Problem one: psychological. After all, a child is not a doll, which can be played on the mezzanine. This little man is constantly, 24 hours a day requires care and attention to yourself. And in the family there is a tense situation: young parents, accustomed to live for themselves and for each other, with great difficulty are rebuilt to a new lifestyle. According to sociologists, modern families, as a rule, are not in a hurry to acquire posterity: first, home improvement, career, travel and only then - the birth of a baby. In addition, it often turns out that the views on the upbringing of the younger generation from their parents do not coincide diametrically. Therefore, even if the child is long-awaited, so are the divorces after the birth of a child.
Problem two: sexual relations. It's no secret that especially in the first months of life, the child needs constant attention, especially from the mother: it is constant feeding, including night feeding, and changing diapers, preparing baby food, and just socializing. A young father, even if he provides all possible assistance to his wife - washing, ironing, buying food, still does not change the way of life so drastically. And he often does not understand the nervous breakdowns, the fatigue of his wife and her reluctance to make love, as was customary before the arrival of a new member of the family.
Moreover, his previously so well-groomed and beautiful wife suddenly ceased to follow her, losing her attractiveness, and on her stomach and thighs there are "postnatal surpluses". And the man begins to "look at the side," it's not a secret that there are full of charming free women around without any problems. So betrayals after the birth of a baby - a fairly common phenomenon, which can also be a prerequisite for divorce.
Problem three: material. Well, if the income of her husband does not feel the emergence of a "family financial crisis", but, as a rule, in the average family this problem arises, alas! often enough. Not every family accepts the balance "plus children's expenses minus the income of wives" painlessly. Spouse reproaches the father of the family for failure, he is her - for uneconomical. As a result - dissatisfaction with each other and family life in general, quarrels and as a consequence - divorce.
So can you prevent a divorce after the birth of a child? The answer is unequivocal - it is possible and necessary! After all, a small man is so necessary and mom and dad. Here are some simple but effective tips.
Be tolerant to each other, do not start up on trifles. As soon as possible, enter the role of parents and enjoy it. Feel yourself thinking that in a year or two free time will be more, life will go down in the usual rut. Women can be advised to keep themselves in shape and remain seductive to the husband, men - to understand with understanding the fatigue of the wife and her busy child.
Do not give up sexual intimacy and try to diversify it, because in many women it's after the birth that sensuality wakes up. Share your household chores, if possible, in half. Do not refuse to communicate with friends (after all, after a month of age they can already be invited to themselves, observing the rules of hygiene). Joint evening walks with the baby are very close and tune in a romantic way. "How will he grow up, this little man?" "Well, of course, most, and we will be proud of him!" Smile, be parents - such happiness!