Almost all women want to become mothers. Rarely who prefer a family career. To tinker with a small child, take care of him, educate and teach - all this sooner or later interests many women. But alone to raise a child is quite difficult, and psychologists vied with one another about the fact that dad is very necessary for a child to be properly educated. But the question is: Do children need men's point of view? What do men think about this?
Children are little people. It's us, adults, only in our near past. Our children are our continuation on the planet. Does everyone need this continuation? For some, children are "flowers of life," and for some, "ungrateful creatures." In any case, do children, from the point of view of men, need a question that does not require an unambiguous answer.
And at this time, the number of people who knowingly deprive themselves of the happiness of motherhood and paternity is growing all over the world - these are the so-called childfree (free from children). In Russia, too, there is such a trend. Typically, this choice is made by educated people who have a stable income, which, it would seem, is worth starting and educating the successors of their business. Men and women who decide whether they need children, from the standpoint of the law so far no risk. But, for example, in Belarus they are already considering a law that would oblige men-childfree to pay taxes "on childlessness".
Why are healthy physically and morally, economically stable couples who do not want children? Do these people have no parental instinct? How can you not want to have children? For many it may be incomprehensible. But, if you think about it, every person has the right to live as he wants, not obeying the generally accepted rules.
According to psychologists, this behavior can be explained by psychological trauma in childhood. These people did not feel welcome and loved in their childhood or, even worse, they heard constant reproaches from their parents that because of them their parents did not have a personal life, a career, something else.
Another category is people who want to retain control over their lives. it is these people who wonder if they need children, because from the point of view of men and women, held in many ways, children are a threat to their stability. It is clear that they do not want to take responsibility for someone else. It's easier to live for oneself than to constantly take care of your offspring. And no one has the right to judge a person for his choice.
On the other hand, watching some children and their parents, involuntarily think, why do these people need children in general, if they do not like them? Why did I decide that they do not love their children? Because I think if you love a child, you will not raise your voice on the street, in transport, you will not humiliate a child with strangers. And how to treat this child at home, you can only guess.
Violence in the family has become routine, unfortunately. Children are punished for the slightest faults, for poor academic performance, for disobedience, for anything ... And when children grow up, it turns out that they do not justify the hopes of their parents, the means and forces invested in them, and so on. It is better not to have children, than to have children, and then reproach them for the rest of their life for what they are ...
Are we this or that life so cruel? No one argues, raising children is a difficult task, both morally and materially. Well, if you, adults, have a child, why do you allow yourself to be mocked? The little man gets used to this attitude, he does not know what happens differently, he loves his parents, no matter how they treat him. And, worst of all, they adopt their model of behavior - they will also treat their children in the same way.
It is in our power and in our interests to establish good relations with children from early childhood. A child is an equal member of the family and should be treated accordingly. It can not be considered his subordinate only because he is your son or daughter. Unfortunately, the lack of love and understanding in the family has become commonplace ...
Have people lost love? And what does it mean to love? To love is to treat with respect for a person, understand it and accept it with all its shortcomings.
- Maternal instinct is one of the most powerful instincts. The mother is ready to sacrifice her life for her child, let alone time, forces, means.
- Father's instinct is slightly less strong, but for many men over 40-45 years old he suddenly "wakes up," and they experience fantastic, hitherto unexplored feelings for their grandchildren or small children.
Why is it developed in some women and men, and others do not have a clue what it is? If you do not love your children, then the children will also treat you exactly when they grow up. It is important to be able to build a dialogue with your children, to achieve mutual understanding. Adult people with a certain life experience can grow friends from their children. On whom we still have to count, how not on our children? Who will help us if you need it? And will the children come to your aid if you do not have a relationship?
Do children from the point of view of men - a difficult question. But he is almost the same as for a woman who is socially active, successful, earns her work and makes a career. However, anyone, even a very successful person - is not so important, a man or a woman, sometimes it's enough to remind of children as one global project ... And do not be confused by some kind of "mechanization" or something like this. After all, the Soul will follow wherever Reason directs it, especially when it comes to a thinking and rational man.
It turns out that very often from the point of view of a man children are needed, but he remembers about this only when old age silvered whiskey, and already in the morning something is stabbing in the side, and in the evening cheeks the heart ... Help your man notice that there is not only the happiness of motherhood, but also paternity, and he will decide whether he needs children.