Up to the beginning of the 20th century, the best age of the girl to marry was 18 years old. A woman who did not marry before the age of 25 was considered an old maid, and it was extremely difficult for her to arrange her own personal life. Let's start with the fact that at that time the social life of the woman was limited to farming and raising children. To shine in a society, to look after children and the husband - such were the basic duties of the married woman of the past.
Modern women conduct an active social life, engage in business (often reaching a higher position than some men), go into politics. Today, no one is surprised that a large international corporation is headed by a woman. A so-active and saturated life is impossible without the existence of an appropriate education, which is difficult to obtain, being a wife and mother (perhaps in a nosyllabic way). In addition, the institution of marriage has undergone significant changes, and early marriage has been perceived a little differently, rather negative, than positively.
If earlier the marriage was considered the norm, now the causes of early marriages are carefully studied. It is believed that marriage at a young age is the main cause of divorce, say "the young do not know what they are doing," marry spontaneously and without thinking, and in a few years they can not understand why this person (or the elect) was elected.
The reasons for early marriages include the following manifestations, many of which become an important moment in making an erratic decision to marry.
Love, which overflows young girls, is a passing phenomenon. It is believed that a young girl can not experience a mature sense of love. What happens to her body, it is more likely to be attributed to hormonal changes, and the passion and desire to stay with your loved one all the time does not always mean to love, understand, forgive. When love becomes the cause of early marriage, young people often can not understand and accept the changes that occur when joint farming. In addition, they are faced with the solution of many problems and questions. To the additional turmoil can be added the lack of own earnings and the need to live together with parents.
Quite often, the cause of early marriage is the desire to legitimize the intimate relationships that arise between young people. At present, many people cease to be skeptical in this issue and do not see anything reprehensible in a civil marriage or in intimate meetings of young people. However, the percentage of parents who act categorically against such behavior of daughters is large enough. It is often the parents who are the culprits of the early marriages of daughters, trying to completely control them and patronize them, not realizing that in this way they leave no choice but to marry and make the relationship legal.
Pressure from parents, their excessive custody, inability to reckon with the opinion of an adult (adult daughter or son), can cause an acute desire to break out of bondage and leave the parents' home, by all means. Excessive reproach from the parents, their constant moralizing often pushes the girls to a nonsense. Such reasons for creating a family are not initially a good one, because the intentions to get married in this case are not serious.
One of the most common causes of early marriage is unplanned pregnancy. Even despite the widest range of contraceptives, young girls are extremely imprudent about starting the sexual life. In this case, the most important role is played by the position of the mother, who must select the right words to explain to the growing up daughter that certain changes in her body occur in connection with the entry into "childbearing" age. In no case should you be pressured by authority, as the loss of trust can lead to unpleasant consequences (it is not excluded that the mother accidentally finds out about the abortion that the daughter had to do).
Planning pregnancy is mandatory, since the first abortions are fraught not only with physical complications, but also with deep psychological trauma. If pregnancy becomes the reason for marriage, then it is difficult to say unequivocally how much such a marriage will be successful and lasting. When young people are heavily involved in the upbringing of the baby (believe me, this also happens), it is possible that early marriage will be successful. If the parents of the girl are more concerned about what people will say, not paying attention to the daughter's arguments, the family may not be strong.
Young girls often fall in love and believe that they love last forever. However, after experiencing the bitterness of parting, they can experience a long time, scrolling in their minds meetings, walks and first kisses. In such moments, there is a danger that the girl is ready to marry the first person to meet, just to forget the unhappy love. Similar marriages are most often doomed to failure, as the resentment passes with time, and the offender does not want to take revenge any more, and the stamp in the passport turns out to be necessary.
However, despite the disappointing statistics of divorces during early marriages, there are also such couples who are tying themselves in the bonds of Hymeny at a very young age, experiencing true love and realizing that marriage is a serious life step. In the case, when a girl does not feel restrained, she can get education in order to build a career and raise children in the future, early marriage can actually help to become more responsible sooner. But the number of such a marriage is very small.