Desire for desire
Today, the most profitable way to sell a product is to tie to sex sex and desire, to impose stereotypes and images on the consumer, modeling the image of a person who wants, loves, wants and chooses only the very best. Sexual models, piquant photos and images, characters of your favorite TV shows and songs. It begins to show that they are all superheroes with "super libido". Images that nasokruzhayut bring us the idea of the desired style of behavior, and stereotypes and imposed needs make it so that we begin to doubt ourselves. In fact, sooner or later, we understand that we do not meet them. And that in fact, each of us is just a person, not a heroic series. Not the passionate macho from the book, not the fatal seducer of speech. And after all, one of the most common causes of the appearance of false sex disorders is finding the problem of "not wanting".
Today it seems to us that we should always wish. And if this "something" is absolutely beautiful, then all the more we should want this momentarily. And do not give up. A sex must be every day, well, or at least three times a week. And if suddenly we hear about it once a week or two, we begin to doubt ourselves, come up with problems. But the whole point is that when we want sex - then he is usinzhen. This is normal. Any measure of desire that makes us happy is the right measure. And if it suits our partner, if we are confident in ourselves, then no images and stereotypes can convince us otherwise.
Is not it?
Medical student syndrome
In the majority of people with an anxious personality or a tendency of the cyposochrism find their problems of visual information. And here all the truths boil down to the fact that if something is searched thoroughly, then it will be found. If suddenly we think "And if I have something wrong ...", sooner or later we will find the remote symptoms of the disease, because of which we experience. And get sick. Seriously, one should not underestimate the strength of the person's conviction and his suspiciousness. In the shadow of the mouse, if you want, you can see the whole tiger. Especially sex - a very delicate and exciting topic, for sure many people are not confident in themselves and their abilities. So they try to convince me ... that something is wrong with them.
Opinion Priorities
Even if in one day it seems to us that we still have a problem, why not immediately make sure of this from the partner? He also wants you to enjoy, be happy and confident in your health. After all, sex is a matter for two, which means that in all your experiences you need to be an extremely frank spartner. If something disturbs you, consult with him, share your thoughts and fears. In the event that your fears are not in vain, the support of a loving person, the ability to work together with errors, make difficult decisions, help a partner - are very important for each. There are many small problems of an intimate nature that a couple can solve themselves, without the help of a doctor. The main thing is understanding and patience, a desire to help a partner and solve the problem together.
The sexologist often advises pairs of techniques that require trust, joint work on mistakes, and rethinking communication. For example, such practice as "Strengthening sensuality". Work on mutual understanding, respect, care is available to every couple. In any case, the main mistake that an individual can make in this case is to keep everything in oneself and to experience problems alone. Early or late loved one will notice your anxiety, it is better to tell at once - it will be pleasant for him that you trust the closest feelings and feelings.
Is this normal? ..
Each of us from time to time takes the question: is this normal? Someone often worries about whether he or she is normal in sex, it is good to be deprived of what we desire. And, involuntarily, most of us in this attribute to ourselves some quirks. Someone is scared not like everyone else, lose control, be deviant or just know that you have some "deviations", while others are flattered to be different, like everything, interesting, not ordinary.
Often this question we ask ourselves already when we have permanent relationships. We are frightened of that, but suddenly the partner finds nasenormalnym, he does not like our ideas or desires and we do not get together in them? Fear of being rejected rejects us more and more from our loved one and ourselves. We lose confidence in ourselves and our actions, become unsound and anxious. Do we need this?
Some couples come in completely different. The main thing, think it, is to establish contact. Even if you are in some way abnormal, you like non-ordinary things and non-standard in sex, even if you have "deviations" from the general mercantile community ... it's all nothing if everyone likes it. The main thing is that this is a pleasure and does not harm relations. If you have children with a penguin in the lead role, and from some things common for most people, you feel sick ... what difference does it satisfy you? The way you like it, only you two know.
I invented a new disorder of my psyche
Even if you understand that there is nothing serious about your fears, you still need to understand why you began to worry and experience it. What made you feel uncomfortable? Ask yourself: what made you think about it? When did it start? Perhaps you will find a link between your anxiety and the events that could lead to them. False-sexual disorders are a trifle compared to serious problems, but they can not be ignored, because they still cause discomfort and anxiety. Therefore, even if the problem does not have a serious scientific foundation, it is even necessary to restore its small sparks. Because self-doubt, anxiety and discomfort often lead to serious problems, like small sparks lead up to a big fire. Do not create unnecessary problems, respect your individuality and love your body.