He ... suddenly flew to you and took all the thoughts and plans for the day. You cooled to the surrounding guys, and they found themselves a new object for admiration. Because you've previously seen a potential lover in you, but now you've lost all your fuse. Either because of envy for your choice of their self-esteem - it still would be, he was chosen by the most popular girl! Yes, and you constantly blush, stuffing mysterious esemeski, and enthusiastically tell your friends that your darling is the very-very.
In order to keep amorous affairs in perspective, divide these two spheres of life. Use your relationship wisely. If girls from your company have problems with guys, advertise the novel as little as possible so as not to cause envy. If they are all with boys, arrange hen parties - and let the girls share enchanting details. Less talk about yourself - let them ask. Guys do not forget to prove that they are, in spite of everything, the coolest people for you. Often turn to them for help and remind them that you are still their defenseless friend.
For example, a newcomer comes to the group , who not only reads Camus in the original, but also dresses every day, as an appointment with the first lady. Or one of his own suddenly achieves recognition, triumphantly emerges from the shadows. If you are a true leader, then such competition should not scare you. Make friends with the new star. Analyze, than the new person has drawn attention of the company and whether he learns how to learn to be the leader in the companies? Knowledge?
Fashionable clothes? Great ideas for a party? Demonstrate the same thing, but better - because you like no one knows your friends. You have more information and stronger authority - use it! Invite the newcomer to organize an excursion to nature, invite her friends to stroll around the shops and flaunt knowledge about fashion trends. But! It does not have to look like you are feverishly trying to keep pop. If the company is temporarily blinded by the brilliance of the newcomer, go to the cinema with friends for a mug of knitting - let everyone see that you are in great demand and do not suffer from loneliness.
Friends of the rockers learned that under the pillow you shed tears over "Twilight" and listen to Sergei Lazarev? Or in the company of outlandish women of fashion you appeared with orange spots after the tanning and in the skirt of the transition? In any case, you have committed "terrible" stupidity, which the leader does not say goodbye. That's why we exist, to explain how to learn how to be a leader in companies.
The most important quality for the leader is to be able to laugh. Any misunderstanding can be playfully justified or turned into a joke. The leader always keeps the situation under control. If the joke has not helped and you are still looking askance, do not continue to justify yourself - this you will emphasize your guilt and admit to weakness. Yes, you left the house in an idiotic scarf. So what? You like that! You love such scarves, and you - strong and steep - really love romantic stories. Staying with your opinion, you will call respect. Of course, do not completely break your leadership image, as you want, - you need to respect the values of the team. Demonstrate that you are faithful to them like no other, you are in the fact that the company is interested. For example, invite everyone to a death metal concert or fashion a fashion show.
Your position - "I'm here the main, and your opinion does not bother anyone"? This is not enough for anyone. Show your friends how much you need them - not in the orderly tone of "do this!", But ask, ask for help, and then thank the heart. Gather all together and say thank you for loving you, even though sometimes you are unbearable. For this and you adore them and ready for them for everything. Prove it by deed - sitting on the couch and reveling in your own perfection, it's hard to become a subject of admiration.
... you spend your friendly evenings. Most likely, you won popularity only by external effect, and now, when the bright, but static image has become boring, the people wanted to find out what you can offer, apart from the flamboyant jokes or short designer skirts. The leader is expected to make decisions, organize collective rest and fulfill other "official" duties. Clowns and photomodels with the same jokes and snow-white smiles quickly get bored. If you do not want people to miss you:
Stick to your own style, but constantly develop it. If you like to change - do not go for two days in a row in the same clothes, if you are a sports guru, expand the workouts with sequins and flowers, if the girls are delighted with your jewelry - give that you will never wear it again. Get yourself a crowning gesture and catchwords, but do not use them too often. Expand your horizons and tell. You should have a sea of stories from life (not necessarily your own - you can have the Simpsons or Chinese mandarins) and interesting facts. You should be able to shine in a conversation on any topic and find a common language with everyone - with a strange botanist who needs to be persuaded to do homework to the whole group, and with a pretentious undergraduate who bursts into rudeness. Be bolder.
Be immediate and do not be afraid to seem ridiculous, do something that does not fit the standards. Drop on your knees before the teacher, come to the university in a blouse with the label "By Masha" or "I'm a star!", Organize your own band (and it's okay that you can not play on tamas)? Easy! And let no one know that you've been training all this from books in front of a mirror or acting courses. Surround yourself with fans. Dumpty at the breaks with different boys, tell me where and with whom you will run after school, give the girlfriends cupid advice with an experienced look. But do not expose yourself as a sex bomb, in which everyone is in love, it will cause only envy.
Become a specialist in the organization of cultural leisure. Let the legends go about you: "Do you remember how she decided to make a film about us all? And the time when we were stuck in the elevator, how fun it was! And about the concert of this amazing band she told us and reduced to short films! "At best, you have to turn yourself into a walking entertainment center with a bunch of options.
Keep company together. Create cute traditions (for example, celebrate birthdays and gather on old oak on Tuesdays), insignia (fenki, nicknames with meaning), mythology (make up your stories, jokes), etc.
Shine! The leader should , like sunlight, warm everyone and everyone with his presence. Participate in all the institute's activities, show initiative, communicate with all. Do as much as possible, glorify yourself with your deeds. The leader who stops is quickly bored - the company likes to be led confidently ahead.
And if you think about it
You began to forget about your leadership duties. The reason can be either - you fell in love, entered a university, got a job or got carried away by tourism. You have a hobby that takes all the time and energy. Or maybe you're just temporarily tired of being a lighter girl? Sometimes it's worth to leave the old one to climb a step higher. Think - do you need these people or only popularity? To recognize eternal friendship is necessary only for those whom you really love. If you do not want to lose popularity, make your new hobby a chip. Tell amazing stories about college, show exclusive pictures from rare countries. Let everyone see that the hobby is good for you - and even if you miss a couple of meetings and you can not congratulate someone with a birthday, it will be forgiven. If you have enough strength, you, of course, can arrange all your friends leisure so that they do not miss you. You need to be equal to you ("oh, she's so cool, successful, I also want so!"), But did not envy ("Well, I found a job, I was conceited and completely forgot about us").
It seems that behind the noise of applause you did not hear the sound of your royal throne. Too carried away with fame (or even became a selfish pride?) - it's no wonder that behind your back began to think about plans to overthrow the tyrant. Analyze what you have managed to do during the time of blinding power and popularity in the company and immediately begin to correct mistakes.