Aggression in preschool children

Children's aggression is relevant to the present. Despite the fact that many causes and types of aggressive actions are revealed by psychologists and educators, the level of cruelty of preschool children does not decrease, which is the main reason for family upbringing.

Since birth, the child is mastering the world around him and is trying to communicate with the society from the first month, when he meets his mother with a happy smile. In connection with the lack of verbal speech, the child learns by gestures and signs to tell a loved one about his state of health.

Smiling, walking, cooing, quiet movements with a pen testify to the good mood of the baby. While screaming, sharp movements of hands and feet, hysterical weeping, whining, and later pulling by the hair, scratching, tweaking talk about the discomfort or pain of the child.

The reaction of parents to this behavior of the child is twofold:

1. instant fulfillment of the desired.
2. ignoring.

And that and the other action is wrong, because the first leads to spoiling, the second strengthens aggression, fear and indifference to people. A small child learns to understand an adult, so he remembers the parents' reaction to those or other actions.

Parents in case of aggressive actions of the baby should do the following:

1. understand the cause of screaming and crying.
2. instantly eliminate the cause in the event of a child's pain or illness.
3. in case of vagaries, to shift the child's attention to other things.
4. in a quiet state to explain to the kid in a playful form or according to books immorality of aggressive behavior.

With the growing of the baby, it is necessary to constantly explain the rules and norms of morality and moral education. For example, mother's cry, shouting or wailing at the twitching of a six-month-old baby will only strengthen the actions of the child, who takes everything for the game.

For any destructive action of the child, one should react calmly, without violent emotions, talk about feelings of the victim and teach correct behavior. In this case, tell me that it hurts my mother, when she is beaten by her hair, that she needs to regret mummy, stroking the head and emphasizing that the parent's attention should be attracted in a different way.

It is necessary to teach the child constantly and unobtrusively to social norms, especially to explain the actions of other people who attracted the child's sight. Children's fights or adult drunkenness must be explained immediately with an accessible language, and not left without attention or for later.

Take care that the child does not take out his cruelty and aggression on animals, plants or inanimate objects. Constantly talk not only about the alleged feelings of pain of the victims, but be sure to give a model of exemplary behavior.

Since the establishment of verbal communication, you can find out the exact cause of the aggression of the baby and eliminate its appearance. It is especially important not to drive negative emotions, discomfort and tension to the unconscious level, so it is necessary to splash out the anger and fear.

For example, help a small child to release anger through physical exertion, a loud cry from the heart, the ripping of a newspaper. With the senior preschooler you can play the game "And you are so-and-so," when throwing a ball, calling each other with words of animals, plants, furniture, things first with a negative coloring, and then move on to emotional warm and affectionate words.

The main cause of aggression in children is the lack of parental love, attention, affection and inability to express one's thoughts, establish communication with others. Therefore, the child should be constantly praised and appreciated, even punishing for disobedience, it is necessary to focus on his dissatisfaction with his misconduct, and not the personality of the child. And also teach a preschooler to get acquainted, play and communicate with other children and adults.

Thus, the aggression of pre-school children is situational and not hostile, whereas the incorrect education of adults and their personal example can lead to the development of a conscious aggressive action.