Many books are written about mistresses and wives. It is especially interesting and fun to read comments on this account on the forums. There you can immediately see where the mistress, and where the wife ... There are also the responses of those who simply sympathize with this or that woman. But most of all surprise, probably, the beliefs of some wives about mistresses. Sometimes it happens, you read and understand that women, as if unable to distinguish colors. Mistress - this is certainly a bitch and a bitch, well, wives are white swans. Bitch-lover drink blood and money from husbands ... There are also such mistresses, I will not argue. However, a lot of such women, who are not at all like bastards or predators, they just want ordinary women's happiness ... So now we will dispel myths ...
Myth number 1. "Onasama jumped on him ..."
Of course, in our time women become bolder and the initiative is thriving. However, men, as before, remain leaders, who also become initiators of romance novels. They try to compliment themselves, ask for a phone number, give gifts and flowers, invite them on a date, call, promise, persuade and admit ...
Many guys go for women like cats and persuade acquaintances not to tell that they are married, so as not to scare off the woman they liked. Then in the course are love notes and gifts. When the "zhenatiki" find out that you have a hobby, for example, you collect crystal seals, they are dragged whole packs of them from abroad when they go on a business trip ... Women win men, but not the other way around! Notice this, dear wife!
Myth number 2. "Une in my head only one thought - to destroy our family ..."
When lovers turn novels with married men, they do not always want to destroy the family and get hold of a man. This is the same as in youth, when people meet, but they do not talk about the wedding.
Many (but not all) mistresses say that they have been married for several years to married men, but they would never have married him. Because they understand: with the advent of marriage, the romance disappears and the festive meetings turn into a household nightmare. They are overtaken by problems one after another and a continuous longing. Therefore, the lovers do not always seek to marry, even if husbands agree to leave the family. It is much better to experience every meeting with trembling, flowers, gifts, a romantic dinner and passionate sex, and after the wedding life will turn into vobedennost.
Myth number 3. "On someone else's misfortune happiness can not be built…"
Mistresses do not agree with this judgment. They are convinced that such a wisdom was invented by the abandoned wife. Initially, the happiness of any mistress is someone's misfortune. However, remember yourself in your student years. Everyone was free, and no one was married. But remember how many hearts were broken ?! How many guys beat the girls and how many girls took guys away from others ?. However, no one was tormented by the thought that he had done something to someone badly, but on the contrary, constantly boasted that he managed to take the guy away from his rival. And now, when they marry a guy who was once taken away, they remembered that someone was hurt.
Myth number 4. "We were such a wonderful and beautiful pair. She destroyed everything ... "
How long ago it was. Why would a husband start a mistress if he loves and loves his wife, why is he a stranger to him, if he is ready to give his life for the sake of beloved ones, and thinks for days on what to give her and how to surprise her in the field? Mistresses can not destroy, that has long been destroyed. If the parasite in the wreckage of respect and tenderness, in the wreckage of a great mutual love, it is no wonder that a mistress
Myth number 5. "Why did she take my husband away, can not she find an idler? No, she needs a drive and her bitchiness as it is necessary to develop ... "
If in 30-40 years a man does not have a family, then you understand that this is not spontaneous. He is not able to care about anyone, either a drug addict, a parasite, an alcoholic, or a self-absorbed egoist, and so on.
So it turns out that men build a family, when the time comes, when you need to be married. They get married, so that people correctly understand them, so that they do not have idiotic views, they do not reproach that they have many complexes, they did not interfere with their advancement on the career ladder. Moreover, men bond themselves by marriage so that someone can take care of them - create coziness and comfort in the house, prepare a breakfast and lunch. Well, there are, of course, men who marry for great and pure love, here you can not argue.
Myth "№ 6. "There is nothing to look at someone else's ..."
How sad it would not sound sad, but after the wedding, women fold their hands, thinking that "deed done". They are convinced that from the moment of writing in the registry office, the husband is their property. They must know where, what, where, with whom, the husband is, what he is thinking about now, he dreams when he returns home. They feel that the husband is their thing, and mistresses are thieves who attack their relationship. However, a man is a person, but not a thing. Your husband has his own desires and feelings. And they have such desires when they want to do something that is not permissible.
Myth number 7. "A mistress is an immoral woman!"
Perhaps you need to read the works of Russian or Ukrainian writers who can clarify the mind. Not all mistresses are immoral and immoral. Many of them are very kind, not having a gram of bitchiness. Do not sweep all one size fits all. There are a lot of examples where girls are very educated, responsible and honest, they just do not have luck in their personal lives. But with the advent of a lover worse they do not become ... This is the life ...
Myth number 8. "She only needs money from him ..."
It's not worth thinking about ... It is much easier to earn decent money than to find a good man. A man who you can love for real. Women who are 30 and 30 often have a good job, they do not die starving, do not walk down the street in fishing nets or rags.
It should be noted that not all men are distinguished by their generosity towards their mistresses, as wives are used to think. Most of the money for anyone goes to a family for wives. And only rare gifts that do not affect the family budget, fall into mistresses ...
Of course, there are women who are looking for a man with money. But now it is not about them.
Myth number 9. "What example do they give to children?"
Children of a young age still can not learn about it. Well, adult children are no longer small, they will understand and understand everything ... Education is a process that is based not only on examples. Moreover, wives are certainly not perfect. It is unlikely that they can boast of the fact that they constantly give children only good examples.
Myth number 10. "She can not even imagine how ..."
Well, will the mistress present himself at the wife's place and what? Did you imagine yourself at the site of the goalkeeper of the team that lost in the world championships? Or that after pushing her daughter to the institute and giving a bribe to the right person, they deprived the student who was better prepared? Represented yourself at the place of competitors, which you beat and signed the contract first?
In life, it is necessary to constantly fight and in no case do not give up. We must fight for our own happiness, and in this fight everyone fights for himself. Do not think about morality! It is better to think about what you are doing wrong if the husband left you for another woman. Make conclusions, do not blame the opponent for everything that you have thought up, the witches of this are ordinary myths.
Myth number 11. Mistresses give all feelings and emotions to a man, but in the end they remain alone.
It's true. But only if they are proprietress. A girl who spends an affair with a married man, can build a relationship and a different life in parallel, no one can interfere with her in this. Moreover, when she finds her happiness, she can easily part with her lover, lovers of love do not owe anything to each other.