Love and Science
For many years, the world's scientists have been trying to figure out what causes women to fall in love with men and vice versa. There are few conclusions, they are short and we all know. Men by nature prefer to love with their eyes, and women - with their ears. It's not just words - it's really confirmed by science. Still, scientists say that we fall in love not under the influence of a fleeting impulse, but on necessity. We subconsciously find the person who will most contribute to the continuation of our kind. But recently new surprising facts were published. Scientists have proved that love really exists!
American psychologists as a result of research has been proven that our brain contains separate zones responsible for love experiences. And when a loved one thinks of us, sees us, communicates, these zones become very active. Moreover, these zones "clog" the work of other important zones. For example, the zone responsible for the critical comprehension of reality, social assessment and anger. Therefore, if your loved one walks with a constant smile on his face, then he does not go crazy, just really loves you. Only here for what?
Love and the subconscious
Nobody wants to believe that we are loved only because of the action of pheromones. But this is largely true. These are substances produced together with the release of sweat and at a subconscious level attracting a sexual partner. Pheromones act indiscriminately, we can not always explain the principle of their "work". That's why "good" girls sometimes choose "bad" guys, or outwardly unattractive fall in love with beauties, and at the same time their feelings are mutual. We often explain this attachment of people unlike each other in their own way: opposites attract. This is not entirely correct in fact, but the outcome is very similar to the truth. Two like-minded people can easily get bored together. On this ground, conflicts can often arise. And yet, if two people with a similar temperament, then it's not easy to live with them in the family. If both are passive, then there is no one to make decisions, things simply remain unresolved, problems accumulate like a snowball. If both partners are leaders, then the situation is also not easy. Everyone will strive for leadership, will not give way in resolving issues, will not tolerate disobedience.
Sometimes you can get rid of the questions, come up and ask your loved one directly why he loves you. But the answer is usually not enough for us. Most likely, the partner will begin to list certain external features or traits of character. For example, your boyfriend can say: "You are so beautiful, cheerful, not like everyone else, etc.". An older man, if something thinks to say, then something like: "You are caring, sexy, affectionate, original, etc.". Note that this will be an ordinary "standard" set of those qualities that attract men to women, and women to men.
Sometimes such an answer really will look more like a template one than a believable one. But after all, on a subconscious level, we are loved for a different reason. For example, a girl suddenly fell in love with a man twice her age. Why did it happen? He can be any ideal, but on the whole it was only because the girl grew up without a father and subconsciously sought out a man who can be her support, a defense that will bring her up because of her greater life experience. On the other, it may be that the girl's father was, but the relationship with him did not add up. This affects in the future the choice of a partner older than himself.
It happens that a person is initially inclined to suffer and cause pity to himself. He chooses a despotic partner who will constantly humiliate and suppress him. That is why certain types of women can tolerate beatings and treachery of a husband steadfastly, or a man can choose women of powerful and selfish, being subsequently "under their heels". At the same time, they all sincerely love each other.
Love and "auto-suggestion"
As a child, we all somehow figuratively represented our second half. Moreover, sometimes, closing our eyes, we have already clearly seen how they love us, how they look after us, see in detail their ideal wedding, we dream of the birth of children. It is believed that it is those women who have been able from childhood to make a clear model (necessarily positive) of their adult life, in the future it's this kind of life that they get. It is proved that love can be imagined. We so inspire ourselves with our future ideal feeling that it is literally drawn to us over the years. True, sometimes the details do not coincide, but the essence remains unchanged. Such women are always happy in marriage, in such families, partners love each other selflessly.
It happens and so, for example, when the girl all her life dreamed of meeting a rich man who, in a fit of love, would shower her with precious gifts, fashionable clothes, go with her on a round-the-world trip. Having matured, she meets such a person on the way. He is worthy, a businessman and not greedy at all. So, she will fall in love necessarily. It is already clear what will be the main advantage of a man for such a girl. However, you do not need to immediately condemn her for mercenary. As a man she will love him madly, for real. Because that is the power of her self-hypnosis. True, if not for his financial situation, he would simply not have come up to her "children's standard." Such a man would not become wise, gallant and attentive to her, because he would not have the original basic quality.
We often say: "Love is evil ...". However, love is not so irrational as it seems - people love each other for a reason. Everything can, if desired, find its explanation. True, why? It is better to love without looking back and with an open heart.