Therefore, the problem of parental love today is very relevant. More and more often there are terrible situations of killing your child, throwing him outside, etc. A difficult task is to study similar behavior, as well as the opposite, to find emotional and psychological factors that will lead us to the goal. But still we managed to derive certain principles, which are the formation of psychological components of parental love, as well as the factors that are needed to implement it.
What is parental love? Many psychologists and philosophers have tried for centuries to deduce a certain answer for this feeling, and each time it was different. This is a special, bright, high kind of love, which most people perceive as the highest gift and happiness, which can not be compared with the other kinds of love that were comprehended before. To be a parent is to be a happy person and be rewarded with this opportunity - to comprehend true happiness. Sukhomlinsky said that parental love is the ability to feel the finest spiritual needs of the child with the heart. And in fact, between loving people there is a special energy connection, intuition, the desire to be closer. But others in their terminology emphasize that one can not perceive parental love only as a feeling, because, in fact, love involves some actions, because if you only feel, but do nothing for the child, then this behavior will not be an effective proof of love , - many believe.
By bringing together different points of view, we can still deduce the factors from which parental love is composed. The psychological structure includes four components: emotional, as a set of experiences and feelings about the child, the dominant background and acceptance of the child, its evaluation, the interaction of the parent and the child. Psychophysiological factor implies the attraction of the parent to the child, the desire for spatial proximity to him, the sensuality of the parent, the desire to embrace him, touch, stay with him and not part. In the cognitive factor we refer to the understanding of parental love, intuition and all that subconscious that arises in the parent's relation to the child. And the last factor is behavioral, which indicates the effectiveness of parental love and expresses the relationship, the types of behavior of the parent towards the child, care for him.
Such a structure does not always function holistically, and this also depends on the age, individuality of one of the parents. Some factors from the psychological structure can dominate others.
An interesting fact is that parental love has gender differences, and maternal love is slightly different from paternal love. For the mother is characterized by the unconditional acceptance of the child, giving the child the opportunity to express his opinion, whereas the father in most cases renounces democracy and equality with the child. But it has long been proven that for a full-fledged psychological development of children, one and the other parent is needed, and it can not be said that mothers treat children better than fathers, or vice versa.
In order to fully experience parental love, and also that it is successfully formed, one must satisfy certain characteristics, such as the ability to love and accept oneself and others, the psychological and emotional maturity of the individual. There is much more demand for a "good parent" who wants to raise his child safely, to create the best conditions for him. Here, various skills and abilities are taken into account, the opportunity to provide the child with everything necessary for him. Although it has long been proven that it is parental love - this is the main factor that the child needs, as well as the necessary for its full development and psychological health.
Parental love can be specifically developed through the program through the formation of psychological components of parental love. Here the parent creates special external conditions that contribute to the formation of psychological subsystems in relation to the system of parental love. It also takes into account the development of such qualities in the parent. When forming this kind of love, the factor is also important, how the individual was treated as a child, whether his parents showed love. Often children tend to copy their parents' behavior, their values, gestures and facial expressions, including the notion of parental love and its manifestations. In any case, consider the need of your children to understand that you love them, that they feel it and always knew that you can be relied on, that you are their closest person, the most affectionate and loving. Then you will know mutually and their love, learning that this is another, undoubted happiness.