Surely you teach lessons with your child. The joint fulfillment of the homework ends in a spoiled mood and quarrels? For you to do homework - is it as painful as a child? Then it is worthwhile to learn some rules by which you will forget about what stress is while solving your homework.
Rule number 1. Find the reason
If the child does not want to learn the lessons, thinks out persistent excuses, all the time takes time to not learn, find out what's the reason. It is necessary to find out whether all the lessons are unpleasant to him or only some separate objects. If the child does not like doing, then proceed to the following rules. And if he does not like some specific subjects, then ask why. Indeed, there can be very many reasons for this: the child does not like the teacher, he does not understand this subject, studies on the subject cause him unpleasant memories or bad associations. If so, then read rule # 8.
Rule number 2. Give me a break
If you force the child to teach the lessons right after school, then stop doing it. Let him rest and switch from school problems, distract from them. Well, if as this break there will be lunch, a snack, a walk in the park or active games with friends.
If the student is still very small, then maybe he will need a little sleep. Everything depends also on the character, temperament, age and health of the child. You should make sure that the child sat down to learn lessons rested and with a fresh head.
Rule number 3. Create an intellectual
To learn lessons without stress, you need to create a ritual. For example, ask the child a certain time in which he should sit down to do homework, regardless of what he is doing (for example, every day at 4 pm). For each person the regime of the day is useful, and for the child especially. Thus, you can teach him and to the organization and concentration. It may even be necessary to set a time frame (however, you need to take into account the volume of preset lessons and the individual rhythm of the child) during which the schoolchild will learn homework, for example, half an hour of junior classes and two hours for the senior classes.
There are at least two reasons for this. First of all, when time runs out, he will be able to gather with strength and intelligence and to study productively. And if you add to the set time, the hours that the child spends in school, then you will notice that it turns out to be almost a full-time working day. For children this is a lot.
Rule # 4: Take breaks
To avoid stress during home activities, organize the baby for short breaks of 5-10 minutes each. After all, you yourself at work drink tea, smoke, talk, etc. So the child can relax a little, drink a cup, warm up or eat a slice of apple.
Especially it is very important for the crumbs, which are just beginning to draw each letter in the form, for a long time sitting in one position. And during break the eyes can rest.
Rule number 5. Just check or attend
To your child taught lessons without too much stress, be present at the lessons of the child (especially if it's first class). In this case, gradualness plays a special role.
If you have a very small schoolboy, then try to organize his work, help and make sure that he gradually learns everything, ane poking around with each letter for half an hour. Of course, you must be a child all the time while he teaches lessons. After that, your child will grow up and acquire skills of independent work, so you can agree with him that he himself performs understandable and easy tasks, and complex ones - together with you. Or, let him the child does the lessons himself, and then you check.
In the end, be sure to praise the student for what he learned and especially emphasize that he is already independent: "Practically all the lessons he did, what a fine fellow you have for me! Already quite grown up! "
Rule number 6. Do not teach the lessons for the child
You should never learn lessons instead of your child. In some cases, you may want to tell your child how to solve the problem or example correctly in order to save time. Er this is not true.
First of all, you give your child a bad example, after a while he can come to you and ask you to solve problems and examples for him. Then do not be surprised that such an idea occurred to him. Moreover, he will never become responsible and independent.
It is best to do something different: unobtrusively push, tell what direction to move; point out to him the correct motivation.
Rule number7. Learn more
For some time, observe how the child teaches the lessons, then you will be able to understand where he has difficulties or what subjects need to be given more attention. Maybe he hardly retells the text or makes constant grammatical errors, perhaps he is given bad examples.
Indicate for yourself what points you need to tighten and pay attention to the weekend. Without haste, calmly work with the child in addition and after a while you will notice positive results. Your baby will begin to solve a certain task more confidently.
Rule number 8. Soul talk
If your child does not like to learn lessons, then talk to him on this topic frankly. Try to remember your school years and tell your child about them. Devote him to the subtleties of your childhood, explain what lessons you liked, and what subjects you learned with difficulty. It is important that your child understands that not everything in this life is easy - you need to work hard.
If he does not like the teacher, then try to explain that the teacher is also a person, he has his own minuses and pluses, you need to prepare well for the subject and conduct well, then all problems will disappear. Maybe the teacher got very stiff and the child in his lesson is uncomfortable. It should be noted that if the case is particularly difficult, then go to school and talk with the teacher yourself.
If the child does not communicate with classmates, then try to find out the reason, invite someone to visit or arrange a children's holiday by the teacher of the school.
Rule number 9. Only in the most difficult cases hire a tutor
If you see that the child is behind the program and this is confirmed by the teacher himself, in this case you need to hire a tutor. If, of course, you yourself can not work out with a child and bring to him something that is not clear to him.
Do not overload the child with unnecessary classes, even if your family budget allows you to write it on ten different electives. He still can not understand all the information received. Much more important for the child is the restoration of strength and rest.
Rule number 10. Have patience
Be constructive and patient. After all, this is your child, it can not be that he does not get anything at all.
Through joint efforts with patience and your benevolence the child will gradually learn to do lessons without nerves and stress.