Encouragement as motivation: praising the child correctly

To praise a child is certainly necessary - every modern parent knows this. But is every praise reasonable? Standard phrases using impersonal approval and excellent degrees can make a child think about whether the mother and father are telling the truth. Children subtly feel insincerity, inattention to their small, but such important accomplishments can hurt much deeper than criticism. The way out recommended by child psychologists is a method of "descriptive" praise. The essence is simple - it is necessary not just to express admiration, but also to explain to the child what caused it. For example, being touched by the drawing of a young artist, it is worth adding a few specifics about diligence, smooth lines and beautifully selected colors. A praise for the room can include gratitude for helping mom and compliment independence.

This technique of approval has many advantages: it is not based on comparisons, it avoids "excesses" and hypocrisy, enables the child to feel respect for his own efforts. But the main thing is that "descriptive" praise motivates the child to further accomplishments, providing him with the necessary moral support.