Whatever the reason, pushing a woman to achieve career heights, her successes are no less significant than the successes of men. It is possible to give examples of women doctors, politicians, business people who have surpassed many in this struggle. But not always successes in career are equal to successes in family life.
The situation today
Today in the life of a modern woman, as a rule, there is a higher education, a family, a prestigious job. But climbing the career ladder for a woman is always harder. On her fragile shoulders double load - the provision of family life and work. But in both cases, for the Russian woman, the main thing is self-realization, personal growth and achievement of the goals set by it. However, it is worth acknowledging the fact that a working woman always fails something for her family. Of course, you can hire a nanny, a housekeeper, but this will not be the family life where the mother is raising the children, not someone who is an outsider. In addition, a woman meets a lot of obstacles at work, often she is not helped, but on the contrary, external data and excessive emotionality interfere. Men evaluate it as a "weak link", and it takes a lot of effort to prove otherwise.
Social roles and success of women
Of course, there are families where the established social roles of men and women have shifted somewhat. In this case, a woman can successfully surrender herself to a career, assigning household duties to her husband. Then its dominant role is taken for granted, and there are no conflicts either in the family or at work.
But in any case, a woman's success is always a test of the strength of family relationships. No wonder sociologists note that successful women are more among unmarried women. Not every man is able to tolerate alongside himself a successful business woman with a strong and strong character.
Unfortunately, the realities of modern life are such that often a woman is forced to work to ensure the comfortable existence of her family (only a small percentage of women choose a career solely for the purpose of self-fulfillment). In this case, the achievement of success in the profession is vital, but it also tears the woman from the family. And children do not always understand the act of their mother. And then, having reached certain heights, the woman begins to doubt whether her actions were so justified, as it seemed earlier?
Marriage and career
Some women stand between the choice of "family and career" for entirely different reasons. Marriage and the birth of children bring them first joy and some novelty in life. But then the monotony and the forced restriction of communication lead to the fact that household chores and everyday life turn into routine. And then the woman thinks that the solution to her problems is career growth. She finds a job or goes to school, continuing to fulfill family responsibilities. But then it does not stand the stress, study and work become the same routine as the family used to be. Successes in the career are not observed, the family disintegrates and the only thing to expect in this situation is depression and fatigue from life. It's good, if there is a clever and loving person next to you who can support and prompt the obvious solution of the problem in time: let the work be a kind of outlet, a way for self-realization, practically a hobby, taken to the professional level. Only then can you count on the joy of her and the mutual understanding in the family.
Myths of Family Life
No matter how women argue the opposite, you can not completely give yourself to work without harming the family. All this is a myth created by women who are afraid to admit that their plans to succeed at the same time on two fronts have collapsed. Inevitably one of the sides of life suffers, if the maximum of effort is applied in the other direction. Therefore, a modern woman needs to clearly prioritize - what is more important, a family or career. And in accordance with this find a certain "golden mean", when both family and work will be in joy. Some achieve first success in the professional sphere and only then create a family. Well, maybe this is a worthy way out.
But if it so happened that for different reasons you have to combine family and work, then try to follow a number of recommendations of psychologists.
First , and, perhaps, the main thing - never oppose the family work and vice versa. Let these two whales safely complement each other.
Second - leave working time for work, and free time - for the family. Spend together precious morning hours and weekends, evening time and vacation with the children. Their difficult problems must find your understanding, take the time to listen to your children. Let them listen to you and understand why you are forced to combine work and family.
Third - do not hesitate to shift part of household duties to your loved ones. Postpone cleaning and laundry for the time when the children are busy or sleeping or performing them with the children. It's better to be a bad mistress than a bad mom and wife. In extreme cases, you can hire an incoming housekeeper.
Reconsider the attitude towards your work, is it necessary to work full time? Perhaps it's better to just take a part-time job at home?
Immediately to change the protracted problems with the division of one's life into two fronts is not so easy, but it is possible. Much nicer, if such problems do not arise. If you are one of those happy women who do not refuse anything to their family and have achieved success in their careers - congratulations! You are one of the few. But if something does not work out for you - do not despair, remember that there is always a way out of every situation. You just have to smile and see the world from a different point of view.