Choice between husband and lover

The husband is a faithful and reliable person, whom the wife has known for a long time and knows what to expect from him. Lover, in turn, is always very attentive and incomparable in sex. Whom to choose? How to make a choice between husband and lover, so as not to be a loser?

Once passionate passion between husband and wife passes and rapid floods turn into a quiet harbor. The husband can go without hesitation to the shabby sports pants, and the wife walks calmly around the house with hair curlers and a cucumber-honey mask on her face. The former feelings turned into something new, the relationship became stable and cozy, and the narrowed-down became, although a good, long read book. at this moment life confronts her with another man and she falls in love.

Common sense and logic refuse to work. Heart is breaking. At first she is sure that she wants to be with one, and the next day she is irresistibly drawn to another. As an adolescent, an adult woman can kiss without hindrance in the street, and at night sheds tears of shame: what if her husband finds out? Can leave everything as is? Or is it better to throw romantic nonsense out of your head and save a family hearth? Rush into the pool with his head and be with his lover? Whichever decision is taken, responsibility for your decision will have to be taken.

Of course, the first thing to do is to understand yourself, in your feelings. It is necessary to determine what is missing in life, what you want to change. Psychologists have noticed that love is cooling down in about two years and people are beginning to yearn for the relationships and feelings that were at the very beginning. In the soul there is emptiness, and want to fill the void. Most likely, the girl initially had inflated demands on her husband, as a result, it seems to her that the man did not live up to his hopes. The reason, first of all, is to look in yourself, after all, most likely, the husband is not as bad as it seems.

After the answers to these questions are received, it is necessary to answer the main question - why did another man appear in life? The answer to this question may not be very pleasant, but it must necessarily be sincere, the only way to make a decision in this situation. Maybe the lover was able to fully awaken sexuality, maybe with him the girl can be natural: the one she really is. Maybe it's just a way to increase self-esteem or revenge for some "merit" of her husband? It is necessary to understand what exactly is lacking in the relationship with her husband and what is lacking in communicating with her lover.

It is worth noting that it is not worth sharing this problem with friends or relatives. It is not a fact that they will keep it a secret, they may well accidentally tell about the adventures of her husband. You need to listen to your heart, it will tell you how to make a choice between your lover and your spouse. Do not pay attention to the condemnation from the side, the material well-being of one of the men, etc. - The soul should choose. Alternatively, you can contact a specialist - a psychologist.

If the betrayal does not give rest, then it is better to confess to her husband. If he can, then he will forgive and then, undoubtedly, it is worth staying with him, as he loves, not looking at any circumstances.

Choose is worth it, with whom you feel sincere comfort, who can fully open and talk on any topic. This is very important in the relationship.

But in spite of everything, all the advice is a theory, in practice the choice is made by the girl - who is more expensive. After all, the husband is already so dear and learned, and the lover, though a passionate, attractive man, but still new. Before making a final decision, one should remember how good it was with her husband at the very beginning of the relationship.

No doubt, there were flowers, compliments, and drive. It is worth bearing in mind that with a lover, most likely, with time, feelings will also cool down. The husband does not hide his negative emotions, he says everything as is, and the lover tries to be better than he really is.

If the choice still fell on the lover, then this decision must necessarily be reported. Perhaps the lover himself is not ready for a serious relationship and is satisfied with the current situation. You should weigh everything, so as not to end up with a broken trough.