthwhile to emphasize the understanding, the child himself after a while will understand that it is impossible to do so.
The desire to "sweeten the pill"
If parents pay little attention to the child, he is deprived of their love, he is often punished or violated the emotional connection between parents and the baby, he wants something that he lacks, replaced with something else. Some people are helped by sweets, and some give gifts. The child in material objects seeks solace and tries to compensate for the love that parents do not have.
In this case, do not interfere with the behavior of the crumbs. Rather, you need to think about how you behave, how you feel about your daughter or son. When you adjust your relationship, then from greed and the trace will get cold.
The child wants to be a leader
A crumb from a small age wants to be the first in everything, but still quite small, so he does not know how to behave correctly. In this case, he begins to emerge from the gray mass with what other kids do not have. He is proud of these subjects, and this increases his self-esteem. Moreover, the child attracts attention! After all, the greedy is always in the center, he is persuaded, asked to give a look or play some toy, he becomes envious and he is extolled on a pedestal, he feels himself a king in the truest sense of the word.
What to do in this case? Help the baby show his own qualities in a different way, let him show himself a leader, but with a good hand. Ask him to do tasks, which he will perfectly cope with, praise him for every job well done. Then he will quickly become generous and open.
Common jealousy
Sometimes the kid becomes greedy, when a family is born a little sister or brother. Moreover, attacks of greed do not begin immediately, but when the baby grows up and begins to manifest its character. Here it is best to take action not at the expense of greed, but at the expense of jealousy.
Market economy
Your child has always had a lot of moneyboxes, he likes to watch Disney cartoons and movies, where finances do not play such a role as our life, he likes to play Monopoly, and now, when he goes to school and started to get involved in economics ... If you look at the this is a single glance, it's not bad, but there are times when you will not be enraged. Imagine a situation, and this really happens: the father does not give his salary, then he asked his son for money. The younger generation is not something that did not like it, but he was fond, but after a while he took himself in hand and said: "Okay, but you will give away with interest". In fact, the situation is out of the ordinary, but the son still did not understand that his father was not that unpleasant, he was in shock. Begin to teach the crook to handle correctly with money right now. The main thing is not to allow market relations between the family and close people.
Wants to have a lot of
Many people get used to things more than others. They love, collect stamps, calendars, coins, collect something in general, while it is difficult to spend money, they seem to tear themselves from the heart and leave the "best of times", which usually never come. Often such people have pedantry.
However, not all children who are prone to collecting idolaters will grow up to be a greedy and aggressive person. Parents should understand that their child has a "broad-mouth," do not stress his stinginess and do not reproach. If you bring up the crumbs with the mind, then greed will turn into thrift through the years, and this is very good.
Learn to give
Invite all friends of your child to your home and arrange for them a day of presents and surprises. This does not require special costs. Use cakes, tea, juice, sweets, and some nice little souvenirs, which can be pencils, cute pens, toys of ikinder surprises, ordinary postcards, colored crayons and balloons. It is very important that the karapuz himself selects gifts and presents them.
Tips that can educate the greedy
- Recognize that the child has the right to the naibushki, which you buy and give to him. Every adult has things that he does not want to give to someone else, for example, money, a car, a laptop, a phone, and so on. Let your child have a toy calculator instead of a phone that has been broken for a long time, a machine whose wheel has fallen off, but this is his toy, he has the right to property. Think about how to make a mutually beneficial exchange. For example, in the courtyard offer a crumb: "Let's give Catekukolku, and while you play it with a train". On some children, this works best of all.
- Talk to your child more often so that he or she shares it, it helps. Tell him: "This candy is for you, and give this candy to Masha". So you will not sacrifice anything, but the kid will learn how to be generous, he not only fulfills your instructions, but also takes pleasure in fulfilling your task and bringing joy to Masha.
- Do not create situations in which the crest will have to "tear off" some things. For example, he has long begged for your computer, and you buy it not for your child, but for a gift to your godson. Do not be surprised that the child is offended with a displeased face. And this is ungainly and not greedy! If you can not afford to buy, what the child so desires, buy the godson what your child already has.
- Be an example for crumbs. If you constantly say to your daughter: "Sasha, let's eat carrots quickly, or the rabbit (brother, grandmother) will come and all will eat!", In which case you yourself develop a greed in the kid, because he does not want to eat carrots, but will eat everything so that no one else gets it. Conversely, inform the child that all people should share, then he will start to repeat for you.
- Psychologists say that when a second child appears in the family, the baby first shows jealousy, but then he simply has to share.
- Read to your children good tales that teach the right to perceive the world, be kind and generous.