A woman is able from one fantastic night to grow a whole novel and cherish the memory of him for many years. And it's good, if it's only memories: more often we begin to suffer, to inflate in our imagination the significance of what happened, to close from real relationships, transferring all energy to a possible call, meeting in a social network or a passing appointment after returning from the resort. Flirting on the side of a married woman is not a fairy tale in our time, but a byl. Sooner or later, having lost a lot of energy and real chances to create full-fledged relationships, the woman comes to the conclusion that she was deceived, not wanting to recognize the simple fact that she deceived herself. In most cases, a woman starts and experiences a romantic adventure not with a real person, but with her own, years of cherished and now, finally, given the chance to realize a dream. A man in these dreams takes the role of an extras, and, frankly, a dreamer usually has neither the time nor the desire to look at him better, at least try to figure out what kind of person is next to her. The usual syndrome of Tatiana Larina: "The soul was waiting for someone ... And waited." This is one of the main reasons that turn the continuation of flirting on the side of a married woman into disappointment. But there are others ...
Why are we drawn to the new one?
Why is the majority of specialists - from psychologists to astrologers - very skeptical about the idea of the "second series?".
The novelty factor, the new attracts
With this man, you have not yet experienced financial problems, quarrels and painful compromises. You have not yet managed to get used to it so that you know his features with closed eyes and the nature of snoring to understand how many cans of beer he drank the day before. It's all for you - discovery and revelation. Alas, according to the physiological program, the novelty exists for the brain for no more than forty days.
Hormonal splash
Having met a new sexual object, the body reacts in a certain way: it actively generates hormones, pheromones and various neural connections, which, first, make you attractive in the eyes of the object, and secondly, create an increased sensitivity to its charms. The duration of hormonal insanity is six weeks.
Front side
At the resort, we consciously go to live a better life for two weeks than we are able to do the rest 350 days a year. The resort is a chance for a man (and for a woman) to become what he wanted to be since adolescence - generous, witty, gallant, ardent, but in reality it does not work: difficult, expensive, and too many worries. It can not be said that this is a deliberate deception. You, too, freed from washing and ironing, having time for Balinese massage and horseback riding, not quite like at home. And this is not cheating ... Simply reality is better than usual.
To freedom!
A married man, resting without a wife, will try not only to make up for lost time, but to give the woman what is not (or can not) give to the lawful wife. However, in 99 cases out of a hundred, none of these husbands are thinking of anything more serious than a two-week respite in their marital debt. And yet, despite everything, you want the summer not to end - and, it seems, are ready to go to any inconvenience, just to keep a number of a person who, as you think, brought a holiday, sunshine, romance to your life. .. Well, try not to lose your head and soberly assess your chances. If you follow the logic, then, of course, you need to bet on a man, at least not remote from you territorially: you have to understand that living in one city and, better still, belonging to approximately one social layer, you both get a more realistic chance to create "something serious" than if your age, geographical and social factors intervene in your relations as obstacles. But the logic in these matters is not always the place. Then ask yourself, being a successful 40-year-old lady from a big city: are you ready to support and promote a 23-year-old irresistible plumber from a small central Russian town if he responds to the call of love and, leaving everything, rushes to you to the capital? And will he be able to adapt?
Remember that your attempts to "quit everything" are unlikely to stand the test of time. In Jordanian Petra, there is a story about an Australian tourist who fell so deeply in love with a Bedouin that she left her country and family and lived in a cave for several years. However, when, after a few years, she became saturated with a nomadic life and wanted to return with her child to a historical homeland, she had to go through many exciting adventures before everything ended well: in fact, according to Sharia law, the child belongs to the father's family ... Now in Petra (and not only) you can buy a book of reckless Australian Juliet "My life with Bedouins." It is highly recommended that you read it before you decide on some frenzy in the name of feelings. However, let's not forget about exceptions. For example, from an immutable rule that says that from holiday romances you never get anything good. If you think it's worth it, take the risk!
Ways to consolidate familiarity
To continue was successful, fruitful and generally as you want, you have to start taking care of it long before parting. Cook the soil! In order to "get a chance to meet us after the return?" To get full enthusiasm "yes!" Use the "anchor system". Every time a man is well with you - he feels confident, free, and happy - "fix" this feeling with a gentle touch to the same place (for example, to the elbow bend so that the "secret place" is always available to you). After 7-10 days, he will have a conditioned reflex - respond to a special touch with a mental lift. Then ask the question, without forgetting to accidentally put a hand on his elbow ... But do not forget that for 1-2 touches no "anchor" is established, "prepare the ground" should be from the date of acquaintance ...
Catch on vanity
A man wants to be admired. Well, listen, listen and admire - and, most likely, he himself will want to bring you back to his life. Remember the recipe of Lily Brik: "We must inspire the man that he is wonderful and even brilliant, but that others do not understand this ... Well, the rest will make good shoes and silk underwear."
Make an offer that he can not refuse
Have you managed to find out the range of his interests and find common ground? Gently transfer the conversation to a concert or match that you can visit after returning. The poster is easy to learn on the Internet, available in any resort.
Pull into sms flirt
In advance, awaken the interest of men to such a reliable means as SMS-communication. Accustomed to getting from you a short, romantic or funny sms, he will secretly wait for them and when your living side-by-side ends. Besides, this is an excellent occasion to exchange telephone numbers in advance ... He is an employee of the hotel where you spend your vacation. For employees of the tourism industry is characterized by a cynical attitude towards tourists. A novel that has become for you an event, for him - just entertainment among the gray hotel everyday. He is an aborigine in that southern country where you have come to rest. For Greeks, Turks and Egyptians, caring for fair-skinned tourists is a matter of honor. The unofficial code requires them to immediately offer their hand and heart, but do not take hot oaths seriously. Did you happen to discover that he deceived you? It was called Edward Ivanov, but you saw a ticket to the name of Robert Vasin? He said he was childless, and a picture of the twins fell out of the wallet? Even if the deception is innocent, it inevitably indicates that you are not communicating with a real person, but with a mask. He is too meticulous to find out where you live, how much you earn, how often you are at home, how much money you have taken ... Do not forget about the existence of scammers who use women's love for unseemly purposes. Do not open yourself to the person you know for three days. Attention to you, he begins to show only after a dose of alcohol, but on a sober head is kept detached. Do not convince yourself that this desire to save your reputation. Most likely, it's a complicated relationship with alcohol.
The phenomenon of resort romances is also explained by the topological aspect. The energy of the place, interacting with personal energy, influences our destiny. It happens that the place that you chose (and the choice was not accidental, even if it seems to you that you just grabbed a burning ticket), is more conducive to the manifestation of your irresistibility and is more favorable for novels than the place of residence. Alas, it happens that after leaving your "place of love", you lose some of the romantic energy. This is one of the explanations of the shortness of holiday romances. Although, there are times that we go to the sea, just to meet the love of all life. This feeling "comes" with us home and perfectly takes root on the habitual soil. In general, we can safely say that a person's horoscope changes significantly after the move, and these changes can be very different. A person can become more successful in business, love, relationships with people - in anything ... But maybe, on the contrary, become less fortunate. It all depends on the specific direction that you are going to go, as well as on the location of the planets in the horoscope of your birth. But with the help of astrology it is really possible to choose such a place on the planet, when you move to which you will be most fortunate in love. By the way, having taken care of the prospect of the resort novel and even its continuation, you can turn to horary astrology, because it is an astrology of fact. She talks about whether there will be some event (yes or no), and also can tell about the circumstances that accompany the incident. However, in case of choosing a place of travel, elective astrology can also help.