"Of course not!" - Wise women will answer you, who are easy and playful, even without being beauties, win the love and attention of men.
"Of course not!" - and psychologists, dealing with issues of gender difference ...
We, women, always know exactly what a man should be: strong, self-confident and independent. So, there's nothing to talk about, to invent compliments and praise at every turn. Here we are wrong ... Women armed with the postulate that the way to their heart lies solely "through the ears," that is, through a compliment, for some reason are sure that for men this form of attention is completely useless. In fact, 99 men out of 100, no matter how self-confident they may seem, at the subconscious level are simply hungry for our approval.
But, if for women a compliment is an extra reason to show off, to savor a couple of flattering words about yourself being loved, then for men this is an excuse for action. And here the compliment acquires a truly magical power. You do not need any love potions and charms: a timely and well-designed compliment is capable of making the last uvolnya the Terminator and the most inveterate Don Juan forever bind to only one skirt. And all because our strong men can not live without "feeding" our approval and admiration. Moreover, a compliment is not a lie. It's just a little exaggeration of virtues. Or a benevolent truth, told in time.
Competently say a compliment - a kind of science. Suppose your child can not solve a simple problem in physics in any way. How do you react? Surely it's like that: "Why are you so stupid, you can not do anything yourself!". And you can say differently: "Darling, you're so clever for me, this problem is just a trifle for you." Try again, you must succeed. " And in fact it turns out. The same with men. Or you say: "Well, you must, you guessed the floor in the kitchen to wash it" or "Well, what a good boy you have for me, I just thought, and you already did!" Do you feel the difference?
Of great importance is the tone that you utter a compliment. Tenderly childish lisping is much appreciated by men much less than, for example, an intimately lowered voice intended for him alone.
In no case is it inadmissible and the irony in which we women do not understand why we often vouch for the praise addressed to the beloved. "Darling, I did not suspect that you are so good at handling drills: the wall is whole and the hole is in place and the fingers are intact!". Would you personally like such a compliment? Agree that in this form it is already similar to something directly opposite.
Another common mistake: many ladies go overboard with compliments, lavishing them about and without. Probably, they are guided by one of two principles: either "you can not spoil the porridge with oil", or "the best ornament of a man is noodles on the ears". Both these postulates, maybe, are true each individually, but only it is not applicable to compliments. They should be spoken only for the cause. Otherwise, the beloved (if, of course, he is not a round fool) will soon cease to believe them and praise will lose his magical power.
To the compliment "worked" does not hurt to know the nature and habits of the person to whom it is intended. It is very important to determine for yourself, the evaluation of what qualities is most significant for this particular man. Maybe, to nail a nail - for him the usual and customary. But in landscape design, it is still not so strong, and the fact that you have noticed his success in this area is extremely important for him. But there are general patterns. For example, for any man, it is very important to evaluate his professional qualities. Or sexual (but of this, thank God, women themselves and guessed it!). And, say, the ability to cook well - no. So why praise for not scorched eggs, if you can find another compliment. For example, how clever he is, what kind of hands he has gold, etc.
Men usually say compliments to a woman about her beauty, her ability to cook, receive guests, breed flowers, that is, praise her for purely feminine qualities. So we, women, should remember: the compliments of a man should be done only by evaluating his purely masculine qualities. Those that are traditionally considered male. By the way, a compliment can be made without words, nonverbally. It is enough at the right time just to touch the hands of your loved one or look at him in a special way, to smile ... Well, this arsenal is better for women, is not it?
Do you want to check what your beloved has? Then make him a knowingly false compliment. The ironic man, who is all right with a sense of humor, probably answer the same coin. If he is quick-tempered, straightforward and perceives life in black and white, then for sure it will get angry that he is "mistaken for a fool." If your lover was sincerely happy with your compliment, then ... There are several conclusions, pick up yourself any of them.
But seriously: in life there are so many moments for which you can and should praise your loved one. And the main thing is that you do not need to invent anything, it is enough just to make it pleasant! ..